Jealous, then loves ... So most modern women think. Are they right or wrong?
The causes of jealousy
Jealousy is a complex set of emotions. It has a sense of ownership, a fear of losing a partner and basic instincts. There are several causes of jealousy in men and women:
- it is inherent in nature by nature: violent temper and hot temperament provoke suspicion;
- a girl or boyfriend flirts with other young people or their ex behaved in a similar way;
- the man or woman has a “snout in the cannon”, and they try to find a problem in a partner in order to justify themselves unconsciously
- pathological jealousy may lie in mental illnesses that require treatment by the appropriate doctor.
Why is the husband or boyfriend not at all jealous?
There are girls who would give a lot in order not to tolerate ridiculous suspicions from the second half. Since women are very emotional, they experience zealous attacks from scratch. But there are ladies who, on the contrary, provoke men by flirting with the opposite sex. These girls want a passion, but often do not see absolutely no reaction. Why is this happening? Does this mean that the guy does not love his girlfriend?
In fact, men are not jealous of the soulmate in the following situations.
- They trust her as themselves. These guys don't even consider her flirting games seriously. If the relationship went through fire and water, then it makes no sense to come up with problems sucked from your finger.
- They do not need confirmation of their significance. Successful men are almost never jealous of their girlfriend or wife. They understand that their woman simply does not make sense to look for someone on the side. After all, finding a replacement will not be easy.
- They love their soulmate so infinitely that they will forgive her any prank, and possibly even treason. Such guys will close their eyes to everything, if only this girl would remain paired with them.
- They do not consider treason to be something terrible. Lovers of free relationships will not be offended if their girlfriend goes down one or two to the left. These guys themselves can commit a similar act without experiencing remorse.
Why isn’t the girl jealous?
Although girls tend to see rivals in the surrounding girls, they often do not show a sense of jealousy. This happens most often when the guy really loves them and with his behavior gives confidence in the absence of betrayal.
In fact, a relationship where a girl doesn’t saw her boyfriend with eternal reproaches that he didn’t look at a beautiful lady like that is just perfect.
And most likely, the woman is not jealous, because she loves and trusts her partner.
Do I need to do something if you are not jealous: psychologist's advice
If the problem of lack of jealousy does not cease to put a heavy stone on the heart, it is better to follow the following recommendations:
- talk with your loved one and once again listen to his exhortations that everything is fine;
- try to easily hint about how it would be nice to sometimes feel jealous;
- do not continue to flirt with others, otherwise it may go too far;
- to think again about how difficult it would be to build a relationship with a pathological jealous person or a jealous woman and feel constant surveillance;
- renew the wardrobe and carefully monitor the appearance: it is possible that then the partner will really start to worry that someone wants to take his beautiful soul mate away;
- to appreciate the freedom that a calm, non-anxious person provides.
Lack of jealousy does not mean a lack of love. This is just a warehouse of character and a combination of circumstances.
Therefore, you should not make an elephant out of a fly, you need to appreciate what you have at the moment.
About the psychology of jealousy, see the video below.
