Phlegmatic: characteristic, pros and cons of temperament

Surely you noticed that some people are always in a good mood, while others lack the slightest reason for sadness; some have time for everything, while others cannot come anywhere without being late; someone grasps on the fly, and someone needs a long and tedious explanation. The reason for this is human temperament. Today we will talk about phlegmatic people, their characteristic features, features of relations with them and raising children of this type.

The definition of phlegmatic in psychology refers to very slow people, whose peculiarity is the equanimity that they maintain in any situation. In order to bring them out of balance, you need to really try, such people are extremely laconic and, as a rule, carefully hide their feelings and feelings.

Due to the fact that phlegmatic people have a slower response rate, for many these people seem lethargic, tired and even unwilling to fulfill the requests of friends and orders from their superiors. Sometimes one gets the feeling that these people are not able to feel neither fear, sadness, nor joy, nor delight. Actually, many believe that phlegmatic people do not experience any emotions at all, but this is far from the case. Under the mask of serenity hides a real hurricane of feelings and emotions, but these people will never betray themselves with a look or a word.

Phlegmatic calm, balanced and unshakable like a rockYou can wait for aggression from them only in the most extreme situations. These people are also distinguished by the solidity, balanced decisions.Phlegmatic people never base them on feelings and sensations; these people make a final verdict only by the result of careful thinking, many days of analysis and weighing all the pros and cons. This means that you will never hear from such a person the phrase “an inner voice told me ...”, they are extremely responsible and extremely focused.

Highlighting phlegmatic is quite simple. These are people stingy on the manifestations of emotions. They always express their joy or sadness extremely restrained, the biggest problem for them is a sharp change in activity or the transience of events taking place in their personal lives. For example, they can be upset if their favorite restaurant closes or an unwanted move to a new place of residence is ahead. The absence of any changes becomes the basic parameter of well-being and complete safety. If the circumstances around change too much and quickly, this can cause a nervous breakdown and neurosis, since the psyche of phlegmatic simply does not withstand acute internal experiences.

Phlegmatic people are introverts, that is, people who often resort to self-digging and introspection. Being alone, they get the opportunity to dream, reflect on their mistakes and make plans for the future.

As a rule, phlegmatic individuals have an adequate or even reduced self-esteem. These people do not have the habit of making higher demands on others, they are not characterized by manifestation of ambition, therefore they rarely reach heights in their careers, they have enough tits in their hands. Phlegmatic people avoid being in the spotlight, they are alien to the crowd, large audience or any public speaking.

In relations with family and friends, they are trying in every possible way to avoid aggravation of angles. At the time of quarrels, they are either silent or agree with their opponent, and often simply leave so as not to take part in the showdown.

The phlegmatic nature has both its advantages and disadvantages.

These people are distinguished by external firmness of character, absolute calm, strength and confidence. Usually, everyone around them is drawn to such personalities; they are attracted to the opportunity to find support and participation. Phlegmatic people are lovely and very charming people who charge their friends and relatives with their charisma.

The undoubted advantage of phlegmatic people is that it is almost impossible to unbalance them. In order for them to lose their temper, something extraordinary must happen, in which case he will express his dissatisfaction in a rather strict, very formidable voice, but succinctly. As a rule, such “remarks” make a crushing impression on the opponent.

Phlegmatic people are considered unique people who can easily get along with representatives of all other types of temperament. Such people accept others as they are, do not seek to bend them under themselves and remake. These are born diplomats who can always find a common language even with unfriendly personalities. They do not take disappointment, resentment and threat to heart, therefore they rarely experience an unpleasant feeling of bitterness if the desired does not work out.

Such people have absolutely no habit of using the people around them for personal gain, it is unusual for them to weave various intrigues behind their backs, such people keep secrets well and you can always trust them without fear of publicity.

Phlegmatic people always help if you ask them for help, but do everything in their power to ensure that the request is granted. At the same time, they are always responsible for their words, and if you thank them for their support, they will continue to try to help with even greater zeal.

Phlegmatic people have the peculiarity of making long decisions, but if they still intend to act, they will go all the way. If the situation begins to get out of control, they will activate all their internal forces and direct them to find a way out of this situation. Exceptional determination, full zeal and endless hard work are the main qualities of a phlegmatic person.

Do not assume that phlegmatic people are always “inside”, on the contrary, they are people with a well-developed sense of humor. At the same time, they do not stop joking non-stop, unlike sanguine people, but they can always defuse the situation with a witty joke in difficult times.

However, there are phlegmatic and disadvantages.

