Conversation Rules

It's nice to talk to a smart person. Nowadays, live communication is becoming a luxury, and people appreciate good people. Even a minor conversation will become more enjoyable if you know how to conduct it correctly, how to direct it in the right direction.

Your effectiveness in negotiations depends on the culture of communication. You must understand which behavior will be appropriate now and which will be unacceptable. The basic rules for building a conversation are not so complicated. To improve communication efficiency, use this memo.

During a conversation, you should always monitor your vocabulary, intonation and tone. Slang, professional jargon, rarely used words are not always and not always appropriate. One and the same phrase can sound completely different depending on how it is pronounced. Even if you are annoyed, do not show it to others.. Calmness, politeness, confidence, thoroughness are your best allies in conducting a constructive dialogue.

Separately, it should be said about confidential intonation - it allows the interlocutor to feel on an equal footing with you, although perhaps you surpass his knowledge in any matter.

Do not forget about the smile. It is much more pleasant to look at a smiling face than at a beech, and thus you will subconsciously associate with your vis-a-vis with positive emotions.

Conversations are informal when discussion topics are chosen spontaneously and businessly, when a discussion of a specific issue is supposed.A business conversation requires preparation and organization, you must be at least competent in the topic. If the communication is business, do not be distracted by the discussion of other problems.

Relaxed conversation requires much more developed speech etiquette skills from the interlocutors. The main rule - do not tell the interlocutor what they themselves would not want to hear.

There are other rules:

• you should not talk about things that, one way or another, can hurt the interlocutor - no one likes to discuss unpleasant topics;
• the question you are discussing should be interesting to your conversation partner, something highly specialized, scientific is not the best choice;
• modesty adorns a person: one should not praise oneself and extol one’s own merits, it is unlikely that this will interest an interlocutor - his actions speak much more about a person than words;
• a discussion of a third person who is not present during the conversation is also not always appropriate: to gossip and gossip - for a real small talk this is a bad man;
• a good joke is to decorate the conversation, but only if it is appropriate.

• if a dispute arises, you should not turn it into a mess, it is much easier to do than you might think - just keep respect for the person you are talking to: do not hang up labels, don’t “get personal,” do not make fun of someone else’s point of view, and do not impose your own ;
• the stage of completing the conversation is important: the conversation does not need to be artificially prolonged - you can pass for a bore, it is much more effective to consolidate a pleasant impression of yourself by politely saying goodbye.

This skill is the criterion of human sociability. People like to talk about themselves, and you, listening, can make the right impression about the person you are talking to. Listen carefully and nod. This gesture not only means agreement, but also demonstrates your interest.

Show interest only this interest should be sincere. “Involvement” in the conversation and the absence of falsehood will always make you a welcome guest. A great way to keep the conversation going is clarifying questions. Their wording may be: “Do you mean that ...?”, “Do you want to say that ...?”

Everyone knows that it’s ugly to interrupt since childhood, but in the heat of argument they often forget about it. Do not interrupt, let the person express their arguments to the end, do not be confused. After all, you can draw the right conclusions only after listening.

During the conversation you should be comfortable. Both on a psychological and physiological level. Otherwise, it will be very difficult for you to feel the inner interest, which makes you a pleasant interlocutor. Nothing should distract you.

Being in a comfortable state for yourself, you can easily make a natural adjustment. This is an NLP technique, the essence of which is that you take the same pose as your interlocutor, use similar gestures.

See how to talk right in the next video.