Should I return my husband after parting and how to do it?

Often, divorce gives an impetus to start a new life. But the decision to break the union is not always mutual for the spouses. It happens that the husband becomes the initiator of the breakup, while the wife still has feelings for her man. In this situation, the woman, of course, wants to return the former spouse as soon as possible. The article will discuss how to reconnect with a man after parting.

Divorce brings not joyful emotions. Often, women become depressed and for a long time can not pull themselves together. It is especially difficult to experience a divorce if you still have feelings for your husband. The woman desperately wants to restore relations. Sometimes it seems to her that she is ready for almost anything, just to make her husband return to the family.

In such a situation, it is important to allow yourself to cool slightly. Impulsive impulses sometimes lead to consequences that are regrettable. Let the emotions calm down a little to think the whole situation as soberly and rationally as possible.

So, you broke up with the man and now really want him to come back to you. Such a desire is quite logical, but it is worth checking, for its own good, how sincere it is. Perhaps you are mainly guided by resentment and impaired pride.

Often, women are ashamed of the fact that they could not keep the spouse. In such situations, they seek to return everything to normal only in order to prove to others its viability. However, with the return of the man with this approach, the old problems will return.

When the husband leaves for another woman, the abandoned wife can set herself the goal by any means to break up their couple. Including actively trying to lure the former spouse back. Of course, this adventure is very likely to lead to nothing good.

Agree, couples do not break up completely from scratch. So you still had some problems. Whether they were in your husband or in you is not particularly important. The key in this situation is whether you both have a desire and a willingness to work on flaws and mistakes. Without such work, your reunion may prove futile and futile.

Another important point in the decision to restore the family is that a person changes over time. You can expect your husband to be the same as you knew him in marriage. However, various events and a life separate from you could leave a serious imprint on his personal qualities. Your man may change some views, become more emotional, or, conversely, as if to withdraw into himself. It may well change those feelings that he once felt for you.

So: before moving on, let's summarize all of the above. Consider your desire to restore a relationship with your ex-husband. Test your feelings for sincerity. Try to honestly figure out what are the reasons for your desire to return your spouse to the family. If this is still an infringement of pride or revenge on his new passion, then most likely your restored alliance will still not stand the test of time. For a full recovery of the couple, the mutual sincere desire of each partner is important.

The union, which broke up, but was again restored after some time, has certain advantages:

• partners already have experience living together and living;
• it is possible to take into account past mistakes in the relationship and work through them;
• the spouses who came together after the separation know the characters and personal characteristics of each other well, thereby eliminating the stage of "grinding in".

If you have weighed everything and made up your mind to agree with your ex-husband, you have a lot of work to do. Its duration and success depend on the specific situation: on the circumstances and reasons for the breakup, on your relationship after the divorce, on the presence of common children and a new passion for the spouse.

To get started, develop the most appropriate tactics for you, taking into account the characteristics of the personality and character of your husband. If after the break you remain in a good relationship and maintain communication, this will be a big plus. If you quarreled like a cat and a dog, and even your husband got a woman, this, alas, is a more difficult task. But rest assured, there is hope and a chance of reunion after breaking up anyway.

In your behavior, adhere to the following tactics and general rules.

• Immediately after the break, do not impose a reunion. It is only permissible to make it clear that you are not persecuting your husband. Do not break off contacts with him on your own initiative. However, if the man himself for some time does not want to communicate with you, do not insist and do not put pressure on him. Lurk for a period and follow the development of the situation.
• Do not try to lure your ex-spouse with sexual handouts. Intimacy presented to him on a silver platter can create the opposite effect. The man may interpret this as an opportunity to receive sex from you without any obligation, while being free.
• Return the love of men can help common children. Organize a joint vacation and walks with dad. During such events, you can chat or recall a couple of times funny and pleasant moments of your life together.
• When meeting with your ex-spouse, try to adjust your behavior in those moments that previously irritated him or were unpleasant to him. For example, the husband did not like your excessive talkativeness, then overpower yourself and learn to listen with interest. Maybe you didn't care much about his affairs and problems. Then show him that you are not indifferent to his success at work. But here it is important not to replay. Fake participation, contrived questions will betray your pretense.
• Become more new and interesting in the eyes of your husband. Engage in any hobby or creativity. This can be a good topic for conversation. Perhaps the husband will also be interested in your new occupation. And even if not, you can still count on some of the changes in your life to get his attention.
• After the divorce that has already happened, leave in the past a clarification of relations, reproaches and claims. If they are so often present in your marriage, then repeating them will only delay the former spouse. After all, he will understand that nothing has changed and that the same life awaits him, from which he has just been able to escape.

At a certain stage of rapprochement, it becomes necessary to inform the man of your desire to restore relations. Naturally, this is best done not by telephone or SMS, but in a personal conversation, looking into the eyes. This will emphasize the sincerity and seriousness of your intentions.