People of this type hardly adapt to various changes that can unsettle them for a long time, deprive them of a sense of security and security, and cause nostalgia. Phlegmatic people do not really like traveling and trips, as they are unable to quickly get used to new living conditions.

Outwardly, these people do not show any emotions, because many around them regard such an attitude as complete indifference. Such people are often accused of callousness and heartlessness. And since they are laconic, they do not seek to convince others of the opposite.

Sacrifice is a feature that quite often harms the phlegmatic himself, as he quickly depletes his nervous system. In any difficult situation, the phlegmatic tries to console the rest, literally radiating confidence and calmness, but in their souls a real storm is in full swing. Internal experiences do not receive external output and deplete the internal forces of the body. Thus, the phlegmatic directs all his negativity to himself, since acting out on other people is a taboo for them.

As a rule, phlegmatic people need a lot of time to assess their surroundings. Any change of circumstances can knock the ground out from under their feet, but after the whole environment has been thoroughly analyzed, phlegmatic people begin to take steps towards achieving their goals.

Due to their balance, such people are rather hardworking and persistent, they tend to remember a large amount of information and to analyze all the information they have well.

Phlegmatic people often act as vests. - constantly substitute the shoulder and are ready to provide any support. Their prudence and inner core allows them to reconsider the problem situation and propose another solution, more balanced and deliberate.

As for their own experiences, a person of this type will never share them with other people, even the closest. These people are real realists who do not build any illusions, live in the present, set clear goals and do not consider dreams to be necessary and useful for life.

It is impossible to determine what the phlegmatic thinks and feels, their face is devoid of any emotions and it is difficult to give a description of their feelings and thoughts. By the way, this sometimes infuriates more quick-tempered choleric and emotional sanguine people. Many take this external calm and low reaction rate for the fact that a person is simply inhibited, but in fact this is not so at all.

Phlegmatic people are rather reserved people, which is why it is quite difficult for them to make friends and build close relationships. They are rather reluctant to make contact and too long converge with others. But if this person still chose a friend, then such a relationship will be very strong, this is friendship, which is called "forever."It is safe to say that you cannot find a more faithful and reliable friend than a phlegmatic.

Phlegmatic people are considered very good family men, they rarely find their second half from among new friends. As a rule, this happens to be a person with whom they have long been familiar - perhaps they lived in the neighborhood or studied together. When they ripen before the marriage proposal, phlegmatic people think for quite some time. Although such retardation is likely to benefit them, since the spouse is a person with whom one will have to go hand in hand through life, and the decision on marriage should be as balanced and thought out as possible. The value of marriage ties for phlegmatic is very high.

As a rule, phlegmatic people enter into marital relations at middle age. Their family life goes smoothly - you will not get any scandals from breaking dishes. If the partner hurts them, they simply shut themselves up and stop communicating indefinitely.

Sanguine people are characterized as active, lively and agile people who quickly respond to the events around them and at the same time are relatively easy to experience the setbacks and troubles that happen to them. This type is completely opposite to the slow, fearful of changes phlegmatic person, which is characterized by self-digging and introspection, included whenever something happens in life that is not according to plan.

Choleric is perhaps the most emotional type, an extrovert. People of this temperament are impetuous, fast and at the same time completely unbalanced. Choleric people are characterized by mood swings, violent nervous reactions, emotional outbursts and a change in line of behavior. Unlike the phlegmatic people who can control themselves, the choleric will never begin to accumulate discontent - all that he wants to say to the opponent, he will not say, but will shout. This means that Italian passions with throwing objects and breaking dishes are about them.

But the melancholy psychologists describe as very vulnerable and sensitive people who deeply and long experience even the most minor failures - this is their main difference from phlegmatic people. But the absence of a strong external reaction, of course, combines these two temperaments. This is a mixed type between choleric and phlegmatic.

Phlegmatic children fully comply with the characteristic features of this type of temperament. From a very young age, such crumbs are characterized by extreme slowness, a love of order. At the same time, they are characterized by high performance and energy. Children of this type with great difficulty switch from one activity to another. They are hard on perceiving any changes, so a change of school and place of residence can cause them great stress.

Many people call phlegmatic children gold, it’s very easy to get along with them, the children are very obedient and inactive. At a very young age, they rarely cry and do not require increased parental attention. Such children speak slowly, pause between words. Kids do not immediately answer the questions and can literally sit for hours on a piece of paper, and often they need to be pushed in order for them to start doing something.

That is why psychologists give some important recommendations to parents of phlegmatic children.

