Manners of communication: what happen and how to make your speech beautiful?

Acquaintance with a new person begins with his assessment. First of all, evaluate the appearance. The first impression depends on how the clothes, hairstyle, additional accessories are selected. As soon as a person begins to speak, reinforcing his speech with facial expressions and gestures, a more holistic image is obtained. The manner of communication often determines the character of a person, his personal qualities, tastes and habits.

The concept of "manner" includes a combination of many factors. When communicating with other people, it is important how the conversation is conducted and which words are pronounced. Evaluated and your facial expressions during a conversation, and gestures, and even gait.

From the assessment of these factors, a definite opinion is formed about the interlocutor. A person with bad manners uses profanity, slang words. The habit of interrupting the interlocutor, intemperance, tactlessness, hostility are also considered bad form.

A cultured person is always respectful of other people. He is considerate, respectful with his elders, courteous with women, knows how to conduct a conversation correctly, is familiar with the intricacies of etiquette. Such people try to avoid conflict situations, maintain good relations with people. This determines the attitude of others around them.

Often people with poor manners are untidy dressed, or they may have a defiant style. A person with good manners usually has neat and clean clothes and shoes. Although there are situations when appearance is not related to behavior. Teenagers can dress shockingly trying to show their originality. However, they can be very cultural.

A correctly delivered speech has recently begun to lose its relevance. More and more often, foreign words, slang expressions enter our conversation. However, the use of new words can also mean enrichment of the language. Using them correctly and in place, you can easily support any conversation.

In modern society, people do not pay enough attention to the development of speech skills. Therefore, a cultured and educated person immediately stands out among the crowd using the right turns of speech and the absence of vulgar words. The manner of communication of such people will not remain unappreciated, because the Russian language is very rich and beautiful.

Properly delivered speech increases the location of your interlocutors, allows you to find a compromise in controversial situations, to come to an agreement in business matters. Especially this moment should be important for you if you often take part in public speaking.

If you want to learn the right communication skills and conversation skills, you you can start attending special classes in speech literacy. They are held for adults and children.

Students will be able to bridge the gaps in knowledge, master a competent speech, learn to behave more confidently. Thanks to such activities, older people will be able to improve their manners and get rid of the use of slang words.

You can also master oratory independently, performing certain actions.

• Start practicing by speaking tongue twisters or speaking words very quickly. So you improve your diction. The slow pronunciation of sounds and words will help in this.
• Pronounce the words clearly and reasonably loudly.
• Try to exclude slang words from speech, get rid of parasitic words (“well,” “in general,” “as it were,” “that is,” and others).
• Answer the questions clearly and distinctly, exclude from the vocabulary words such as "yep", "no-a."
• Develop your vocabulary, be open to new knowledge.

• Pay attention to proper stress.
• Try to express your thoughts accurately, concisely and concisely. Do not be distracted by trifles, immediately go to the heart of the matter.
• Make sure your conversation is logical. Do not jump from one thought to another.
• Do not speak too fast or too slow, maintain a moderate pace.
• In controversial situations, do not try to shout down others to prove you are right. Give everyone the opportunity to make their case. Do not interrupt the interlocutors. When they give you your word, calmly express your objections.
• You can use other techniques, for example, learn the technique of proper breathing.

By strengthening your voice and working out the correct pace of speech, you will significantly improve the quality of communication. And on how you will conduct the conversation, its final result will depend.

With constant training, mastering the technique of correct speech will not be difficult for you.

Here are some specific case studies to help you.

• No matter how busy you are at work, leave some time for reading classical literature. So you replenish your vocabulary. After reading the text, try to retell it. In the process of retelling, you will immediately notice errors and shortcomings and you can work on them.
• Use game training. One of the most interesting and popular is the game in which participants must describe a certain subject in 10 minutes. This is not as easy as it may seem. Such exercises give excellent results for the development of correct speech.
• Perform an imitation exercise. Turn on the TV and try to repeat after the announcer all that he says, using his intonation and observing all the pauses. Be sure to say the text out loud. You can also try to imitate your favorite singers or movie actors. Follow the manner of performance, behavior.
• Many people are very modest by nature. By introducing yourself to a large number of people, you can become more confident. Public speaking involves great responsibility and increased attention to his speech.

