Ambivert: who is it, how to recognize it and what professions suit him?

It is hard to surprise someone with the words "introvert" and "extrovert." But if these psychological terms are included in the circulation of most people, then the knowledge about ambivers is still insufficient. Meanwhile, this group is more common than it might seem.

The sonorous name "ambivert" contains a clue to the meaning. Many people know, of course, that “ambivalent” is called something that can have two opposite meanings at the same time. “Ambidextras” refers to people who are equally good at using two hands. Similarly, in psychology, the word "ambiversion" means the presence of both characteristics introverts and extroverts. This unique combination provides a good adaptation in a wide variety of human communities. The definition of an ambivert indicates that such a person harmoniously feels himself in the company of new people, and in a completely familiar environment.

It may seem that this means reaching a certain middle ground. People do not lock themselves in, but do not suffer in the absence of communication with the outside circle. However, this is not so: a high rate of communication and maintaining new acquaintances can be maintained only for a short time. Ambiverts can painfully perceive these or those statements of people around. Importantly, such a perception is sometimes preserved even with complete external calmness.

High adaptability to various circumstances, the ability to choose the most suitable behaviors - this is a characteristic feature of the ambivert.It is important to understand that in reality there are no “chemically pure” introverts and extroverts. In living people, and not in the psychotypes described in the special literature, the signs of extrovert and introvert types are inevitably mixed. And an ambivert is such a person, who with great difficulty even professionals can recognize the dominance of certain traits. Such individuals sometimes feel the need for quiet solitude.

But such a desire is transient and sometimes it is sharply replaced by the desire to communicate with other people, at least by telephone. Ambibert can recognize themselves by this property: if they are forced to remain in seclusion or communicate due to circumstances beyond their control, they will calmly endure this situation.

Another feature characteristic of the middle between an introvert and an extrovert is the absence of any noticeable problems during adaptation. Even communicating with a previously unknown person, the ambivert immediately understands that the interlocutor needs where he is cunning and where he is telling the truth. A mixture of varieties of character greatly facilitates empathy and recognition of even carefully concealed emotions.

Ambiverts feel equally good as an observer and as a leader. These manifestations can easily switch, because at some points in time, a sense of detachment is more important, and in others, a demonstration of their importance. An intermediate level of mental activity does not exclude a certain share of pride, but it rarely dominates. Ambivert rarely enter into conflict openly. What is important, such people and others are trying to keep from open hostility.

Such a person is effective both as an autonomous unit and as part of a formal or informal collective. When choosing a line of interaction with other people, she chooses not only the most profitable, but also the safest strategy. One that allows both to achieve a serious result with success, and to interrupt communication, cooperation, if failure occurs, if the other side behaves dishonestly. Such a choice occurs unconsciously, as if by itself. No need to study special literature, any training or painful thoughts.

Ambivert is largely created at the biological level. This is a specific ratio of excitation and inhibition in the brain. It should be borne in mind that despite the apparent prescription and predestination of mental flexibility, it can be adjusted, although it is difficult to correct. You can recognize your belonging to an ambivalent type of personality even without resorting to psychologists.

It is enough to realize the extent to which such moments are adequate for a person:

• periodic decrease in activity with the transition to the position of "observer";
• the manifestation of outstanding leadership and organizational qualities, but only in a specific situation that happens occasionally;
• the difference in the definition of behavior (some emphasize leadership inclinations, others almost do not notice);
• the ability to remain calm in almost any environment;
• equally positive result in the group and in isolation from it.

In some cases, ambiverts are more inclined toward extroversion. Such people can easily establish new contacts even with people from an unusual circle of friends, from another professional, ethnic or cultural group. The ability to easily exchange their thoughts and ideas about various problems, the willingness to disclose their experiences to the outside world is noted. However, periodically all the same, such ambivverts reduce activity and go into a “silent backwater”. There they restore their psychic energy, which helps subsequently re-communicate and establish interaction.

If it is not possible to stay in peace and quiet, exhaustion of mental forces, emotional and intellectual fatigue occurs much earlier than expressed extroverts. Therefore, they try to spend their holidays, weekends, sometimes even evenings and holidays away from people or with a minimum number of them. If it is not possible to go to the river bank, to the forest, to retire in an apartment or a house - just walk along the streets, trying to get away from places where they can meet colleagues or acquaintances.

But there is also the opposite type: an ambivert, "which is a little more introvert." Such a person prefers loneliness much more, feels literally a vital need for him. Public activity may also occur, but it is quite rare and short. Figuratively speaking, “going to the blackboard” at school or university, making a report at an annual meeting or a weekly meeting is still possible, but broadcasting on television or playing in the theater every day is already hard to make a movie. It should be noted that such a mixture of personal qualities can be carefully hidden. Among a large company - at a banquet, in a large work team, at a party, people around can admire the person’s relaxedness and wit, the manifestation of attention on his part. However, this costs a large expenditure of mental forces, sometimes causing internal discomfort.

Ambivert with a tendency to introversion is distinguished by the ability to reflect, ponder and clearly plan their actions. A person is perfectly aware of what his strengths and weaknesses are in a particular situation. It is possible to think over the optimal strategy of action, adjust it as necessary. Various failures and problems can be experienced quite acutely, but for others, except the closest, this is not always obvious.

The knowledge of the general characteristics of ambivers is not possible to find out to the end what their advantages and disadvantages are. This topic deserves a closer look. Painstaking, time-consuming work is quite accessible to the ambiververt. Although the result of a separate stage is not obvious, the very brilliant completion of a certain project, the embodiment of a plan gives a person joy. The main thing is that the goal is clearly stated, it turns out to be real and subjectively significant.

