Choleric child: nature and recommendations for education

The attitude towards children and the peculiarities of their upbringing depend not only on age. It is extremely important to consider the specifics of the temperament of the child. Raise the children of "choleric" temperament is necessary according to special schemes.

Often there is an opinion that any children are easily excited, violently show emotions, continuously and actively. But even against the general background, a child choleric stands out strongly. His emotions beat over the edge. To cope with such a “living test”, you must thoroughly study the features of such a temperament.

The mood of such children changes unpredictably, one way or another. Moreover, all things go in cycles. Choleric people prefer games in which there are many participants. Communication for them is usually not a problem, and even desirable. But high contact already in kindergarten is overshadowed, depreciated by an increased tendency to resentment and conflict. Children observers immediately note that they:

• love pranks;
• constantly fussing;
• restless in their studies.

The child choleric is not only clearly visible, but also perfectly “heard”. He, regardless of gender, manifests:

• Voice volume
• speed of speech;
• active gesticulation.

Such a temperament leads to a rapid expenditure of mental energy. After all, the nervous system of children is unstable. Plunging into every business, every action without a trace, children spend almost all of their strength. But instability makes itself felt anyway: it is expressed in the absence of perseverance. The education of choleric people is a complicated matter, requiring attention and accuracy.

This temperament (and in adolescents, and partly even in the preschool age of 2 years) is expressed in leadership inclinations.Cholerices almost always, no matter in which company they appear, act as ringleaders. It is under their influence that others begin and leave the game. The attitude to games is not just serious: attempts to interrupt such entertainment are met with irritation. Of all the games, those where risk and physical activity are required are of absolute priority.

Once in the school, in the collective children of choleric are forced to inhibit their desires and motives. But outside the school or kindergarten (in the yard, on the street, and especially at home), self-control is weakening. Therefore, the educational process is further complicated, requires strong nerves and composure. To make sure that the child is precisely choleric, it is useful to consider all four temperaments using an example of a specific situation.

For example, it's time to leave the playground. Sanguine people will try to delay the departure to the last, they will feverishly engage in “additional construction”, digging holes, and slide down the hill. Melancholy people will be upset and express it emotionally. However, they will fulfill the request. Phlegmatic people will least of all cause problems for parents and educators - they will immediately leave all the games, no matter how passionate they are, and go where they are told.

Choleric in emotional stress will surpass all. They will not just fight, push, shout and cry, some are able to interfere with other children, breaking the “built” by them, get into a fight. In this place you need to retreat. It may seem that kids with choleric temperament are just lovers of aggression, completely uncontrollable personalities. In fact, they also have strengths:

• less prone to loneliness and self-digging;
• relatively rare bad mood;
• the ability to establish contacts and defend your "I", your opinion in communication with other people;
• easy adaptation to an unusual environment (not only for children but also for adults).

Bad traits that must be overcome by educators in the development of choleric personality are as follows:

• increased conflict;
• the tendency to participate in conflicts, to make enemies;
• unwillingness to sometimes complete the work begun;
• a sharp change in attitude towards individuals, objects and things.

Adolescents with choleric temperament have their own characteristics, a little different from other ages. You need to know them, if only because this group includes over 50% of boys and girls. Such minors are not just active, they are still physically strong and trained. Other distinguishing features are:

• enterprise;
• propensity for socially significant activities;
• the desire to overcome even serious difficulties;
• willingness and ability to take on the resolution of other people's difficulties;
• not too high academic performance;
• priority in school and striving for what is liked or taught personally by attractive teachers;
• ability to quickly respond to unusual situations;
• ability to easily remember information;
• focus on new and unusual things.

Despite the versatility of temperaments, there is still significant specificity depending on gender. If the son in the family belongs precisely to this group, he will inevitably be extremely restless. This problem must be overcome by introducing clear and consistent rules. For example, on weekends the whole family starts its day no earlier than a certain hour. Or, after finishing work, give adults 1 hour of rest.

Each rule must be observed very strictly and strictly. Here a lot depends on adults, on their sequence. If they decide, let's say that we need to adhere to a certain schedule, give priority to individual classes - we must deviate from this only under very compelling circumstances. It is advisable for children to immediately explain why they decided so.They should know that whims, tantrums, scandals and antics will not allow to achieve their goal.

It happens that some bad property of a choleric cannot be corrected or corrected. Many children cannot sleep alone for a very long day. Parents are extremely annoyed that they lose a lot of time on this. Another negative point is often excessive child talkativeness. In such cases, you first need to change the attitude to the problem, find advantages in it for yourself - and then try to introduce the situation into a certain framework. The time spent can be used on:

• thoughts about the past;
• planning further actions;
• listening to an audio book through headphones;
• other similar matters.

But the desire to dominate, in spite of everything, cannot be treated as complacently. It is very important to reverse this trend, otherwise the world will replenish with another family tyrant. But you need to focus, especially in adolescence, on caring for other family members. This property is already characteristic of adult choleric, but it is important to help its formation. It is necessary to ensure that the negative emotions received in the educational institution, at work and in public places do not splash out at home in the future.