With this exercise, you will not only be able to find your own style and learn to conduct a dialogue, but also be able to overcome the fear of such situations.

The general idea of ​​him as a person depends on how a person gestures. If you want to make a good impression, you need to not only express your thoughts beautifully, but also be able to control your body.

Knowing what these or those gestures mean, you can not only have interlocutors to yourself. You will be able to analyze the behavior of other people. You will quickly and easily determine how interested the partner is in the conversation, whether it is worth starting a conversation or even doing business with this person.

Consider several of the most common gestures.

1. Gesture of openness can tell a lot about the interlocutor. If a person is in a good and joyful mood, he sits relaxed, his jacket is unfastened. This means that the interlocutor is positive, all his words are sincere. During business negotiations at the conclusion of the transaction, if the issue is resolved to the benefit of both parties, the partners usually move to the table and unfasten the buttons of the jacket. In some cases, they can even take it off.
2. For a person solving a problem or looking for a way out of a situation, a pensive facial expression is common. If someone plucks the bridge of the nose, it means that he is fully focused on his inner thoughts. In this case, it is better not to disturb the person and not to distract from the thought process.
3. If your partner rests his chin on his hands, this means that he is very skeptical, does not accept your evidence or objections. The content of the conversation is also not very interesting to him.

Pay attention to the position of the hands, especially if they are on the chest. This gesture can mean both a way of protection and a negative attitude. Depending on how a person crosses his arms on his chest, you can determine the nature of this gesture.

• Just crossing your arms means you are in danger. Sometimes this pose can also mean a calm state if the conversation is friendly.
• Crossed arms with clenched fists indicate that it is worth stopping the conversation. Such a pose indicates hostility. As a last resort, try changing the subject or changing the pace of the conversation.
• If the interlocutor’s hands grab his shoulders, it means that he is negatively tuned. Sometimes such a gesture is accompanied by a mocking smile. In this case, it is possible that he is being restrained from the last forces. If urgent measures are not taken in such a situation, a scandal may break out.

You can also say a lot about the person by gait. From the pace at which he goes, how much his head is raised, whether he waves his hands or holds them in his pockets, you can determine the nature, state of health and even the age of the person.

1. Arrogant people can be seen in the way they “walk” with their chin up, reminiscent of a stork.
2. A confident person can be identified by a characteristic calm and confident gait.
3. If a person goes fast, waving his arms at the same time, you can understand that he is determined, ready to cope with any problems.
4. Closed and insecure people often stoop, walk with their heads down, not looking at passers-by.

Of great importance is facial expressions. The effectiveness of your dialogue depends on how much you can "read" the expression on the person you are talking to. From the facial expressions of a person, you can understand how he is configured, whether it is worth continuing the conversation.

• During the conversation, try to look into the interlocutor’s eyes most of the time. If you want to achieve a result, your eyes should meet up to 70% of the time. Shackled people who try to look away usually have less confidence.
• It is important to monitor the position of the lips. If a person smiles, he is friendly. If lips are compressed, it means that he doubts or is not happy. The lowered corners of the mouth indicate that the interlocutor is upset.
• And even by the pupils you can judge the partner’s reaction to what is happening. If a person begins to get angry, his pupils become smaller. If he is happy or excited about something, they expand.

From what manners you possess, the attitude of others around you depends.

1. Listen to others, be friendly and honest, smile.
2. In conversation, always be correct and restrained.
3. Try to look into the partner’s eyes more often, especially if you’re talking with a lady.
4. Control your posture during the conversation, keep a distance between the interlocutors.
5. Watch your facial expressions and gestures, pay attention to the behavior of the partner.
6. Replenish your vocabulary, read more. Watch your speech, do the exercises described above.
7. Working on yourself, you can become a welcome conversationalist. You will find an approach to different people, avoid unpleasant situations. You can also earn the respect of colleagues and the trust of friends, develop a business “grip”, achieve excellent results in business.

You will learn more about manners of communication from the next video.