How to return a wife after a divorce?

Not all couples are able to maintain their union. Unfortunately, divorce is not currently a rare occurrence. There are situations when spouses come to a decision to break off relations mutually. In this case, it is easier for them to endure the divorce, to start a new life. But what about when the spouse was the initiator of the break, and the ex-husband did not lose feelings for her? The article will talk about what actions can be taken to try to return the wife after a divorce.

Further relationships of the former spouses largely depend on how the process of divorce occurred. An important role is played by the reasons that led to the termination of the union.

According to statistics, modern couples are most often divorced due to the following problems.

• Intervention in the marriage of friends or relatives of one of the spouses. Such a situation is far from uncommon. Most of all, parents often interfere in the life of a couple. Often, the husband’s mother may not like the chosen one of her son. Because of this, she does not seek to establish communication with her, but, on the contrary, provokes conflicts and sets up her son against her spouse. Also, the intrigues of friends can become the cause of divorce.
• Spouses may not agree on characters, interests and outlooks on life. Living with a person who practically does not support you in anything and constantly criticizes you is very difficult. Differences in hobbies deprive a couple of opportunities for joint leisure and interesting communication.
• A woman can leave her spouse, unable to withstand his behavior or bad habits. Joint life imposes a certain responsibility and distribution of responsibilities. If a man is not used to being careful, does not respond to his wife's requests for help around the house, he risks losing her.
• It is very difficult for women to come to terms with the betrayal of their spouse.Such an act causes great trauma and severely hurts her feelings.

• Pushing a wife to divorce is capable of feelings for another man. Flared love can seriously turn your head. In this exalted state, a person becomes impulsive, ready to go to desperate actions.
• Too early marriage, unwillingness to live together are the cause of about 30% of divorces in our country. Lack of life experience, youthful maximalism, inability to build relationships and make concessions quickly upset the relationship in pairs. Especially at risk in the first years of cohabitation are those spouses who did not have any experience of living together before marriage.
• Alcoholism, drug addiction and other dependence of the spouse makes life in the family painful. A person with such problems often behaves aggressively and even inappropriately. If a man is not ready to work on himself, then his wife can only observe the negative changes in his personality and undergo violations in his behavior.
• Excessive jealousy of the spouse turns married life into a "cage". Obsessed with the idea of ​​exposing his wife, the spouse constantly arranges humiliating interrogations, controls every step, is able to explode for the most contrived reason. The atmosphere in such a family becomes very tense. It’s hard for a woman to endure this day after day. Breaking up a relationship with a jealous person is the only way out.
• The reason for the divorce may be problems in the sexual life of the spouses. The situation is aggravated by the fact that not all couples can tactfully talk to each other about their intimate life.
• The precarious financial situation, lack of funds in the family makes a woman feel insecure. There are a lot of reasons why a man is not able to bring enough money to the couple’s budget. But in the end, it becomes very difficult for a woman in the role of the main nurse.
• Aggressive behavior and violence by the spouse humiliates the woman, injures the psyche, leaves a strong mental pain. Unfortunately, most people with this manner of behavior are practically not amenable to persuasion and requests. In moments of boiling emotions, they often do not control themselves. And as a result, despite the man’s pleas for forgiveness and the promise to change, in the heat of another conflict, the beatings are repeated again from time to time.

It is worth saying right away that, most likely, you will have to be patient. Very often, after a break, a woman does not even want to communicate with her ex-spouse. To make peace, it will be necessary to carefully analyze and work out your shortcomings and act tactfully, carefully and unobtrusively.

Well, the main condition, of course, will be your sincere desire to restore your ex-wife’s relationship.

• Do not rush things. Wait for the time during which the emotions, grievances and other negative feelings from a divorce settle down in both of you. What exactly is the time period should be decided according to the situation. Sometimes it takes 2-3 weeks, and sometimes it is advisable to wait a few months.
• Seriously work on yourself. It is unlikely that a woman who decides to break up will voluntarily return to your former state. Try to get rid of bad habits if they disturbed your sweetheart. Set yourself the goal of correcting negative manifestations of character. If necessary, consult a psychologist or psychotherapist and work with your psychological and personality problems with him.
• It will be quite difficult to return the relationship if the other man became the reason for the divorce.Here, perhaps, the only option would be to become in her eyes better than him. Perhaps he will make mistakes and their feelings for each other will fade away pretty quickly. And your ex-spouse will be able to see you in a new light and from a different point of view.
• Often couples diverge due to a banal misunderstanding, which leads to the inability to speak frankly with a partner. When the emotions associated with the divorce subside, make an appointment in a quiet place, for example, in a cafe or a small park. Talk heart to heart, without reproaches and claims. Remember the good and funny moments of your life together. Sincerely apologize for the mistakes that you yourself have identified.

• When establishing a relationship, do not skip the courtship stage. Romantic tokens, tender words, gifts and surprises, beautiful SMS messages, unobtrusive calls - all this can melt the heart of your girlfriend. The “conquest” of your beloved will have to start almost from the beginning, regardless of the duration of your relationship and marriage.
• Do not be too intrusive and stubborn, know the measure in everything. Closely monitor the ex-spouse's reaction to your every move. Excessive pressure you can just scare her away.
• Build relationships with her relatives and friends, do not stop talking to them after your break. If your wife had a conflict with your loved ones, try to influence them. Talk with your mom in conflict with your wife and explain to her how important your relationship with this woman is.
• It is important to understand that you need to work on your mistakes and negative traits, but not at all try on the role of another person. Unnatural feigned behavior will seem strange at best. The ex-wife knew and loved you for who you are, and only some of your qualities pushed her to divorce. Trying to change and turn into a completely different person with all your strength, you certainly will not attract her attention.
• In haste, do not give unrealistic and deliberately unrealistic promises. Be truthful and objectively evaluate your capabilities.
• Do not lean on expensive gifts. A woman may have the impression that you are simply bribing her. Much better in this situation, pleasant little things will work with a hint of romance.
• Do not try to control the life of your ex-wife after a divorce. Actions such as surveillance at the entrance or work, making calls with inquiries, or trying to get information from mutual friends will greatly drop you in her eyes. Excessive control and possessiveness are unpleasant even during marriage. And having officially terminated the union, the woman all the more has the full right to privacy.
• In most cases, the wife remains with the child after the divorce. Never try to manipulate him, set him up against his mother or use him as a source of information you need.

If the ex-spouse is against your encounters with the child, do not put pressure on her and do not break off communication with children with force and scandals. Give her time to calm down and deal with emotions, and then talk about it in private. Continue taking care of the children, even if your ex-wife has a new man. Do not break off relations with them.