As for the speed of reaction, the ability to make decisions very quickly is worth encouraging. However, making sure that the decisions made are not lightweight and emotional. If parents are able to suggest that all information should be taken into account, it will only get better. During education, attention should be paid to work with such a feature as sociability. The craving for communication, the emergence of new friends should be limited to the ability to understand people.

They have fewer similar problems than boys. But the main features of choleric temperament still appear. It is necessary to put up with the fact that the girl will have a strong character, a strong will, that serious ambitions will soon arise. Experienced educators take these circumstances into account and try to make the behavior softer, more flexible, and teach them to get around new angles. By the way, about training: choleric girls learn new skills without problems, they love to try something that was previously unfamiliar to them.

Because they are easy to "switch" from unwanted hobbies to those that parents consider the best for children. But attempts to overcome the lack of attention to fashion trends, unwillingness to wear jewelry and various accessories are unlikely to yield results. Such girls are somewhat masculine, and when raising, it must be borne in mind that they value comfort and the ability to act more. Mannerity, leisurely activity - this is not for them.

Properly educating choleric is not easy. You can cope with excess energy by redirecting it to useful areas. So, the girls will be calmer during classes:

• figure skating;
• speed skating;
• athletics;
• stage art.

The choleric boys calm down when practicing Greco-Roman wrestling, martial arts, football and basketball, swimming. But it is not necessary to concentrate on these sports - any active exercises are suitable. Additionally, it is worth reducing the number of irritants. If any object acts as an irritant, it is removed. If frequent conflicts arise with one of the other children, you should not invite them home.

But these techniques will give a positive result only if the active periods are periodically changed by elementary games with low mobility. It is desirable that such classes be of an intellectual nature and allow to be realized. Hobbies are selected individually, looking for not only what is convenient in the first place for themselves, but the optimal compromise solution.In any case, you need to strive to find at least some kind of hobby - this will allow you to streamline your life and increase organization. At the same time, we must try to convince the children of the need to complete everything that has been started, even if it is not like it anymore or a new hobby has appeared. This approach should be applied in everything:

• in communication;
• in training;
• in Game.

But in the control of actions, a compromise is unacceptable. Yes, it is difficult, and even meets resistance, however, otherwise children can do harm, cause pain. It’s better to exaggerate somewhat, but it’s hard to show how bad actions are unpleasant for a specific parent, teacher.

For all the severity and intensity of working with choleric patients, it is categorically impossible to raise your voice, let alone use physical force. These techniques will only aggravate the negative consequences, in addition, they can cause rejection. Often children out of a sense of contradiction begin to violate established rules even more. Others try to do this discreetly, disguised as parents and others. Gradually, this behavior becomes a habit, and if serious problems arise, you can learn about them too late.

It happens that persuasion and rational explanations, a gentle push in the right direction do not give a result. In order not to break, it is better to choose the tactics of silence and ignoring. Emphasized coldness on the part of parents is very quickly felt by children. It is imperative to educate choleric babies on the rules of courtesy in the most common situations. In each case, compliance with these rules must be praised, and for violation - censure.

It is very important to be able to empathize and listen to children. They should know that parents do not care what they do and even say. You should definitely show by your own example, by examples from your life, what is good and what is bad. But trying to remake a girl or boy is pointless. Many famous people who had choleric temperament achieved tremendous success.

With very strong emotionality, modeling and drawing, games and hobbies that develop perseverance help. Sessions should take a strictly defined time and be scheduled. Choleric children should be given clear responsibilities by instructing them in sequence. The specific purpose and steps should be specified.

Psychology experts advise involving choleric children in household chores with a clear goal. It is also advisable that the kids already understand the result, its significance. It is better to accustom to speaking the stages of work out loud and to clearly implement the plan. When walking through the woods, in nature, on hiking, choleric people need to pay increased attention. If they do something uncontrollably for even a short time, unpleasant incidents can occur. For the same reason, one must be very vigilant both at sea, and on the streets of a big city, and on a train. To reduce impulsiveness, to enhance attention, classes such as:

• handicrafts;
• embroidery;
• game in the constructor;
• mosaic assembly.

When participating in games, as well as during developmental classes, you need to extinguish irritation. Any case where choleric people try, show patience and hard work should be encouraged. Maximum attention should be paid to the ability to fully communicate and not push others away from you. Let the children learn to ponder their behavior, plan a conversation, recognize provocations, and circumvent them. Good model situations can be gleaned from literature, cinema, even folklore and mythology.

There are a few more nuances that will help establish contact with choleric children. Communicate with them should be clear, expressive. Quiet, illegible speech can cause irritation. Strongly avoiding rude, frankly insincere on-duty compliments. After visiting theaters, circuses, concert halls, museums, and so on, you need to find time on the same day for a confidential conversation with the child.

Let him understand that he is valued and his experiences, ratings are interesting for adults. When listening to what a child or teenager is saying, it’s important to consider that they are sincere ... but express a sharp, emotionally colored assessment. A little later, when passions subside, it will be possible to talk more thoroughly, more productively. It is worth remembering that after the end of the conflict, choleric people tend to consider disputes irrelevant, and soon claims will cause them only surprise, sometimes new irritation.

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