How to part with a guy?

Breaking up relations is almost always difficult. It is especially difficult to tell your partner about the breakup if this intention is not mutual. Many girls who decide to break up with a guy can not dare to have a difficult conversation. At the same time, it is obvious that the delay in parting will no longer help.

This article will talk about how to part with a man.

Alas, not all couples are able to maintain their relationship. It would seem that until recently you seriously dreamed of connecting your life with a loved one, you dreamed of common plans for the future. But in life, it does not always go exactly as we would like. And then your couple froze on the verge of breaking, and you just need to take a step to disperse in different directions.

There are many reasons for a couple to break up. Any relationship undergoes a test of difficulties, but, unfortunately, not all partners withstand them.

• Treason inflicts strong resentment and pain. If a guy was to blame for such an offense, it can be very difficult for a girl to forgive him. Often in such situations it is necessary to make a difficult decision about breaking the relationship.
• It happens that a partner simply uses passion for personal gain. For example, if a girl has her own living space, or she is not constrained by the means and is ready to spend them on her lover. In this case, of course, the man does not have real feelings. And after some time, a cold prudent attitude will still be revealed.
• Friends or relatives may interfere with young people.One of the relatives often for some reason, often only clear to him, sets lovers against each other. For example, a guy’s mother, having disliked his chosen one, can try to get rid of her in every possible way, provoking quarrels and plotting against her.
• Excessive jealousy and excessive dominance of men. A jealous man torments his beloved with unsubstantiated suspicions, often arranges scandals and scenes. In such a pair, the partner feels locked up. Any phone call of a friend, a delay on the road to a date and other trifles provoke attacks of jealousy and mistrust in a young man. Such a relationship can hardly be called pleasant, calm and comfortable.

• The lack of common interests, differences of views and characters significantly undermine the relationship of the couple. It is difficult to be near a person who practically does not support you in anything. It is useless to share his joys and experiences with him, because he simply does not share them and is indifferent to what happens with his lover at work, at home or at school.
• The lack of attention from the beloved man greatly cools the girl's feelings. In most cases, at the first stages of a relationship, the guy, trying to win his beloved, did not skimp on gentle words, compliments, small gifts, kisses and pleasant romantic surprises. But here you are together, and all this gradually came to naught. Relations have become routine, unemotional and monotonous. The lack of attention from the young man casts doubt on his feelings and prospects for such a cold relationship.
• Negative character traits and bad habits often push girls to break. Excessive rudeness, aggressiveness, untidiness and other unsightly personality traits make communication with a person simply unpleasant and uncomfortable. Of course, if you love, then you try to adapt and close your eyes to some of the shortcomings of the young man. But all patience sooner or later comes to an end.
• The precarious financial position of the guy can also cause a break. Undoubtedly, money is not the main thing in life.

• Often repeated deception on various occasions. With such a man it is impossible to feel confident. You have to be constantly on the alert. Mutual trust in a situation where a guy tends to lie often is simply impossible.
• Often a stumbling block for a couple becomes a problem in an intimate life. Dissatisfaction with a sexual partner can push a girl to part. Unfortunately, not all couples can tactfully discuss their sex life. Because of this, the problem only grows with time. This often removes partners from each other.
• Of course, almost all problems in relationships can be resolved if partners are willing to work on themselves, make mutual concessions and trust each other. If the guy does not want to make efforts on himself, it will be very difficult for the girl to straighten out the situation alone.

So, you firmly and finally decided to break off relations with the young man. Now you need to inform him of your decision.

It is especially difficult to part with a man who loves you very much and does not let you go. In this case, you need to be tactful and soft in order to somehow soften the blow to his feelings.

In addition, after such news the guy may have any questions or may have a desire to express himself. This should be treated with understanding, patience and tact.

For such a meeting, choose a quiet place where you can calmly talk.It is better to meet in a "neutral" territory, and not in those places that are somehow connected with your couple. Not the best options would be a favorite cafe, memorial plots in the park or an apartment where you often met or lived together.

Be prepared for the fact that the man will perceive this news quite emotionally. Do not blame him for this. Put yourself in a similar situation - it is unlikely that you would feel good.

