Pre-wedding chores and fuss captivate not only the main heroes of the occasion, but all relatives. Everyone wants to contribute to the wedding, give advice and valuable (in their opinion) instruction. But there are also traditions. To comply with them or not is a question for the bride and groom, who must decide for themselves whether their wedding will be classical and traditional or non-standard and modern. There are many wedding traditions and they relate to literally everything. Even the purchase of a wedding dress can be determined by customs that came to us from our ancestors.
Who, according to Russian traditions, should buy a dress for the bride?
In Russia, it was customary for the bride herself to create her wedding attire, as well as to prepare a dowry for herself. By the beauty and decoration of the dress, one could judge the girl's abilities, her skill and hard work. Therefore, each girl wanted to appear before guests and relatives in the most beautiful and richly decorated dress. By the way, by tradition, it should have been red.
Over time, these traditions began to be forgotten, and wealthy parents of the bride hired tailors to create a wedding decoration. Even the color of the dress changed from red to white and pastel.
If the groom managed to visit Europe, then he tried to bring the dress from there for his future bride. So the opinion arose that the groom should buy a wedding dress.
In the Soviet Union, the wedding celebration itself and the preparations for it were simplified, and old traditions began to be forgotten.Not much time was devoted to the wedding, dresses for the bride and groom were ordered at the nearest atelier, accessories were bought in the store, and the celebration itself was held in a cafe or restaurant.
True, there was and is one tradition that continues to be followed - the groom should not see the dress chosen by the bride until the wedding. Otherwise, the marriage may be unhappy. But back to our question: who needs to be attracted to the choice of a wedding dress and to whom to entrust his purchase.
Groom or his parents
Many believe that the groom and his family should bear the cost of buying not only dresses, but all additional items. This tradition is more common in Central, Southeast Asia and among Caucasian residents.
The outfit is chosen entirely by the groom's relatives, including jewelry that can only be gold. Thus, the groom's family demonstrates their wealth and how strong are the groom's feelings for the bride.
If you are also lucky and the groom shows a desire to fully pay for the entire outfit of the bride, then you, as his future wife, should offer the mother-in-law to visit the wedding salon and choose a dress together. It will be prudent to pre-visit the same salon with the person you know better and trust his taste and point of view more. Having noticed the suitable options, show their mother-in-law and make the final choice. You can consider buying accessories for two with your future mother-in-law.
It would be foolish to refuse the groom's offer to pay for your wedding outfit. It is only necessary to preliminarily discuss the total amount that you can have.
If the dress you chose turned out to be more expensive, then either you have to pay the difference yourself, or look for a more budget option.
A common situation is the purchase of a dress by the groom, while the bride takes the cost of accessories.
The bride or her parents
Situations can be different and it is possible that relatives from the side of the bride will buy a dress. In this case, you need to take your mother by the hand and collect close friends whose opinion you trust.
Here you also need to know the amount that you can count on, have an idea about the style and style that suits you.
Before going to the salon and trying on dresses, consult with a fashion designer, look at the fashion trends of this season, study the recommendations of specialists regarding the choice of dresses according to the type of your figure. The choice of dress is also affected by the time of year, weather conditions, the venue of the celebration and the theme of the wedding.
How in other countries is buying a dress
In European countries, all wedding expenses are shared between the bride and groom. Parents take little part.
If the wedding takes place in Germany and there is no wedding, the bride chooses for herself not even a wedding dress, but simply a festive or elegant one, which she buys on her own.
Brides from the East get married in a dress bought by the groom's relatives.
In America, the bride herself must choose the garters, which are not just an accessory and an element of underwear. They rush the groom into the crowd of their unmarried friends. This tradition is very similar to throwing a bouquet. This tradition is becoming increasingly popular in Russia.
If you look at Brazil, the groom’s family does not take any part in choosing and buying a dress for the bride - everything falls on the shoulders of the bride’s relatives.
Modern point of view on the purchase of a wedding dress
In the modern world, there are rules that determine the features of the process of preparing for a wedding. No one is so obsessed with who should buy a dress for the bride.
Increasingly, young people make up the general budget, which goes to all expense items. If the woman is quite wealthy, then most likely she herself will want not only to buy a dress, but also to pay half the banquet.
No matter the situation in your case, you must definitely agree on the choice of style in clothes for the bride and groom.
I believe that the bride should buy a wedding dress for herself. If there is no money, then you can choose the simplest model. The husband should sponsor the wife’s whims after the wedding)