How to survive a breakup with a beloved man?

Everything in life can someday end, including love. But this does not mean that with the departure of love our happy existence ends. On the contrary, one meeting will be followed by another. But why is it so sick of the soul? Maybe because we do not know how to switch and “twist” the same record until suffering begins to affect our well-being?

Girls tend to suffer. Subtle natures fall in love and believe that they will certainly be happy. This happens because the female psyche is always tuned to believe in a sweetheart.

Young women tend to “attribute" non-existent qualities to their lovers. And in fact, everything does not turn out as we would like. The guy is not quite a worthy person. It's no secret that while the representative of the stronger sex takes care of a lady of the heart, he tries to show himself only from the best side. Attributes to himself various virtues, behaves like a knight. This is the psychology of men. To seduce your object of adoration, that’s what guys just don’t do. Ready to throw the whole world at their feet. But time passes, and some of them begin to look to the side, while others feel cold.

There is nothing surprising. Many men cannot love the same woman throughout their lives. And if there was a parting due to the fault of the representative of the stronger sex, then you met the wrong person. Therefore, do not focus on this problem.

However, there will always be someone who objects that you cannot command the heart.To which we can safely answer that this is a moot point.

This happens because female characters have versatile features, and the fairer sex, like men, are divided into strong personalities and weak character. Girls who cannot hold their emotions in their hands move in a circle of suffering. They justify an obsession with a strong attachment to another person.

This happens for various reasons.

• Some love to enjoy their pain. They like to make a sacrifice of themselves. Even some enjoy it. Of course, such pleasure is doubtful and can lead to a depressive state.
• Others have traits that are particularly intrusive. The psychological dependence of one person on another is characteristic of a neurotic personality. These inclinations must be fought in every way. First of all, it is necessary that the person himself wants to get rid of the obsession to achieve something.
• Selfish habits also increase the pain of parting. In this situation, there are emotions that are aimed at the fact that the representative of the weaker sex feels offended and asks: "How could you leave me, such a beautiful and beloved one?" From these thoughts, an inferiority complex and obsessive states develop.

• Failure to accept reality leads to suffering. The girl does not want to let go of the young man. It always seems to her that the former lover will return to her, and she will be happy again, as before. Expectations exacerbate stress, and this exacerbates the problem.
• After breaking up, some girls suffer from the fact that they are unable to suppress their decadent mood for a long time. A sense of grief haunts them and only intensifies every day. It comes to the fact that a person loses the ability to dream, to strive for something, that is, plunges into the abyss of negative emotions. In this case, only the help of specialists will be able to eradicate the problem.

When a difficult period begins, it is necessary to remember that assistance from outside will sooner or later lead you to a positive result. However, be aware that the person himself must also strive to get out of depression as soon as possible.

This is difficult to do, but possible if you really want to. After all, you suffer not so much from the person himself, but from the emotions that you experienced when you were near this person.

It is necessary to separate these two concepts. Then it will become easier for you to understand your feelings. And for this some tips will help.

• First of all, you need to understand one thing: since the end of the relationship has come, it means that you made a mistake in your choice. Perhaps your young man was not what you imagined.
• Next, you need to understand and ask yourself if there were real feelings between you, maybe you yourself came up with them and yourself believed in them. Try to analyze the events that happened to you while your young man was nearby. You may find many inconsistencies in his actions.
• Finally, do not hope that everything will still form, and your boyfriend will come back to you and ask for forgiveness. This will never happen again. And the sooner you understand this, the faster your heart will open for new feelings.

• Take a look around and you will see that you are not alone. Perhaps tomorrow you will meet a worthy person whom you will love.
• No need to wake up and think that this day will pass again without your loved one.Teach yourself that in the morning you open your eyes and think not about the lost relationship, but about those events that will have to happen during the day. Surely you will have interesting meetings with peers, study and hobbies to which you should devote all your free time.
• Switch your mind to another wave. Learn to think differently, and then you will succeed.

To accept is to understand and realize the problem. As soon as you do this, then the rehabilitation process will begin.

The girl does not have to get hung up on a negative event. You need to understand that there are no accidents in life. Everything that happens in our destiny should have happened someday. But as they say, everything that is done is all for the better. And to disagree with this statement is difficult.

The circumstances often, as it seems to us at first glance, are not in our favor. We begin to suffer greatly from losses and grievances. Over time, an awareness of what is happening comes. There is no longer any regret in the soul, since it becomes clear that fate destroys us from unnecessary torment in this way. For example, a woman met with her beloved man. She expected that someday the chosen one would make her an offer. But time passed, and the representative of the stronger sex continued to use the partner for his own purposes. Why take on the obligations that are inherent in a married man when you can live without them? This is usually what sociopaths do.

In this situation, the man was happy with everything, but the woman suffered from the fact that she was not sure about tomorrow. And so he came. The young man met a new love, and ex-girlfriend put out the door, as an unnecessary thing. From this turn of events there will come a shock in any woman. And this is quite normal. In this case, it is not worth suffering and suffering for a long time. You must realize that fate has given you a chance to get rid of more serious consequences. In the future you will find a new meeting with a worthy person. You will be surely happy.

