How to deal with depression after a breakup?

People meet, fall in love, then begins a joint pastime. But after a long relationship, a break may come. It is always unbearably painful for both men and women. Depression comes at lightning speed, capturing every part of the body and soul. It is necessary to fight this condition and, if it doesn’t work out on your own, you need to ask for help.

Just yesterday, the whole world seemed open, and sunbeams filled the whole room. Today, when there was a separation between people who were in a long relationship, this colorful world disappeared. The pain of the soul does not abate, despite the fact that you are trying very hard to relieve it. Tears come to my eyes. Others, on the contrary, have a lump in their throats, and “dry” eyes look “nowhere.”

These are signs that you have a psychological problem. There is a clear depression. It developed against the background of the fact that you lost a piece of yourself, namely: a loved one. Together with him, faith in one's own strength, faith in the future, went away. You are now afraid that you will never be able to love anyone. And if you fall in love, then the same situation may repeat itself with you - a break in relations will occur.

The fact that new problems may come with new problems is now not worth thinking about. Moreover, at the moment you are experiencing severe suffering, and feelings for the former soulmate have not yet exhausted themselves. Today, you definitely will not have the slightest desire to get acquainted and start an affair with someone else. This is a normal occurrence.Therefore, in no case do not panic and do not think that all the good things that could still happen in your life have already ended for you.

At this stage, it is important to recognize and recognize the problem that you are not in a very good emotional form. And when it comes to the realization that after stress fell into a stupor, then you can begin to act further.

Above all, admit to yourself that you are very nervous right now. It is this factor that will become the impetus for overcoming the negative situation. Do not stop yourself in experiences, but at the same time make your experiences conscious. This is the meaning of the beginning of rehabilitation.

After parting with different people, the emotional state is expressed in different ways. Some are unable to worry and suffer for a long time. Optimists make themselves quickly forget about what happened grief, finding for themselves new hobbies.

Others, on the contrary, can live with pain in their souls for more than one year. For a small number of individuals, this experience remains like a splinter, and lasts throughout life. It all depends on the nature of the person.

Therefore, there are three main stages of a depressive state.

• The first stage is negation. Sometimes it passes unconsciously, as it is considered a protective reaction. Due to this property, the human psyche cannot be exposed to very strong negative effects and thereby protects the person from more serious consequences, such as psychosomatics. Simply put, in this situation, our consciousness does not specifically perceive negative factors that affect our mood.
• The second stage is an aggressive state. When the first stage passes, there comes a period when a person wants to act. Since consciousness is still in some shock, side effects may develop against this background. The offended person cannot come up with anything and begins to get angry. You need to get rid of this feeling, because anger cannot lead to anything good. Problems are not solved, but are growing like a snowball.
• The third stage is an apathetic state. It also does not carry anything good. At this time, the person does not care, and he does not want to perceive the surrounding reality. The world is seen in gray colors. This state can end very quickly if a person is strong in spirit. If the person is prone to sluggish depression, then apathy can last for years. And some individuals may suffer from this condition all their lives.

Each person has its own uniqueness. When treating depression, this factor must be considered. The main thing is to prevent the development of various complexes after a person has experienced loneliness after breaking up a serious relationship.

For example, a person can become aggressive towards himself or to the people around him. Here the situation may develop in different scenarios.

• The offended person will begin to take revenge and it does not matter to whom and why. The goals may be different. Here, everything can end very badly. The avenger himself and the one to whom he wanted revenge will suffer. Hardenedness will make a person unbearable for those around him. Friends and relatives may turn away from him. Loneliness will increase the problem. And then, you may need medical attention.
• Another option is the victim complex. It is also a grave condition of an offended person. In this case, the individual becomes passive and sincerely believes that he is to blame for the fact that such a misfortune happened to him. Such conditions can quickly worsen. If you do not take any action, it will lead to a complete denial of all the positive that is in life. Man becomes a nihilist. It is difficult to fight this state of mind, therefore it is better not to allow such an outcome.

For those who experience this situation for the first time, for example, a girl (guy), it is especially difficult to survive depression. It is important to prevent more serious consequences such as suicide. Therefore, parents should be considerate of their children.

