How to return a girl after breaking up?

Parting is a difficult period for both partners. However, often what we take for the final break is only a protracted quarrel, after which warm long-term relationships are possible. If you do not want to let go of the girl with whom you are separated, in this article you will find practical tips on how to behave correctly in order to make up.

First of all, after the breakup, you must decide for yourself whether you really want to renew the relationship. Such a decision should not be taken immediately: in the first days after the breakup, you will most likely be overwhelmed by strong emotions that will prevent you from soberly assessing the situation. Take your time - give yourself time - just a few days to get away from stress and throw out the negative. At this time, you should try to understand yourself, your desires, and also analyze what went wrong in the relationship.

You don’t have to shut yourself in: it’s important to find the best way for you to relieve stress. It can be a frank conversation with a best friend, a trip to the shooting range or active sports. After you have gone through a period of emotional experiences and were able to throw out all the negativity, you can begin to wonder whether you should even return the relationship.

Think about whether you really fit together, whether you will be happy. Very often, our desire to return to past relationships is connected only with fear of loneliness or unwillingness to invest in new acquaintances.Moreover, attempts to constantly maintain an unsuccessful relationship do not end with anything good: if you have fundamental disagreements with a partner, then sooner or later a break is inevitable.

It is also important that caused a quarrel. If this is treason or betrayal, then it is worth considering whether the situation will repeat in the future. Very often after such cases, partners lose confidence in each other, forgiving and forgetting everything can be difficult, especially if you have not discussed the problem in detail. Sometimes it’s important to try to understand the partner’s point of view after strong quarrels, and sometimes it’s better to leave forever — it depends only on what feelings you initially had for the girl.

The reasons for the separation may be many: faded passion, domestic inconvenience, different worldview, social status. In each case, you need to analyze the cause of the gap and understand whether it is possible to somehow overcome the problem. Of course, it all depends more on the desire of people: if you love each other very much, a solution can almost always be found. However, if she does not want a relationship, convincing a girl can be difficult: you have to convince her, present the situation from a different angle and show a solution to the problem.

Sometimes both partners want to return to each other, but do not talk about it directly. The lack of direct honest dialogue is a frequent situation that greatly interferes with harmonious relations. Nevertheless, few are able to openly express their feelings: a girl may herself want to return everything, but carefully hide it - because of the uncertainty or because of the stereotype in society that the first steps should be taken by a man. Moreover, if your lover has a desire to renew relations, this is a very good sign.

You can understand that a girl wants to return by indirect signs. They largely depend on the character, so you should keep in mind what you know about your partner. Well, if you had a long relationship and you managed to sufficiently study the person. If there is no certainty that the girl wants to return, pay attention to the well-known signs of such a desire.

• If a girl does not want a relationship, she is likely to completely disappear from your life. If she tries to appear before your eyes, actively communicates with friends and deliberately wants to appear before you in the best possible way, she wants you to regret the break and take the first step.
• Attempts to provoke jealousy are another sign. If an ex-girlfriend very quickly started a new romance and actively shows you her personal life, this in many cases indicates a desire to converge. However, returning such a girl will not be easy: you probably have offended her a lot, and restoring your relationship will require hard work.
• The vigorous activity of the girl on social networks can also indicate a desire to converge. If she uploads new photos every day, showing her busy life or demonstrating her own beauty, most likely she expects you to look at her.

• It’s good if you have common acquaintances. Girls tend to share their experiences with friends more than men. Talk to the people your girlfriend is in close contact with - they are probably aware of her true intentions.
• If a girl calls you periodically, writes and continues to sort things out, this is also a good sign. She does not want to stop communicating with you and is set to dialogue, and debriefing requires effort. If she spends her energy to sort things out, then she invests in your connection and does not want to leave completely.
• Ignoring your calls and letters can only speak of a desire for a relationship.if it is a demonstrative and short-term event.
• If you lived together and the girl is in no hurry to transport all her belongings, it also indicates that you have a chance to return everything.
• A girl subconsciously wants a relationship if in your conversations she behaves very emotionally. So, passion has not cooled down yet and you are not indifferent to it. If she can discuss current issues impartially and coldly, chances are love has passed.

Very often couples break up due to the fact that they no longer feel past passion and it seems that love has passed. The candy-bouquet period cannot last forever - you get used to each other, you know each other better, and it can become boring in a relationship. Moreover, solving everyday problems, joint trips and business planning can be a serious test: long-term serious relationships require work and mutual efforts.

If it seems to you that your feelings have cooled, this is not at all a reason to finally part. Love euphoria cannot last forever, and relationships are built more on mutual respect and understanding than on passion. Nevertheless, if you are tired of each other, you could well quarrel over trifles: perhaps a break in relationships will be useful to make sense of everything and restart your communication. You can always find ways to add variety to everyday life and not bother each other.

The crisis of long-term relations can come within a half to two years. In response to an offer of intimacy, a woman increasingly says “no”, and also begins to find fault with a man’s petty shortcomings, demand help and encroach on his freedom. The man, in turn, is disappointed by the lack of a former mystery in his chosen one, and also ceases to give her due attention and compliments. Sex and joint leisure turn into a routine that does not bring pleasure to both. However, all of these problems can be dealt with.

If you broke up due to the fact that your feelings for each other have cooled, do not despair. Relations can be renewed with mutual desire, but you can not again turn joint communication into a routine. You must agree with a firm intention to change your life. Take the following tips.

