Extrovert from "A to Z" - all you wanted to know about this type of personality

Surely many of us have heard at least something about the temperament test, also known in psychology under the name “Eysenck Test”, by the name of the British psychologist Hans Jürgen Eysenck, who is its author. Testing is aimed at determining what type of personality the test person is: an extrovert or an introvert.

This article will focus on extroverts. You will be able to get acquainted with an extravert type of personality, find out who an extrovert person is, how to properly communicate with him, and we will also turn to psychology to find out what a concept like “extraversion” means.

The term "extrovert" appeared in psychology in 1921. Then the geniuses of psychology Karl Gustav Jung and Hans Jürgen Eisenck shared two concepts: "introversion" and "extraversion." Based on them, they identified two corresponding types of personalities: introverts and extroverts. The prefixes extra- and intro in these terms are not accidental: “extra” from Latin means “outside”, and “intro” means “inside”. Consequently, introverts direct their energy inside themselves, and extroverts, on the contrary, tend to give their activity to the outside world, that is, they are the exact opposite of introverts.

An extrovert is such a person who enjoys socialization, communication, does not think of himself alonewithout attention from other people.It is characterized by special activity both in the business sphere and in the personal one. The concept of extraversion in psychology denotes a psychological state of a person in which he seeks to make friends and acquaintances, saturate his life with communication and actively achieve goals.

Communication for an extrovert is a synequanone, that is, something without which it is simply impossible to do (from Latin sine qua non - a prerequisite). In fact, if a person of this type of temperament is deprived of the opportunity to be in society, he immediately becomes depressed, begins to feel upset, exhausted, and not capable of anything. Stress and frustration are typical states of an extrovert deprived of its familiar environment.

Among the main signs of an extrovert, the following can be listed.

• Talkativeness. These people are extremely easy to communicate and establish contacts with people around them. However, they prefer to talk more than listen. It is worth noting that thanks to this quality, extroverts sometimes achieve impressive successes in the field of public speaking and public speaking.
• Activity. Here you can express everything with just one phrase: sitting still is not about them.

• Purposefulness. Their motto is: “If there is a dream, there is a way to fulfill it.” And extroverts are ready to make a lot of efforts and efforts to bring their plans and intentions to life. In the process of achieving their goal, they are even ready to make significant sacrifices, if only everything will turn out as they planned it. This determination can be explained by the need for extroverts to be recognized by society.
• Sympathy. Extroverts are not those who stand aside when they see the difficulties and problems of others. They are always ready to come to the rescue and provide support even to unfamiliar people. Coldness and indifference are not inherent in extrovert personalities.
• Openness. This type of personality does not try to pretend, in society he is what he really is. In emotional terms, such people do not seek to hide some of their feelings and impulses, do not hold emotions inside, boldly splash them out. They may even burst into tears in public if circumstances force them, and they won’t be bothered by the fact that others will think about them and what their opinion will be about them.
• Spontaneity. People of this temperament are prone to making rash, instant decisions. They act first and only then analyze the consequences of their action. Sometimes it negatively affects their lives. So, they often say about extroverts that they are spenders, because they are able to spend a lot of money on what, in fact, they don’t really need.
• Sense of taste. Such people know how to dress beautifully, to combine various things and objects, and not only in terms of personal style, but also in interior design.

When choosing an extrovert male as a partner, you need to clearly be aware that such a chosen one is distinguished by emotionality, which means that he will not be fraught with emotional impulses, and sometimes even disruptions. Such behavioral characteristics can undermine relationships, and sometimes even completely destroy them. However, everything can be leveled by an understanding attitude and the same emotional return on the part of the partner.

Relations with an extrovert man are sometimes very difficult, especially if a woman, by her temperament, is its complete opposite. Despite the generally accepted stereotype that “opposites attract”, these opposites may simply not get along with each other. Failure in such relationships can be guaranteed in some situations.

• The partner is constantly in a bad mood, she has a negative attitude, because of which she exhausts her chosen one with eternal nagging.
• Extrovert trying to "imprison in 4 walls." Domesticism depresses extroverts.