It must be remembered that nothing good was expected of you in such relations and will not wait anymore. Therefore, consider that you are lucky to some extent, thank your guardian angel. Another situation is when a girl and a guy broke up suddenly. After a long relationship, he abandoned his girlfriend. The pain of loss tears the soul. However, here it is necessary to think, and ask yourself about whether there was love in your relationship. Perhaps it was not there, but everything that seemed so fundamental and happy, you came up with yourself.

Tears of sorrow will not help. So, it is necessary to take measures to restore their balanced state. First, try to recall the good moments that happened in your life while you were with your loved one. Then remember the negative sides. Mentally “weigh” the pros and cons. It is possible that you will be very surprised that you practically do not remember anything good. And so it turns out that just a month ago you had a reliable rear, which turned out to be not as reliable as it seemed.

A real man takes on obligations and, in spite of everything, fulfills them. Of course, everything happens in life, but a decent young man will not "exchange for little things." If he vowed to love you, then he will fulfill his promise. If you come across a different type of man (wrong, selfish, emotionally cold), then you should not regret that your relationship with him has collapsed. It was predictable, you just could not assess their viability due to some circumstances. Most likely, your mind has been eclipsed by a strong passion, passion or love.

At the moment, it is impractical to start a new relationship. Otherwise, you will randomly start looking for a new partner, and such actions are fraught with errors and new disappointments. First you need to deal with your old feelings. Let go of the situation, and just live. You will gradually enter a new channel of life. Fate itself will present you with new feelings as a gift. A more difficult situation is for those women who meet with married men.

Male psychology is so arranged. But girls need to remember that a relationship with a married man does not carry anything good and can end suddenly and very badly:

• his wife can find out about the husband’s vicious hobby, and then you can be attacked by her;
• the legal spouse will cease all meetings, as he has all rights to this;
• you spend your precious time on the person who uses you.

If your relationship with a married person has ended, then in this case you need to rejoice rather than be upset. Do not recall the words and promises that the partner told you at the meetings. Remember that he did this in order to prolong your relationship and lull vigilance. Only a small percentage of married men keep their promises. And if the promise to divorce his wife is fulfilled, then this step is taken under great pressure from the mistress.

Stop suffering and realize the obvious facts. When you become aware of them, you will realize that you are lucky and you did not manage to waste most of your life. Be optimistic and you will be open again for new meetings.

What period is needed to get sick with the past, no one will say for sure. Some representatives of the fair sex forget about the negative experience immediately and never then remember, and someone experiences a lifetime. But these are extremes. Most often it is very painful. Try to find the strength in yourself, start to make your life happy on your own.

Each decent person will control himself, despite severe pain. Try to cultivate restraint in yourself. Control your emotions and feelings. However, this does not mean that you need to grit your teeth, walk with a stone face and restrain your tears with all your strength. When parting occurs, the state of mind of a person is on the verge of a nervous breakdown. This is an unpleasant but normal result.

At this moment, you need to throw out your feelings: cry, sob loudly and feel sorry for yourself. This condition in no case should go into a long-term process. To prevent this from happening, start working on getting yourself out of negative emotions as soon as possible.

To improve your well-being and soften the process of parting, you should not do some things.

• Shame and expose your tantrums to the public. You will not achieve anything by this, but spoil the opinion of people around you about yourself.
• Do not feel sorry for yourself and allow others to do this. Pity is a bad feeling. The more you torture yourself with suffering, the more your depressed state will increase. In addition, not all your relatives and friends are able to sincerely sympathize with you. There will be those who will make of your grief a mockery for those who are well-wishers.
• Locking oneself is also a bad idea. On the contrary, communicate more, participate in mass events.
• Do not take revenge and do not get angry. With these actions you will only exacerbate the problem.

The specialist, of course, will give you a helping hand and pull you out of negative emotions, like a dark well.But for this you need to have the means and time. If for some reason you cannot afford to attract outside help, take the advice of a psychologist.

• Stop thinking about the person who hurt you. Memories will not help return him, but you will make a depressed state.
• To quickly destroy the feelings that you have for your former lover, try not to stir up the past. If you catch yourself thinking that you are again thinking about a partner and what was connected with him, then immediately pull yourself and switch your consciousness to something else. For example, think of an upcoming joyful event or work. Do it constantly and gradually, such actions will become a habit.

• Write on paper all your experiences. Display each letter carefully, putting your pain in each word. Let the paper become for you a kind of "vest" in which you can cry. Then push it into a lump and set it on fire. Look at the fire and smoke, imagine how all your problems disappear.
• Go in for sports. This hobby will help one hundred percent in getting rid of an obsessive state.
• Start practicing your looks. Change your image beyond recognition. These actions will take a lot of time and effort. You simply will not have the resources to suffer.
• Find new friends and like-minded people. Together with them, do what you love.

Try not to deal with negativity, but skillfully get away from it. And then you will become invulnerable.