The basics of time management for moms: how to keep up with the baby?

The fact that dad cannot be a mom was noticed by the legendary Mikhail Tanich in his famous song. But the fact that it’s mom can do anything, any woman who has a child will say. Especially hard she has to tear to pieces in the first months after the appearance of the baby. How to do everything with the child and how time management will help, this article will tell.

Keeping up with the baby is not just difficult - it is impossible in principle. But to reduce the time to complete certain tasks is quite real. And this applies not only to those women on whose hands are newborns.

The popular "tomato method" is not suitable for them, when a person starts a timer for 25 minutes and spends them solely on the performance of a particular task. Moms in these same 25 minutes that just will not happen! The kid suddenly wakes up, wants to eat, guests or parents will come, the husband will return from work. But, oddly enough, even such problems can be planned.

As a reward you will receive:

• time for yourself: rest, hairdo, manicure, massage, relaxing bath;
• a strong nervous system: I didn’t have time here, I was late for it - this is not about you anymore, because a woman using time management has everything under control;
• healthy sleep: surprisingly, there will also be time for it;
• a full bowl: the refrigerator will be full, the house will be in order, the child and husband will be fed and satisfied.

For women, it is important not only to draw up a plan, but also to leave time in it for all sorts of pleasant and not very unexpected things. The rules for scheduling a day are very simple.

• Do not include there more than you are able to fulfill. On the contrary, reduce the list of queries to yourself.
• Leave time for things that cannot be predicted in advance. Climbed teeth, colic in the tummy, too long a queue in the clinic, a burst pipe in the bathroom, the appearance of the first scratch in the baby - all this should have time for you.

Ask at the site of the mother, who walks with two or even three young children, how she does everything. She will answer that it was more difficult with the first, and this is true. It is important for housewives to be able to properly distribute their time and energy. With experience, this, of course, will come. But it would be nice from the very beginning not to push yourself into the corner of everyday problems. Of course, it is even more difficult for working mothers, but at their disposal most often are babysitters and other housekeepers. So this is a slightly different case.

But even if you do not have time, do not be discouraged, you are already a great fellow. Set aside such “beautiful” little things as washing windows and painting the fence in the country until next year. Light through the glass will pass perfectly, but the fence without paint will not fall.

Remember one rule “You are doing everything right.” If suddenly it seemed that nothing was done during the day, take a piece of paper and a pen and write down everything that you did during the day. They bathed the baby five times, fed six times, changed the diaper eight times, warmed up the food - that's all.

Rule two - less fanaticism. No need to scrub the floor from morning to night, and a thin layer of dust can wait until tomorrow.

If you are not the chef of a Michelin star restaurant, take it easy. Stop creating culinary masterpieces, relax at least for a minute. How to do this, consider the points.

• Cook a few days in advance, there’s nothing wrong with yesterday’s borsch. On the contrary, this dish should be infused.
• Buy food for a week. Macaroni and cereals are best taken a month in advance.
• Go to the store with the list. Its absence will lead to the fact that you have to come back for some trifle, and this will take precious time.
• Take the shelf under the canned food. This is not as harmful as they say: at least nerves are more expensive. A sandwich with cod from a jar is no worse than a sandwich with sausage. Ask your parents to share homework with you.
• Make strategic stocks in the freezer. It is not only about dumplings: put there a stock of meatballs or meatballs, chopped vegetables, sausages, pour the broth into containers and send it for long-term storage. At a difficult moment you will be fully equipped. And you yourself will not stay hungry, and feed your husband, and respect the finicky mother-in-law.
• Cook in stages. Wash the vegetables for soup in the morning. At lunch, while the child is carried away by a new toy, cut them. Toward evening, when my mother came to the rescue, throw in a pan. Otherwise, cooking the first dish will turn into a continuous hassle. The broth will “run away” almost guaranteed.
• Use a slow cooker more often during cooking. It helps a lot to save time. You just need to put the food in the bowl, and then get ready-made food.

We recommend that we remember that fanaticism and overloving for purity should be left until better times (do not be afraid, they will come faster than you would like). But launching the farm is also not worth it, although it is better to forget about spring cleaning.

