How to part with a girl?

Termination of relations with a girl is not easy for many. I really want to leave so as not to hurt the feelings of the partner and at least somehow smooth out the pain and feelings from the current situation. And here you are again and again scrolling through your head the possible options for how to inform her of your decision. However, you can not dare to act. This article will focus on how to part with a girl.

To begin, think carefully about your decision, weigh the pros and cons. Perhaps you are led by a short-term strong impulse that arose after a quarrel or other unpleasant situation. Listen to your feelings and scroll through the head of the possible consequences of your decision. After all, to restore a broken union, if you still want it to come back, it will probably be difficult.

The purpose of this paragraph of the article is not to dissuade you from breaking up. You can simply break off relations in a fairly short time, but regretting the results of a hastily taken step may take a very long time. It is especially hard to rebuild your life after the end of a long relationship. And if you live together, you will have to change your life and habits.

Perhaps, the unconditioned reason for parting can only serve as the fading of feelings. In this case, you have to pretend to be passionate, in fact, deceive her. Listen to yourself and try to understand whether you are really cold to the one whom you met all this time. Do you feel a real loss when it disappears from your life? So, if you still firmly made the decision to terminate the relationship, it remains only to choose the method by which you inform about it.

In general, there is absolutely no recipe for how to part correctly, suitable for all occasions, and cannot be. You, of course, understand that it is important to remember the feelings of the girl. If your decision is not mutual, then the message about the breakup is likely to hurt her and other negative emotions. Therefore, try to part correctly, carefully, without causing her pain.

One option is to express your thoughts on paper or in an email. It is not necessary that the words be chosen very beautifully. The main thing is that the text is sincere. But it is important to understand that this should not be a short “reply”. Therefore, it is still undesirable to leave by SMS, sending only one short phrase. A handwritten letter will make the best impression. After all, these are not dry block letters. This method will nevertheless emphasize the fact that you worked on your message after all.

If circumstances do not allow you to send a letter or such a method is clearly inappropriate in your case, use a personal message on social networks or e-mail. The same rules apply here. A typed message should contain your detailed thoughts.

Another option is a telephone conversation. You should prepare for it in advance, select the words and outline the general plan of the conversation. Most likely you will be worried, and without preparation you will not be able to express your thoughts intelligibly.

Speak in a confident, calm tone. Even if a woman, by virtue of surging from the heard emotions, begins to escalate the situation, still continue the conversation extremely politely.

Do not break off the conversation first, much less hang up the phone. Allow the girl to speak out, even if it’s unpleasant for you. If possible, do not interrupt. After all, you already made your task easier by using the phone to talk, rather than meeting in person.

For many guys, a personal conversation with a girl on such an unpleasant topic as breaking up a relationship is the most difficult way to break up. Often young people put off this difficult conversation, not daring to say in the eyes of their passion about the decision. At the same time, this is perhaps the most worthy, responsible and courageous version of the gap.

As with a telephone conversation, prepare in advance for a personal meeting. A place to talk is best to choose one that has nothing to do with your couple. It can be a cafe that you haven’t visited before, a quiet park or another low-crowded and quiet place where you will not be disturbed.

Tune in not only to speak but also to listen. It may well be that parting without offense will not work. Therefore, be prepared to gently and delicately listen to the emotions and claims of your ex-lover. There is a high probability that it will not do without tears. Do not bring too long to the topic of conversation. After the greeting, calmly say that you need to talk seriously and you will now say a very important thing. Next, state your decision and tactfully argue it. Do not try to offend the girl with your reproaches at this moment. Do not pay the reasons for parting her reproach. Your former passion is already very difficult at that moment.

After let the girl speak, answer her questions. Be patient and respect her feelings, because for her, this turn of events was most likely very unexpected. Having reported the breakup, you broke her plans and dreams associated with your couple. Do not be surprised that this is not perceived with a smile. After the conversation, if the girl does not mind, you can carry her home.

A rather controversial method of breaking off relationships. In fact, it is equal to flight. But there are situations when such actions have to be applied. For example, if a girl is too intrusive and continues to make efforts to save a couple. Some guys choose this option if they fear an overly violent reaction of the former passion to the gap.