If these conditions are met, ambiviruses work systematically and successfully even where people of other psychological types “pass” and stop in front of difficulties. Distance from conflicts and the ability to extinguish them can reduce the level of confrontation in the team and around it. Therefore, the involvement of ambivers in work usually reduces the passions and increases the productivity of the group. Even where everyone else would be involved in a scandal, forgetting about the performance of official duty. Clear control over emotions:

• protects against rash decisions;
• allows you to distribute attention and application of efforts more rationally;
• helps to reflect the attempts of manipulators to change priorities, to give out important as unimportant and vice versa.

Ambiverts show attention and care towards other people. It is comfortable to communicate with them, even if the situation is unpleasant, and the mood deteriorated sharply. At the same time, the ability to maintain distance is also a useful property. This blocks attempts to psychological pressure, additionally complicates all sorts of ingenious manipulations. In the bud, excessive familiarity and the transformation of informal interactions in the collective into an instrument of some intrigue and squabble is prevented.

Ambivers know in advance how to make up for the deficit of psychic powers and emotional energy, and how to find inspiration.Such people, starting a new project for themselves, especially in an unusual field of activity, in a new environment or in unusual conditions, never try to “stake out” leadership positions for themselves. They "just" systematically work. And at this time, many others are trying to intrigue in their favor, to spin tricky combinations. Therefore, towards the end of the project, it becomes clear that it was the ambivers who completed the bulk of the work and achieved brilliant success.

It is important to note that ambivers are slightly worse than introverts adapted for long-term monotonous work. Yes, official necessity and volitional qualities, other external circumstances can force such people to engage in it. But overall productivity will still be too low. An ambivalent person must be wary of excessive sacrifice and the desire to devote his life to someone else. Another disadvantage of this type of character is the frequent self-confidence, reassessment of one's strengths; they are related to the fact that usually everything works out too well.

The foregoing applies to any work. Because almost everywhere there are cunning, manipulators, squabblers who must be resisted, contrasting the properties of character and objective result. But still there are areas of activity in which ambivirates should be involved in the first place. Jobs in large groups, as well as all positions involving constant communication with other people, are categorically not suitable for them. This kind of activity, if you have to do it all the time, quickly expends the power of ambivers and does not allow them to realize their advantages.

But at a remote work or in a small close-knit community, they feel much better and more confident. People of this psychological type should periodically demonstrate their own work, summing up the results of work for a certain time. They manage to achieve good results in creative work, in intellectual studies of a different kind, where there is no hard schedule and clear boundaries. Ambiverts can become great artists, writers; at the annual exhibition or at the presentation of a new book, they shine, and the rest of the time they work in peace and quiet.

It is important to understand that, first of all, for such a person, his own personality, well-being and comfort are important. Smart managers take this point into account when posting, when distributing instructions. Ambivers can be entrusted with the presentation to the contractors of the project on which they worked for a long time. These people will do well and with the introduction of new assistants, additional employees. But all types of leadership activities are not suitable for them.

Ambivert, on the other hand, can be effective sales consultants and exhibition workers. Extroverts are more active, but the intensity of their efforts, sometimes developing into obsession, turns into distrust, repels buyers or customers. Because of these reasons, it is useful to attract people with an ambivalent personality type in the field of marketing and advertising, as promoters, merchandisers, and salespeople. They deeply understand the motives and way of thinking of other people, they know how to find the optimal approach to them.

Ambiverts feel good as copywriters, rewriters, and editors. Such remote works, when the main thing is the ability to quickly understand the essence of a new task, especially the required style, as well as clear self-discipline in time and sequence of work, are optimal for them. But if you do not consider working with texts, you need to pay attention to volunteer activities. When such a person communicates with those in need of charity, he shows empathy.When preparing reports, solving financial problems and planning further activities, another positive character trait is included - pronounced rationality.

The above about sacrifice is also very important for:

• social workers;
• rescuers and firefighters;
• police officers;
• security guards;
• doctors and veterinarians.

All these people have to show compassion, but if necessary, quickly switch to a "strictly rational mode." The ability to understand others, coupled with rationality and security from manipulation, allows you to appoint ambivers to positions in the personnel service, in the enterprise security service. The reasoned presentation of one’s position to others and the ability to understand the opponent’s real motives are relevant for politicians and public figures, for diplomats and correspondents.

Life, however, is not limited to work. And for everyone - young men and women, adults and seniors, it is very important to know how to build personal relationships with ambivers. The easiest way is for those who initially belong to this type of personality. But the rest can be solved this problem, given the simple principles. First of all, you should not force ambivers to communicate and correspond each day, sometimes you need to let them not pay attention.

This type of personality leads to a bad attitude towards everyone who constantly complains and “whines”. Manipulations, even the thinnest, are recognized very quickly, and are effectively cut off ... along with manipulators. Counterproductive and emotional pressure, attempts at psychological pressure. Sometimes the ambivert is inferior, but will quickly go to break up relations in order not to give in again. It is undesirable all the time to force such people to be in the spotlight, to make active decisions.

There are a few more tips when dealing with ambivers:

• Do not show aggression;
• vulgarity and rudeness should be avoided;
• it is advisable to give the interlocutor to speak out without imposing a monologue;
• start communication with personal and interesting topics for a person;
• to show attention and care periodically during the transition to the introvert phase (although sometimes it is better to leave alone, alone - it all depends on sensitivity and a specific situation).

Eleven signs that the person is an ambivert are in the video below.