Divorce: Pros and Cons

It often happens that divorce is the only way out of the impasse. It is possible that such a decision may be erroneous. How to determine your fate and the fate of your loved one? It is not easy to answer such questions, but it is possible.

Signs that divorce is inevitable appear long before this sad event. First, the woman suffers all insults, and then her soul begins to languish and ask not to tolerate this state of affairs anymore. When young people get married, they don’t think about an imminent breakup. Some live together their whole lives, others can break the bond of marriage the next day. Why does it depend and is it possible to predict in advance? What signs should you rely on to make the right decision? The following tips will help in this matter.

Physical abuse is the main argument that should push you to divorce. You can not tolerate bullying. A real man will never raise his hand against a woman. When getting married, the woman perfectly saw all the negative character traits of her future husband. At that time, she loved him very much and hoped that everything would work out, and her husband would take up his mind and begin to improve. But time passed, and man never became an ideal. Having been deceived once, you should not hope that time will pass and everything will work out. So your whole life can fly by, and in the end you will greatly regret your inaction.

If the violence continues for a long time, then this must be stopped, despite the fact that you have nowhere to go. There is always a way out if you make the final decision. In the end, in this case, contact the psychological support service for women. There you will certainly be helped to understand your feelings. Do not forget that your inaction leads to your suffering and the suffering of your children.

Moral violence is also a powerful argument for divorce. Sometimes it is difficult to determine what is worse: moral or physical violence against a person. When a husband constantly humiliates a woman or finds fault with trifles, then love passes and hatred sets in. Therefore, if you are uncomfortable with your chosen one, you should think and decide on a difficult step - a divorce.

Your husband has long been addicted to alcohol. In this situation, you can try to offer medical care and a complete cure. But if this is already a passed stage, and a person continues to sink lower and lower, then you should not spend your precious time on it. If you stay with such a spouse and continue to hope for an improvement in the situation, it is quite possible that you yourself will become addicted to alcohol over time. First, get depressed, and then to take it off, try a glass. In this case, you will like it.

The swamp of life's troubles will drag out, and your family will most likely come to a complete collapse. Everyone understands that it is difficult to live with an alcoholic nearby. First of all, your children suffer from this. When a man comes first with a bottle, and not love for his wife and children, then divorce will not be an inexplicable impulse in this case. On the contrary, you will free yourself from turmoil and problems.

Cheating on a loved one is another sometimes insoluble problem. It is difficult for a woman to put up with her husband’s infidelity. It humiliates and offends. If the betrayal occurred once, and the husband is very sorry and apologizes every day to his wife and children, then in this case, it is worth forgiving. But it happens the other way around. The husband looks left and right. No one is shy. He cheats at every turn and at the same time is not going to leave the family. In this case, you need to put an end to the relationship. This will never be corrected, and if you forgive all the time, you can physically get sick from constant worries.

You met a seemingly dream man. You are blinded by surging feelings. The result of all was a magnificent wedding. And after it, having recovered a bit from the holidays, you noticed that the spouse was not what you expected. He changed beyond recognition, became rude and ill-bred. From his side comes only moral pressure and despotism. It’s hard to agree on anything. The stubbornness and selfishness of the husband begin to oppress you. In this case, grievances accumulate and it turns out that the "spiritual bowl" is filled with your negative emotions. Then a divorce is inevitable. And do not resist this.

Over time, relations between spouses become colder as a result of mutual insults and discrepancies in character qualities. Further life together will only aggravate this perception of each other, preserving family ties is impossible.

It is difficult to come to a certain decision if there is at least some doubt. However, you should not continue to live in a marriage, if everything indicates that you are simply tormenting yourself. There are signs by which you can determine the choice of a specific solution. Once you were passionate about your future wife, and the prospect of family life was seen in cloudless colors. After marriage, household problems began. It turned out that your wife is completely unable to cook.Moreover, she does not even strive to ensure that your home is comfortable and warm. Every time, he scatters things throughout the apartment, unwashed dishes are constantly lying in the sink, and floors are not washed for whole weeks.

Of course, in this case you can be advised to hire a housekeeper or to do household chores yourself, but where can you get the money from? Divorce in this case is a matter of time. If the situation does not improve, then you will be happy to terminate the relationship with a negligent wife.