The common efforts of loved ones are needed so that a person can get rid of an obsessive state. To cope with this problem, a specialist will best help. However, not everyone has the opportunity to resort to his help.

A loved one can help you not get depressed. And for this he can use the following tips.

• First of all, it is necessary to change the situation. Go on vacation or visit close friends in another city. There you will receive positive emotions, and the environment will not remind you of your previous relationship. And if you're lucky, then perhaps there you will meet a new love. Be optimistic and believe in it sacredly.
• Forget about your former partner. It's hard to do, but it all depends on you. If you really want this, then everything will work out. The faster you convince yourself that reuniting with past love is impossible, the sooner you will realize that you are open to new relationships.
• After the trip, get busy with work. It doesn’t matter what kind of activity it is, the main thing is that it completely absorbs all your attention. So you replenish the budget and forget about your grief.
• And if there is time after a hard day, go in for sports. At the stadium you will find like-minded people, maybe you will meet new love there. Act, do not sit still, and then you can cope with gloomy thoughts yourself.

• Do not lean on food. Overeating has not helped anyone yet. From excess calories, you get fat and then no one will be needed for sure. At the same time, in no case should you completely refuse to eat. If there is no appetite, use willpower. To overcome the negative, you will need resources, and only balanced nutrition can provide them.
• Change your appearance completely. Let your friends stop recognizing you. A lot of time will be spent on these classes, and the mood will automatically rise. It is possible that your former partner will regret that he did not appreciate you before.
• It also happens that from time to time it becomes unbearable to bear the flood of anguish. Antidepressants will help to get out of this condition. Seek advice from a professional doctor and he will help you with choosing the right medicine.
• If the husband (wife) lives with you in the same apartment, then as soon as possible try to exchange it. If this process is delayed, then temporarily live with relatives or rent a house. Believe me, it will immediately become easier for you because you will not see an object that annoys you.

Do not give in to emotions. They are bad advisers. Confusion, shame, anger and sadness must be changed to joy. Yes, it is impossible to do it right away, but educate yourself and go to self-improvement. This will be your first hobby after the break, which will lead you to success.

When the morning begins with the thought that your loved one will not come to you anymore, you need to overcome these thoughts in yourself. Just forbid yourself to think about him or her.

Whether you are a man, or a guy, or a girl, you still have to independently overcome your pain from loss. How you will do it, and how long it will take, it will all depend on you.

Simple actions will help to avoid negative consequences.

• First of all, these are playing sports. There are special exercises to relieve stress. Running on the spot, breathing training. All this can be done in the gym. A professional instructor will select the necessary tasks for you and ensure that they are completed correctly.

• Self-help training will provide an impetus for overcoming depression. Do yoga or start writing poetry. What you will do is not important, the main thing is that this business brings you moral satisfaction. Start knitting or sewing. Needlework will help to earn money for extra rest and stimulate further work.
• Stop enjoying depression. Yes, it could be! To some extent, a person likes to feel sorry for himself. He cries with delight and complains to everyone around him about the unfortunate fate. This makes him feel better. Relief in this case is a temporary phenomenon. A condition like a drug is addictive and requires more and more emotional portions. In the end, you can fall into a stupor.
• Stop pretending to be a perfectionist. Why did you decide that everything should go smoothly with you, as if by notes? It must be remembered that all people experience difficulties. Each one has their own, but from this these difficulties do not become less easy. Therefore, accept the fact that life consists of light and dark stripes. It’s just that some people are able to tune in to positive when a dark streak comes, while others can’t.

• Avoiding serious problems will also help that you suppress the feeling of guilt that you impose on yourself in any situation. Why did you decide that you were to blame for one or another negative event that happened to you? Circumstances are stronger than us. We cannot control everything. Therefore, from time to time, failures occur, and you are exposed to some undesirable factors.

And finally: do a rite of farewell to depression. To do this, write on paper all your problems and grievances, and then burn the paper. Develop ashes downwind.

Remember that as soon as you close the door and leave your feelings behind it, your spiritual world will begin to recover. Make an effort - let in new happiness.

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