If you decide to disappear, then know, in our time it is not so simple. You have to ignore calls or even change your number. In social networks, your girlfriend will have to be blocked so that she can not contact you through private messages. Some problems in this case are common acquaintances and friends. Your passion can resort to their help to find the “fugitive” and ask him some questions.

However, most girls with this behavior of a young man quickly recognize the situation. So the likelihood that you will have to hide intensely from the ex-lover you left is pretty small.

Parting can be relatively painless if the girl herself loses feelings for you. Some guys and men who decide to break up with their lover simply stop showing any feelings. When courtship stops, signs of attention disappear, the guy’s behavior becomes harsh, etc., many girls decide to disperse themselves.

However, this method is quite difficult to implement if you still love your girlfriend. Another disadvantage is that some people can be quite patient. Then all your tricks will be wasted, and the passion will never cease to cling to your relationship.

This way of influencing a girl is essentially a trick by which you shift the responsibility for your break to your ex-lover. Think it worth it? Does your girlfriend deserve such a behavior with respect to herself?

A man should be able to take responsibility for his actions and decisions. Here were described several ways to break relations with a girl. Which one is suitable in your situation is up to you. In any case, remember respect for the other person. Moreover, the girl once trusted you, reciprocated your feelings. Do not discount it. There are more cruel ways of parting, but we will not describe them in this article.

In any case, each of you will feel better if you disperse, while maintaining a decent impression of each other. If after the breakup of your couple you want to remain friends with your ex, take note of a few tips.

• Do not pass the blame for parting on her. Do not blame or criticize your partner during a conversation about your breakup. It’s better to sincerely apologize for your mistakes and any unpleasant moments that happened in your relationship through your fault.
• Do not respond with aggression or a stream of emotions to its possible incontinence. The negative reaction to your words is completely justified and natural. Stand it with dignity, be calm, gentle, patient. Let the girl speak, and cry if necessary.

• If you live together, do not drive your ex right there. Think about your travel options in advance.In the case when you lived in a rented apartment, pay it for 1-2 months in advance and move yourself. You already inflicted a trauma on the girl and, possibly, permanently knocked her out of order (psychoemotionally). Therefore, do not complicate her life with forced emergency housing searches.
• Do not part with a loved one through third parties. For example, asking a friend or girlfriend to convey your words about the breakup. This is very disrespectful and unworthy. Thus, you dedicate a third person to your personal affairs who learns about the break before the girl herself, and this is at least very annoying. Moreover, you cowardly run away from the battlefield, not honoring your former lover with a personal conversation and an explanation of the situation.
• If you still decide to leave, sending SMS, make it tactfully and competently. You do not need to use your gentle nicknames at the beginning of the sentence, for example, “my little bunny” or “kitten”. Contact the girl simply by name. Then write briefly that you decided to disperse and indicate the reason. Avoid monosyllabic dry phrases like: “Goodbye forever, never call”, “I am leaving you, I don’t need you”, etc. Be prepared for the fact that a flurry of calls or at least reply SMS will be unflattering about you you content.
• Do not claim back your gifts. Accept them only if the ex herself wants to return them. Also do not throw away her donated things. Even if this page in your life is forever closed for you, you should not uproot those pleasant moments that united you and warmed you once.

• After parting, do not avoid deliberately communicating with your ex-girlfriend. When meeting, behave naturally as a friend. Do not constantly remind of what happened and do not agitate the wound with intrusive questions: “How are you?”, “Have you already recovered?”, “Why do you look so bad?”, “Do you still have nobody?” If you have friendly relations, this is very good. But in any case, the girl herself will tell you what she considers necessary.
• If another woman became the cause of the breakup, do not go into too much detail about the new relationship. In a conversation it’s enough to simply indicate the fact that you have feelings for another person.
• After parting, do not inflict even greater pain on your ex-lover, deliberately showing her your new passion. Unfortunately, some men do not miss the opportunity to further humiliate their abandoned girl, demonstratively showing a successful and stormy romance.