• So that you again have a mutual interest, you do not need to completely immerse yourself in each other in a relationship. Perhaps a short break will only be useful. Even when you get together again, try not to spend some time together. Let everyone have their friends, business and hobbies - then you will always share something new with each other.
• Try to spend some time together, but not at home. Go to theaters, a museum, organize joint trips, arrange romantic dinners. You need to change the situation more often, then feelings will wake up again.
• Do not be afraid to speak openly with each other about the intimate side of life, to share your desires and doubts.
• Take care of yourself. You begin to perceive a partner whom you have known for many years as a close relative - many do not even try to look attractive at home, and this is very important.
• Try to be sincerely interested in each other, then you will find a lot in your partner new for yourself, and relations will again become interesting for you.

It’s worth trying to renew relations and regain former passion only if your relationship is really strong, you want a long relationship and family. In the case of fleeting novels, people find that, apart from passion, nothing binds them, and such couples break up immediately after the end of the candy-bouquet period.

Very often couples break up when a woman leaves for another man. Sometimes this is a sensible choice, and sometimes spontaneous - women are especially susceptible to the influence of feelings, so fleeting love can destroy stable and strong relationships. In such cases, you can try to return the former. But it can be difficult. You need to understand female psychology, understand what did not suit the girl in past relationships, and try to change everything.

First of all, try to soberly assess and analyze the situation. Why did you break up, what did the girl lack in a relationship with you? Think about whether you really want to return your beloved - perhaps you do not fit each other, since she chose another man. If you are determined to fight for your happiness, then you should be patient.

When you broke up, you don’t need to stop talking. Try to maintain trusting friendships. This is the key to success, because you will always be in sight of your lover and you can gently convince her in the decision. Further action should be specific to the situation. If a girl appreciates directness, you can write to her or say that you would like to return everything, try to prove her love with her words.

If the gap occurred for objective reasons, you have to prove your love by doing. It is quite difficult to do this after parting, but it is necessary. Pay attention to the problems in your former relationship, compare yourself with your lover's chosen one and start working on yourself. This also applies to success, and appearance, and internal work: perhaps you should become calmer, start attending the gym, learn homework or become more ambitious in achieving business goals.

It is especially difficult to restore relations if a lot of time has passed since the breakup. Perhaps the girl already has her own life and there is absolutely no desire to remember the past. Nevertheless, if the desire to restore relations is mutual, it is possible to return to the past both in a year and two years after a long break. But for this you need to first change.

If you parted, then there were contradictions, conflicts and discomfort that you could not resolve. If you have remained exactly the same, have not grown above yourself in the past and have not changed personally, the old problems will not disappear. Therefore, it is very important that you really do the inner work: live a vibrant life, engage in self-improvement, communicate with new people and look for new hobbies. In addition, do not forget to sometimes think about past relationships: what they lacked, what conflicts were, how everything can be fixed.

If you feel that you have changed and are ready to start building old relationships in a new way, you need to arrange a meeting. It can be made easier if you are already in friendly communication with your lover, but in this case it may be more difficult to convince her to return: if she sees you regularly, she may not notice the changes and you yourself won’t be able to easily assess whether she’s ready to renewal of relations.

If you have not seen each other for a long time, you have a great chance to meet again. It is only necessary to choose the time and place. If you have common acquaintances, you can ask for a party or meeting to which you will both be invited. This is a great opportunity to meet in a company in a relaxed atmosphere.So you avoid embarrassment, evaluate whether you really want to return the relationship, and talk to each other on abstract topics.

If you know that your ex is attending certain events, cafes, shops, you can try to arrange a random meeting. This is a good option to meet: you will take her by surprise, and the reaction can easily determine whether her eyes lit up, whether her old feelings returned. The only problem is that organizing a random meeting in real life is quite problematic.

Finally, you can call her and directly invite her to see you - do not be afraid to take the initiative if you are sure that you need a relationship. Now it’s not a problem to find the person’s contacts - if the number is not saved, you can easily find your sweetheart on social networks. Of course, there is a risk that she refuses to meet: in this case, you should try to gently convince the girl and hint about her desire to return, but not insist.

It is very difficult to regain lost trust in a relationship. If you seriously offended the girl and want to fix everything, get ready for a long and methodical work on the relationship. Accept also the fact that at first the beloved will not want to talk with you - do not insist, give her time to be alone and sort out her feelings. When the girl is ready for a calm dialogue, try to speak with her sincerely, but confidently.

There is no need to apologize, justify and compliment many times - the more you talk, the less significant your words will seem. You need to prepare for the conversation in advance. Briefly explain the situation, assure the girl that you are aware of the problem, and promise that this will not happen again. If the relationship for the girl was valuable, she will certainly give you a second chance.

At the same time, you yourself must believe in what you promise. If a woman agreed to start dating again, this does not mean that you have been forgiven. Confidence comes back with difficulty and gradually. Every day you will have to prove your loyalty and care, not being offended by the fact that the girl controls you too much or cannot completely relax.

It’s not easy to figure out how to behave after breaking up with a girl in specific life situations. Take on board a few tips from psychologists.

• Not all relationships are worth renewing. Very often, stupid quarrels occur, because of which two people who love and fit together are separated, however, often quarrels arise due to fundamental differences. It is necessary to distinguish important things from trifles in order to understand which relationships are worth renewing and which are not.
• Do not try to persuade your partner to return to you. If a girl no longer wants to communicate, you can try to convince her with words or deeds, but importunity will not help here. Sometimes you just need time to sort out your feelings. Sometimes a girl may not want to return at all, and her choice must be accepted.
• Keep in mind that building relationships in the old way, you will encounter old problems. If you want to build a strong and long-term relationship, you must realize what caused the gap, change and avoid such situations.
• Try to communicate with your lover sincerely and if possible directly. You should not try to splurge, manipulate and deceive - you cannot build strong relations on such a foundation.