The second way to break up is to send a message or email. Often, girls resort to him, who can not decide to say anything about breaking up a guy in the eye. Fearing an overly violent reaction, they prefer to break off relations remotely. There are situations when a guy and a girl are currently at a distance from each other, and a personal meeting is impossible. In this case, also try to state your decision, without offending a young man.

Do not count on the fact that by SMS you will certainly part quickly and painlessly. It all depends on the nature of the young man and the characteristics of your relationship with him. It may well be that the guy wants to discuss everything at a meeting and will insist on it. Or you will receive messages or intrusive calls from him for some time.

The gap is especially difficult if you have been dating and living together for a long time. In this case, in your life after parting, significant changes will occur. Prepare yourself for them in advance.

Partners who have been together for a long time, usually already know each other well, they have a common life. Therefore, in such a case, you should especially carefully consider your decision and test your feelings.

In most cases, such breaks are experienced very painfully. Perhaps in your situation you can still find some ways to keep the pair.

Examples are frequent when former partners, after breaking up, continue to communicate and even become good friends. But sometimes the pain of loss and unquenchable feelings make any contact with the former impossible. In such cases, you need to be able to cope with emotions and pull yourself together as soon as possible to start a new life.

• Having decided to leave the young man, you should also understand that now your plans and dreams regarding life with this man are over. Try not to live them anymore, and also let yourself indulge in memories as little as possible. When little time has passed since the breakup, deepening into the past only aggravates negative emotions: longing, resentment, regret.
• Try to distract yourself with something. For example, create a new image that you have long wanted to try. Join the sports section or creative club. This will help you keep fit, expand your horizons and circle of acquaintances.

• Conversations on this subject with loved ones can be a good therapeutic effect from depression and depression. Feel free to talk with someone you trust. Tell us about your experiences. Even if they do not help you with really good advice, a sincere confidential conversation will already bring you relief.
• Perhaps after some time you will have a strong regret about what happened and a desire to return everything. This may be a deceptive illusion.Sometimes after parting, a woman does not yearn for the very person from whom she left, but for the lifestyle and her usual way of life, which has now changed. In such a situation, it is important to separate real feelings from fleeting fleeting emotions. Rethink the reasons you were prompted to break. After that, put an end to yourself in your past relationships. Set yourself up for movement and change.

• Breaking up relations is not the end of life, but, on the contrary, its new round. Perhaps your former partner limited you in some way and slowed down, but now the path is clear, and you can confidently go to your dream, experiment and develop.

• If you want to remain friends, and the guy is not ready for this, do not press on him and do not be offended. Perhaps over time, when his emotions subside, you will be able to communicate. Most likely, after the break, contacts with you simply hurt him.
• Perhaps the man you left will be actively trying to get you back. In this case, stay firm. It is important not to give him false hopes. In the case when you are very harassed by calls and messages, try to gently and tactfully explain that it is unpleasant for you. Sometimes girls have to take more stringent measures in such cases and change the phone number, ignoring the attempts of the ex-man to restore the couple.
• When parting, thank the young man for those moments that were very important, warm and gentle for you. It cannot be that something has never happened in your couple that is pleasant to recall.
• In the case when you were the initiator of the break, do not try to transfer all the blame on the young man. Sometimes girls, abandoning a guy, try to reproach him for far-fetched reasons and make as many complaints as possible. In such an unpleasant situation, such behavior of a beloved girl hurts even more.
• After the break, it is not necessary to stop communicating with common acquaintances and friends. Your personal problems should not be transferred to third parties at all.
• Do not try to quickly strike up a relationship right after the end of the previous ones only in order to prick the former or make him jealous. There is a high probability of making a mistake and getting burned. And in this case, you will not only lose time, but will again be forced to experience an unpleasant gap situation.
• If the reason for breaking up with the young man is your new relationship, you should not go into too much detail. It will be enough to only briefly state that at the moment you are experiencing feelings for another man.
• In some cases, in order to return the beloved, the guy can take rather radical measures. Blackmail or suicide threats are launched. In this situation, do not lose your temper. If you make concessions against your will and contrary to the decision made, all the same, nothing good will come of it in the future.