Allocate a specific time that you will spend on putting things in order daily. For example, 20 minutes. It is not as small as it seems. It is enough to wash the dishes if there is no dishwasher.

By the way, about the pleasant: try to leave it for later. At the beginning of the day, do the most unloved work. In the computer (laptop, phone), you also need to clean up. Unsubscribe from all unnecessary newsletters, let them no longer "eat" your precious time.

Put things in order in other, non-virtual storages. Throw out all unnecessary from the cabinet. Hand out those baby things that the baby no longer wears, give, give, sell, no matter how cute and dear to your heart. Any extra thing in the house is an extra mess. To shift it, to wash it, to hide it in the far corner. As a result, the woman was already tired, although she did nothing really useful.

A washing machine is available in every home. Gone are the days when mothers washed by hand. Do not listen to the mother-in-law, modern powders for children are hypoallergenic and make the baby's diapers and clothes much cleaner and safer than even the most thorough hand wash.

Speaking of ironing: keep it to a minimum. Panties, socks and other accessories may well do without an iron. If your husband is pedantic and wants to have ironed socks and trousers with arrows, invite him to do it yourself, at least for the duration of your maternity leave.

Only his mother can put in a word about a poor spouse, she is your beloved mother-in-law. While the woman is on maternity leave, she simply must forget that her husband is very tired at work, he has a fine mental organization and he needs to get enough sleep. Nonsense. This young woman, among other things, needs to feed her baby, look dazzling, find time for her husband and parents. So let them answer the same.

So, boldly hand over the following things to your husband’s hands.

• Trips (trips) for food, diapers, diapers, medicines. Just give him clear instructions on what exactly to buy. Milk in a blue box may well turn into condensed milk in his head, and the diapers will be of the wrong size, because he is always at work and does not notice how quickly the baby grows.
• Taking out the trash. No instructions are needed here. A package in your hands - and until the evening, dear.
• Bathing the baby. It seems to you that he does everything wrong, your mother-in-law, of course, too. Her "boy" was tired at work, and this is not a man’s business. All this is not so, any person is able to catch and endure much more than he considers. Your spouse will not drown her own child! So over time, he will successfully cope with the task.
• Ironing. Maybe then the beloved himself will understand the pointlessness of ironing socks and underwear. Ironing bed linen and towels is also quite possible to refuse. After the air conditioner they are already fresh and not particularly wrinkled. One night on the bed changes their appearance much more seriously than an hour in a centrifuge.

Do not leave older children aside from worries in connection with the birth of a little brother or sister. This will not only facilitate some of the tasks for you, but also enable the child to feel necessary, and not deprived in connection with the birth of a small one.

If you use all of the above tips, or at least some of them, then you will easily find time for yourself.

From time to time, visit beauty salons and massage, take a walk in the fresh air (without a stroller), swim in the pool, read, watch TV shows, meet friends, go to theaters, cinema, museums, and go shopping with them. Do everything that you loved to do before giving birth. Perhaps not as often as before, but take care of your personal space. This in the future will save family values.

How many stories are known when husbands run away from their wives, when they turn into a “brood hen”. Look at yourself in the mirror. You are the most attractive and charming. Stay so, do not allow yourself to confine yourself only to the home world.

Try to do several things at once. If you cook, at the same time organize a lesson for the child to develop hand motor skills. Give a bowl of buckwheat or beans, let the baby sort it out. In this case, at least 10 minutes of silence is provided to you.

When brushing your teeth, wipe the bathroom mirror with your free hand. Wait a minute, but save. Go to the kitchen for water - collect all the cups along the way and throw them into the sink or immediately into the dishwasher.

If the baby requires outdoor games, do exercises. Instead of dumbbells, boldly take the child in your arms and start doing exercises together. When everything falls out of your hands, allow yourself a little weakness, let go a tear. A woman is not a robot. She is not only a laundress, cook, maid. She is also a lover, mother, daughter, sister, but above all - a representative of the fair sex. And this must be remembered not only by herself, but by everyone around her.

After crying a little, throw out all the negativity, fatigue and anger that have accumulated over the past few days. But do not get carried away, and depression is not far away.