Try to develop mobility in the child, but you need to do this gradually, without rushing. Give it to the sports section, but it is advisable that these are not team sports - let it go its own way. At the same time engage in its hardening, do not let him sleep too much.Such a baby should not be left alone for a long time, he needs to provide a frequent change of backgrounds and impressions - travel with him, visit exhibitions, museums, concerts, be sure to visit and invite friends to your house.

Try to develop the creative abilities of the crumbs, let him draw, play music, dance, sculpt, recite and express himself in every possible way. At the same time, do not set yourself the goal of making him a great artist or artist. Your task is to reduce the baby’s fear of the public, before communication and self-expression.

A separate role in the education of phlegmatic belongs to games. Perhaps you think that your child does not need anything and is not interested, but this is far from the case. Serious passions boil inside phlegmatic and you should teach your child how to deal with them. That is why the main role in your leisure should be played by role-playing games, while stimulating the child to independently invent a thematic line, be interested in who you intend to play with - a plush bunny or a kitten. Ask him to come up with a name for his hero, suggest that he himself compose the route of the toy’s movements and find a way out of the difficult situation in which the animal fell. The child should feel like a real master of the situation. Such games are necessary for the child, and from early childhood - only in this way he will gradually learn to react to certain situations and by 4-5 years old will be able to confidently keep himself in the circle of peers.

Pay special attention to outdoor games. For many mothers, it seems senseless to spend time in the sandbox, and this is natural, because the picture of a happy childhood for most of us is associated with active pastime, fun races with friends, toy battles, catch-ups and napkins. And still, do not try to break the child, you must help him adapt, arouse his interest in physical activity, but not force him. To get started, start with the most common games, like catch-ups. Let the baby catch up with you, and then you catch him, and be sure to let him catch you, and do your best so that the baby considers himself quick and dexterous. This gives the baby self-confidence and liberates him.

If a child is having fun rolling down the hill - be sure to loudly express the delight of his speed and dexterity, if he throws the ball into the goal - congratulate him on a successful goal. A child should love sports, only in this case physical activity will become part of his life in the future.

Work for people with a phlegmatic temperament is considered in terms of achieving various business goals. As a rule, at the start they give a slow reaction, but due to their penchant for analysis, endless zeal and exceptional hard work, they usually become ideal performers.

Despite a large number of positive characteristics, such people tend to underestimate their self-esteem, do not feel confident in their abilities, which does not allow them to build a good career and achieve some TOP positions in business.

Such a person always refuses public events, lectures, seminars, trainings, speeches and meetings with partners in public places. Phlegmatic people categorically do not accept work related to constant business trips and traveling, because in this case they will be forced to leave their home and spend at least minimal time where everything is alien and far away.

Phlegmatic people are extremely sensible in assessing their abilities and will never undertake the solution of those tasks that they cannot do.The option “the main thing is to get involved in the war - and we'll see” is not for them, therefore they prefer stable labor relations with a standard set of official duties.

Such bosses are very much appreciated among subordinates - inert and non-talkative, they will never report to their employee, especially in public. Usually, at first glance, employees are afraid of him, but over time they find weaknesses and begin to confidently manipulate such a boss.

The best areas of application of labor for phlegmatic people are considered professions from the following list:

• scientist and researcher;
• accountant or financial analyst;
• botanist;
• doctor.

Among the famous personalities in history there are quite a lot of phlegmatic people. So, the most famous Russian commander who defeated Napoleon's army, Mikhail Ivanovich Kutuzov, had a phlegmatic temperament. The company is made up of him by the outstanding fabulist Ivan Andreevich Krylov, as well as the first chancellor of Germany Adenauer, who glorified himself - he owes the merit of rebuilding Germany in the post-war years, when he literally lifted it from the ruins and led to stable economic and social growth. By the way, as the story goes, at the university he was not popular with students - he was considered a bore, so he spent all his time exclusively on study and science.

The creator of the hydrogen bomb, the famous Soviet scientist Andrei Sakharov, was also a phlegmatic person, and among his colleagues he was considered a real slow-witted person who was unable to quickly understand what was being told to him.

Oddly enough, in the world of sports there are also a lot of phlegmatic people. For example, the well-known football team coach Dick Advocaat belongs to this type, although even he sometimes allows himself to succumb to emotions on the field, but he communicates with the press only with restraint and laconicism.

Among the well-known phlegmatic women, one can also mention the Russian poetess Marina Tsvetaeva, as well as the singers Lolita Milyavskaya, Alla Pugacheva, Lyudmila Zykina and actresses Natalya Gundareva and Irina Muravyova.

And among men phlegmatic people include the famous politician Gennady Zyuganov and the philosopher of past years, Immanuel Kant.

About the nature of phlegmatic people, see the video below.