You should not hurry with such a conversation. It definitely should not be carried out immediately after a break. Wait for the passions to settle, and you will be sure that you have prepared a certain ground for reunion.

Naturally, such a conversation is always conducted in private, without strangers nearby. It is also important to remember that in this situation, you do not at all act as a humiliated supplicant. You just tell the former that you are ready and have a desire to restore the family.

During the conversation, do not throw reproaches and comments on the ex-husband. State your vision of the situation and how to solve the problems that led to the gap. Sorry for your mistakes. Do not force your husband to ask for forgiveness, in which case it will be formal and insincere. A person is able to apologize and start working on himself only by realizing his shortcomings and accepting the fact of their presence.

You may receive a negative answer. Let's say right away that this is not a reason for despair and is not at all the end. In any case, now your spouse knows that you have the intention to restore the relationship. And this is a big plus. After all, if he himself suddenly experiences such a desire, he will no longer be afraid and put off his decision to return to you.

This model of behavior and actions may work if the gap occurred about a year ago or more. During this time, the man manages to taste aspects of life outside of marriage and wean from the former spouse. That is, a few months after the divorce, husbands often perceive their ex-wives almost on a par with other women.

During this period, you can reappear in his life and try to fall in love with the former self again. Of course, in this situation, your image is very important. You will also have to use coquetry and light flirtation. In general, everything is like at the very beginning of a relationship with a new partner. Let the man seek you again, surround him with romance and signs of attention.Take some time off and with physical intimacy so that he does not have the impression that you are still ready for him for any concessions.

Not always the ex-husband can miss separation in solitude. Often a divorced man quickly finds himself a passion and because of this does not want to return to his family.

Undoubtedly, this situation is more complicated. To begin with, figure out whether their relationship really developed after your breakup. If a man already had a relationship with another woman during the marriage, then this soil was prepared. Perhaps his decision to leave you was balanced and not at all spontaneous.

The second option is to strike up a relationship to spite the ex-wife. There is more likelihood that they will not be durable and successful.

In any case, you have to be patient. During meetings and communication, try to look in the eyes of the former as profitable and interesting as possible. It may well be that comparing your marriage and his new relationship, he will be inclined to choose the usual way of life and atmosphere. The new passion is also not perfect. There is a chance that she will make more than one mistake and thereby soon extinguish the bonfire of the feelings of her gentleman.

Do not give up and do not despair. Life is a very unpredictable thing. If you have clearly set a goal, boldly and firmly go to it. Perhaps the only condition in this situation is the weighing of their decisions and the exclusion of treacherous and impulsive actions. Also your complete inaction will be a bad helper for you.

Do not run yourself, stay beautiful, successful and interesting. Yes, divorce is a very difficult event, but not fatal. Give yourself some time to be sad, cry and recover, but do not drag out this period. Follow the figure, create a new style for yourself, go in for sports. In the end, from any situation you need to be able to single out positive impulses and new opportunities for yourself.

Do not quarrel with friends and relatives of your husband, as well as with your mutual friends. Otherwise, it will create an opinion about you as a brawler. In addition, these people are not to blame for your personal problems and quarrels. Continuing to communicate with your ex's loved ones will increase your chances of reuniting with him.

The big mistake is getting children into your situation. Do not manipulate them, do not turn them against your father and do not forbid them to communicate. It’s better, on the contrary, to participate in their meetings yourself and come up with an interesting joint holiday.

The “sprinkling with mud” of the spouse who left you also will not decorate you in his eyes. Your intimate affairs, weaknesses, weaknesses and punctures should in any case remain between you. If you had the idea of ​​discussing dirty details or complaining about someone former, ask yourself just one question: “How would I feel if my husband did something like that?”

Apathy, inaction and withdrawal into oneself will not budge the situation. Depression is a frequent companion of painful breakups, but it must be fought. If it’s really hard for you and you can’t cope with a depressed state, consult a specialist - psychologist or psychotherapist. This is a perfectly normal practice that will help you get out of a difficult situation and move on.

In the case when the ex has another woman, do not meddle with them in a relationship. Do not call or threaten the new darling, do not make scandals.This is the choice of your husband, so if you act on someone, it is only on him. Excessive greed and self-interest in financial matters, extorting money from an ex-spouse will also significantly worsen the opinion of you.

Having realized your mistakes, do not leave them without elaboration. A man is unlikely to want to return "to the same river." And if your marriage was for him something like a cell with an uncomfortable atmosphere, without changes and work on yourself, you will most likely fail to return your husband.

Surely during your cohabitation you have already been able to realize your weaknesses and weaknesses in character. It's time to try to correct them. A good help can be given by a specialist psychologist.

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