• Resentment without explanation. Male extroverts are not used to keeping emotions in themselves. They are guided by the rule: "Do not like it - say it," and they want the people around them to do the same. In their opinion, it is much better to lay out all the cards on the table, make a scandal, but figure it out and solve the problem, rather than "play silence" and continue to accumulate negative inside. They are not inclined to notice the reasons for dissatisfaction in the partners only by the manner of their communication, here you need to say everything directly, honestly.
• The darling does not give in to any adventures. An extrovert man wants to see a “easy-going” girl next to him who will support any of his, even the most crazy ideas, for example, an offer to go make snow angels in the middle of the night, when there is twenty-degree frost on the street.
• Ingratitude kills the libido of such a man. Recognition from others is crucial for him. Here you need to note any, even the tiniest little thing that he made. The more praise he receives, the greater returns you can expect from him.

Female extroverts have similar qualities as men of this type of temperament. However, such ladies, as a rule, do not consider male introverts for a serious relationship, because they consider them weak.

So, we found out that there are two poles of temperament - introvert and extrovert. But between these poles there are many subtypes that describe both.

As for the heroes of our review today, in socionics there is a scale dividing extroverts into 8 subcategories. Briefly consider each of them.

• Logical and intuitive. These are entrepreneurs by nature, striving to play ahead of the curve. Failures and mistakes do not lead them astray, on the contrary, they even add incentive and motivation for them to continue. Hot-tempered, conflicted.
• Logic-touch. Workaholics. However, they will make efforts only on condition that their work will be profitable. Prudent and mercantile. We are sure that there are only two opinions: their and wrong.
• Ethical and intuitive. Representatives of this subtype are not quite balanced. They are too susceptible to stressful situations, which entails depressive states and further mental disorders. In dealing with them, it is important to avoid disputes and disagreements, otherwise the scandal cannot be avoided.
• Ethical-sensory extrovert. These are overt optimists, accustomed to relying "at random". As a rule, they do not plan anything in advance, so they often have problems with organizing their own time.

• Intuitive logic. They have excellent instinct, so they are used to relying on their intuition, even if her voice is contrary to common sense. The list of priorities in life is headed by work and further career advancement.
• Intuitive and ethical. These extroverts can convince anyone. Formalities and rules are not for them. Ideally analyze the behavior of other people, on the basis of which they can be flexible in communication, if they need it.
• Sensory-logical. Initiative is their middle name. Creative enough, always full of new ideas.Stress resistance can be considered a strong point of this type of personality, however, they are terribly disliked when their ideas lend themselves to criticism, and plans fail.
• Sensory-ethical. Often, representatives of this type are realized at the expense of other, weaker personalities. Not used to keeping your word and keeping your own promises. They try not to get too close to themselves and not to trust people. Moody and pretty picky.

In relationships, extroverts are trying to prevail. This is not surprising, because they have a very active life position, and they strive to be the first in everything.

Initially, consider an extravert-extrovert couple. Such an alliance is quite possible. However, all extroverts are different and in order to determine the most successful relationship, we will divide all extroverts conditionally into “passionate” and “business”.

We will call “Passionate” those who are actively searching for their soul mate, and make every effort to find a suitable couple. “Business”, we will designate those who are sure that “Happiness will come - it will find it on the stove”, that is, they fully rely on their fate, thinking that everything has its own time, and if there is no relationship at this stage, then it’s still did not come.

"Passionate" are less selective in choosing a partner, because of this they quickly make a decision about marriage, but such a marriage is not always successful and sometimes also quickly decays as it was built.

The priority in choosing a partner for “business” is true feelings. Without them, they are not ready to start a relationship or build a unit of society.

The union of two "business" is also theoretically possible, but in practice - only time will tell. In such a family, everyone will strive to influence the other and adjust it for themselves. However, neither side will succumb. Although, if the partners in this marriage make mutual concessions and listen to each other, such an alliance will be very happy and successful.

The union of “passionate” and “business” extroverts will also be based on mutual rivalry.

As for the relationship with its complete opposite - introverts, then everything depends on the type of pair. If a man is an extrovert, and a woman is an introvert, then with competent behavior on the part of the girl, extremely successful relationships can turn out, which will subsequently develop into something more. But the opposite option is better not to allow. Such marriages are rarely successful, as a woman will always feel stronger than her man. Over time, she will make him a complete “henpecked”, lose respect for him, and he, in turn, will suffer from constant pressure and reproaches from his wife.