Another aspect is the unfaithfulness of the wife. She cheated on you, and you do not see much remorse in her behavior. This suggests that betrayal may happen more than once. An unfaithful spouse can leave you at any time as soon as difficult times come. Why wait when you have a knife stuck in the back? When you divorce, you will be able to meet a worthy woman who will appreciate and protect you.

If the wife is engaged only in her own affairs: doing hairstyles, manicures, and so on, flirting with men at every opportunity, then you should think carefully about divorce. A selfish woman will be with you while you pay for all her whims. As soon as you lose your source of income, your wife will leave you for another, more successful man.

Another painful problem when you lived with your wife for a rather long time, but your children never made money. A family with no children has no future. If the situation is hopeless and you have been thinking about a divorce for a long time, then you should not delay the decision. Thanks to divorce, you can find happiness in a new family and make a large number of children. Perhaps your ex-wife will find such a man with whom he can have children.

You met a woman without whom you can no longer live a day. Your legitimate wife annoys you for a long time, and you dislike her only because she lives next to you. Do not torture your soulmate. Honestly admit to her treason and leave the family. So you will commit an honest deed, and two women close to you will not immediately suffer from your indecision.

You and your wife are completely different people. Together you are bored, and even having children does not save the situation. Since you became so far apart, a lot of time has passed. Due to the current state of affairs, you started to get depressed. Then you need to make a joint decision on divorce.

A careerist wife is another trouble for a man who seeks a full marriage. The strange situation is exacerbated by the lack of children and the coldness of the spouse. Usually in a family where the wife is passionate only about work, the spouse is outraged that his wife is never at home. Even on Sundays, she solves the company's problems by phone. Her current household affairs are of little interest to her. And talking about the fact that you want to have children as soon as possible causes only such irritation in such a woman. Run away from such a woman as far as possible. Do it while you are young. Of course, after a divorce, you can find a wife who can create coziness and harmony in your life together.

Making any serious decisions is always difficult. But since such a test fell on your lot, then take it with due courage. In this case, it is necessary to calculate all the arguments for and against. Of course, you can try to save the family and make every effort to do so. The human soul is a very subtle substance. It is impossible to set up and go against her will. Even if this happens, over time you will either regret what you did or fall into final despair. Neither side needs such a turn of events.

If there is a child in the family, often the couple does not get divorced just because they do not want to hurt him. At the same time, you always catch yourself thinking that you are a deeply unhappy person. You do not want to go home after work. And scandals are becoming frequent. Think about who your child will grow up if he is constantly in such a tense atmosphere? Get rid of dubious torment and make a strong-willed decision.

It so happens that the feelings have cooled so much that it’s hard for you to be near your soulmate. You feel it with all the cells of your body. Nothing will save your marriage here. Everyone knows that in families there are crises in relationships. They should never be confused with deadlocks. The crisis can be eliminated through common efforts. Spouses do not want a break, they feel that they need each other, and they don’t know how to continue their life together.

Psychological assistance and the desire of the spouses will help preserve the marriage. However, there is a completely opposite picture when both spouses have long been tired of the coldness in the relationship. In this case, divorce is the only right decision. For example, if a spouse has announced to you that they are leaving the family to your rival or rival. No need to fix obstacles. You will not achieve anything with this.

Cheating on your spouse casts doubt on your cohabitation. You hate your soulmate more and more every day. Pictures pop up before your eyes, where your loved one is in the arms of your opponent. From these thoughts you go crazy and blame yourself for not being able to take a step toward divorce.

If you are sure that the problems that are happening in your family are not just a crisis that may arise at a certain stage of living together, then divorce will be the undeniable way out of all your problems. And, nevertheless, in order to make a final decision, it is worthwhile to well realize and think through everything. If you are a strong personality and feel that you yourself can cope with the questions that have arisen, then do the following.

• Choose a time when no one will be home. Turn on your favorite and calm music, sit in a comfortable chair.
• Relax and breathe evenly. Let nothing distract you from your thoughts.
• Remember all the moments that happened while you were married to your soulmate.
• Think about bad situations first. Remember the details where you were not as comfortable in marriage as you would like.
• Then remember those moments where you and your spouse were happy.
• Think about how you will live on without your other half.
• If you thought about breaking up and it made you feel better with this thought, then perhaps you should proceed with the steps to terminate your marriage.
• If you have not come to a specific decision, then repeat these steps after some time.
• Remember that no one and nothing can help you and decide on a divorce. You must do it yourself.