Male jealousy: signs and causes

People have different feelings for each other. Some hate, others passionately love. And there is still a feeling like jealousy. It is said that jealousy and love always go hand in hand.

The stereotypical opinion has no basis. A truly loving person will try his best not to hurt family and friends.

The science of psychology is dedicated to the soul. She studies and describes the emotional state of a person. Jealousy is one of the most vivid feelings that not only people but also animals can experience. Men and women have a different temperament. The feeling of jealousy hurts more than those who cannot and do not want to restrain their emotions.

Male representatives are jealous of their chosen ones for various reasons. Consider the most common.

• Take, for example, a person who is very emotional, but kind and gentle. And he managed to fall in love a lot! And the woman gave, albeit a small, but a reason for jealousy. Due to intemperance, he can afford to express dissatisfaction in a mild form and nothing more.
• Another person also has an unrestrained character, but to everything else he is rude, ill-mannered and cruel. This cocktail of feelings leads to the fact that love for him becomes an obsession. Such an individual will not stand on ceremony if his girlfriend gives cause for jealousy. He will throw out all the negativity to others. First of all, the object of his adoration will go to him.
• The next case is the most unpredictable. The man is an egoist. Everything that surrounds him should belong only to him! He always loves only himself.

• The combination of cruelty and self-doubt is the worst case. Such a man is capable of any action. He can afford violence against women. No reason for this is needed. He will come up with it himself. It will be such an act of self-affirmation. For him, his girlfriend is simply a “beating doll” that can be offended to throw out his negative emotions.

Of course, there are many more examples. Each man is characterized by individual character traits that can be intertwined in different ways. Take a closer look at your companion, and you can determine for yourself which of these examples is closer to his behavior.

Men's self-confidence, sometimes even unconscious, leads to the suffering of his loved ones. A jealous husband is a disaster for a woman. People say "beats and is jealous, that means, loves." But how unpleasant it is to look at the scene when the husband chases his half-naked wife along the street with his fists. The poor thing does not know where to get from such "love."

First of all, this is a feeling of possessiveness. If a person is not indifferent to another, he feels the fear of losing his object of adoration. And this is quite natural. But in different cases, this manifests itself in different ways.

It all depends on why the person became so jealous. Perhaps in his distant childhood there was a psychological trauma. Maybe the mother left the family for another man and left them with her father. Then it will seem to such an individual that his beloved will sooner or later do the same.

Feeling of self-doubt, fear of total loneliness push a man timid in everyday life to jealousy. He considers himself a simple person. He works at the factory, is interested in football, does not read books. And the wife, on the contrary, is an intellectual, pretty, smart, works at a prestigious job.

The disproportion of personal qualities and characters will lead to the fact that the husband will develop a depressive state. He will become irritable and suspicious. He will begin to control his spouse in all her actions, so as not to make it possible to understand that he is not worthy of her.

Sometimes a male representative is focused on some insoluble problem that happened in his life. After experiencing grief, he is afraid of losing the last loved one. Therefore, a man will be jealous of his chosen one and try not to lose sight of her every step.

Women are different. Some deliberately go into conflict and try to cause jealousy of the spouse, flirt "right and left." They like it, so they assert themselves and entertain themselves and the people around them. As a result, this behavior inevitably leads to scandals and divorces.

Jealousy in a man can cause his wife to be too independent. When she allows herself to do whatever she wants, she has a well-paid job and rotates in the men's team. A sense of possessiveness and dignity will not allow her husband to endure such behavior of the spouse for a long time. In the end, he will first begin to make complaints, and if this does not help, he will pack up and leave the house.

Rumors, baseless talk about cheating on a wife can also set a man to show jealousy.

Over time, the man gives in to suggestion and begins to treat his soulmate with suspicion. This leads to scandals and disorder in the family.

Male jealousy is not visible to the naked eye. This feeling can be “encrypted” for various reasons for the manifestation of discontent in everyday life.

Experienced specialists have learned to identify implicit signs of jealousy and identify its causes. However, you yourself can see whether a loved one is jealous of you or not.To do this, compare the following examples with examples of your man’s behavior. If you notice a match, then change your behavior, making it clear that you are a faithful spouse.

• For example, a husband often finds fault with your makeup, and too bright clothes make him furious. A special relationship with an animal, such as a dog, also annoys him.
• Some husbands are interested in all the things that happen around the missus. They need to know everything to the smallest detail: what you talked to with your girlfriend on the phone, what is happening in the team and even what tram you came home on today and so on.
• Frequent visits to parents can also cause possessive feelings. The man will grumble about the fact that there is no food in the house (although the refrigerator is full of provisions), and his wife walks at this time in an unknown place.
• Often, women cannot understand what caused the husband’s aggression. All attempts to establish contact do not find understanding. Increased spleen irritability and nervousness can also be the result of jealousy.
• Gloominess and reticence will also tell about a fit of jealousy of the husband. An itchy feeling causes stress, and therefore a person closes in on himself. Anxious thoughts do not allow to relax.