In any situation, the introvert will always be a suffering party, because his partner is so sociable, there are always a lot of people around him, including the opposite sex. In such circumstances, it is difficult to cope with your emotions and jealousy, so scandals based on jealousy are possible here.

Any person should choose the type of activity, starting from not only their own “I want - I do not want”, but also based on their characteristics and type of temperament. In combination, these conditions would help many choose exactly those professions that were interesting to them and brought pleasure and a sense of self-realization. What areas of activity should our extroverts take a closer look at, we will consider below.

• Secretary In this area you need to communicate a lot.And who, if not the extrovert, does it best? Undoubtedly, communication is far from the only, and even more so, clearly not fundamental duty of the secretary. It is much more important here to help people who need it, organize their work and resolve problems.
• The teacher / teacher. Extroverts are as open and emotional as children. Therefore, occupying such a position, they will definitely feel "at ease".
• Journalist / correspondent. Extroverts have all the qualities that are necessary to become a successful journalist or correspondent and move up the career ladder: sociability, ability to present oneself, openness, ability to adapt in an unfamiliar environment, as well as the ability to smooth corners and deal with difficult situations.

• Administrator. If desired, an extrovert can be very convincing, which means that it can stimulate people to work as they should and fulfill their duties efficiently. Any administrator should have the ability to motivate people.
• Policeman. This profession is an opportunity to prove oneself. Suitable for purposeful, responsible and active people.

Communicating with a type of person whose psychological energy is directed into the outside world is not as difficult as it might seem at first glance. Moreover, extroverts are used to making contact themselves and starting communication first.

However, when interacting with them, it should be borne in mind that these are rather talkative natures who like to talk more than listen, so try not to interrupt them.

Since such people like big companies, parties and parties, they will appreciate those who will support them in this.

As for their relationship with others, they prefer not to become attached to others, easily start relationships, and just as easily give up on them.

Temperament is an important component that should be considered when raising a child. If your child is a sociable, open and socially oriented person, encourage this and in no case try to remake it.

At a very young age, this type of temperament is manifested by hyperactivity and excessive excitability. This is a curious fidget kid who is interested in absolutely everything around. This can frighten some parents and cause anxiety. However, do not panic, there is nothing wrong with that at all.

When they get older, they easily make friends among their peers, they do not have communication problems. They are always in the spotlight. This can be considered an undoubted advantage of such children, because while other parents must make a lot of efforts to accustom their child to society, extrovert kids are extremely independent in this regard.

Consider the main advantages of an extrovert child:

• quickly adapts to any environment;
• easily finds a common language with both peers and adults;
• inquisitive, without hesitation asks and learns something new;
• not afraid to say if he doesn’t like something;
• she’s not shy when all attention is directed to him, on the contrary, loves to be the soul of the company.

There are frequent cases when such children are born to parents representing their opposite - introverts who often just want to sit at home in peace and quiet. The kid cannot stand such a situation, he becomes bored and sad. In such a situation, problems may arise.

It is important to understand that it is impossible to ignore the child and his needs. Try to somehow participate and pay attention to your child. Talk with the child, listen to him: let him at least at evening dinner tell you what is in his soul, how the day went, and what interesting happened.

Many introverts, tired of their closeness and isolation, do not cease to wonder: “How to become an extrovert?”. Of course, a person can change, but not so dramatically. Nevertheless, they do not become extroverts, they are born. Each of us, when he is born into this world, is endowed with certain traits of character and temperament. Of course, throughout life, our psycho-types can undergo some changes, but they cannot be completely reversed, no matter how much a person tries.

However, it is worth noting here that it is almost impossible to meet a “pure” extrovert or introvert. Even introverts may show signs of extraversion to some extent. If these tendencies are developed, it is quite possible to slightly shift your psychotype from one pole to the other.

They say, "With whom you will lead ...". If you strive to develop your temperament in an extrovert manner, try to communicate and surround yourself with people of this particular psychotype. Thus, you can develop your sociability, love big companies and become a more open person.

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