• A man can often disappear at work. This does not mean that he is cheating on you. Perhaps this is how his hidden jealousy manifests itself. He freaks out and wants you to pay attention to him and think for yourself that you can lose your beloved.
• Incidentally, many psychologists noted the fact that people who had been married for a very long time and had a very respectable age came to their consultation. It turns out that the husband was jealous of his wife because he was afraid to lose not only a loved one, but also the existing way of life, which completely suited him. At first glance, it seems that attacks of jealousy in this category of people can cause only a touching smile, but there is nothing funny here. People, indeed, experience the fear of loss, which overshadows their minds.
• To give one more example: a woman already had one unsuccessful marriage, after which she married again. Now they are happy with their current spouse. Their happiness violates the husband’s jealousy of his wife’s past life. It seems to the man that his wife could not completely forget her first love to the end. Anxiety on this occasion provides fertile ground for the outbreak of family conflict.

First of all, you need to figure out how jealousy is manifested, and then act. Some women in forums where family problems are discussed complain that the husband bothers them with his overly obsessive behavior. For example, calls every half hour as soon as the wife leaves the house, interferes with communication with friends or does not allow to be alone in the country, controls every step or offers a ride at every opportunity.

I must say that there is no problem. On the contrary, rejoice that you have such a caring man. Other women can only dream of such care.

Another thing is if a man shows signs of aggression. There are two options. If tolerating such behavior is not only impossible but also dangerous, then you need to terminate the relationship as quickly as possible. If you love your chosen one and feel that everything can be adjusted, then be steadfast and try to carry out a series of actions aimed at the full restoration of mutual understanding.

So, we set goals and strictly follow the recommendations.

• Eliminate jealousy. Stop doing bright makeup, adjust your behavior, remove short skirts from the wardrobe (give them to unmarried friends). And no communication with men.Even with classmates, at least for a short time, you need to stop talking.
• Do not cause conflicts. If your husband suspects you of treason, do not deny anything, do not shout, and explain in a calm voice under what circumstances you were late at work. Then leave your husband alone for a while. Just go to another room. Let him think about the problem and calm down.
• Each time, convince your chosen one that he is very dear to you as a man and as a person. Say that you will never meet this again. And, in general, you are not going to look for anyone. You have happiness - it is HE and you do not need anything else.
• Do not blame your husband in response to allegations directed in your direction. Explain to him that this behavior upsets and offends you greatly. It interferes with your happiness.
• Do not hide anything from him. Leave your phone in a conspicuous place. Let him know that you have nothing to hide.
• When a spouse, treat other members of the stronger sex more than indifferently. Never set other men as an example to your husband.
• Create comfort in the house and treat your man with love, making it clear that he is the most expensive and unique in the world.

It is not easy to get rid of an unpleasant feeling. But you must really want this, and then everything will work out. No one can accomplish this task except yourself.

• Sit in front of the mirror and look at yourself from the side. Think of the emotions you feel when your husband is jealous of you. Write unpleasant feelings on paper. Then show them to your husband and explain that it poisons your life and destroys your family.
• Talk to your husband one on one. Ask him to admit that he is jealous of you. Explain to him that you do not need to hide feelings and be ashamed of them. Everything is fixable. This will be his first step in getting rid of an obsessive feeling.
• Try to understand the true cause of husband’s jealousy. This can be done when you are alone. Bring him to a frank conversation. Explain to each other. Let everyone express their grievances and claims. Such actions will help you better understand the problem areas of your life.

• Engage in a joint business. For example, start saving money for a summer house or a new car. A new hobby puts jealousy in the background.
• Radiate positive and pretend that you are happy, no matter what. This behavior will attract the attention of the spouse, and he will take an example from you. The more positive, the sooner you get closer.
• Try to save your spouse from obsessive thoughts. Download it with work, for example, start repairs in the apartment. Take an active part yourself. So you can distract your spouse from bad thoughts, and teamwork will contribute to your rapprochement.
• Constantly convince your spouse that the past remains in the past. It is necessary to forget the old insults and disappointments.
• Create coziness and comfort. If you have children, then spend more free time with them and with your spouse. Gather your spouse at the same table and talk about all the positive features of your family.
• Praise your husband for his loyalty and consciousness. Thanks to his efforts, you do not need and live without any special material problems. This will increase his self-esteem, and he will find fault with you less.

Do not be afraid to identify the negative aspects of your life. You need to look the problem directly in the eye. As soon as you start looking for and correcting mistakes, you will feel that life is changing for the better. You can always leave, but you’ll regret your lost relationship all your life. Therefore, one must strive for understanding and dialogue.