How to survive a breakup with a girl?

Each of us has to deal with parting with his beloved: sometimes people diverge easily, and sometimes breaks turn out to be painful. There is no universal recipe for dealing with negative emotions: it all depends on specific situations. In this article, you will learn about ways to let your loved one go and return to a full life.

If after a fleeting romance, the break is easier to experience, after a long relationship, breaking up is usually difficult for both the man and the woman. The best solution is traditionally considered a new novel. If you manage to be distracted by a new love, this will allow you to think less about past relationships and better survive the breakup: bright positive emotions and mutual interest will delight you and will not allow you to be sad. Nevertheless, it is not often possible to meet a new person immediately after breaking up a past relationship, because a person is inclined to compare everyone with past love.

Moreover, often it is very necessary to think over past relationships, to draw the right conclusions, but not to plunge into reflection with your head. If the gap was painful for you, give yourself a few days to worry: to transfer separation, you need to throw out emotions and understand why the relationship did not work out. Do not blame the partner for everything: both are to blame for any conflicts, and since you cannot change the other person, think about what you yourself could change in your behavior. This will help you to avoid old mistakes in the future when you enter into a new relationship.

At the same time, do not let the memories devour your whole life.A few days after parting, when you clarify the whole situation in your head, it is very important to stop nostalgic and begin to change your life. You need a rich pastime, new experiences, interesting things and communication. It is good if there are relatives and friends nearby who will not let you get bored and will actively spend leisure time with you. One of the good alternative options is to immerse yourself in work: this way you will not only quickly forget about the past, but also be able to achieve new career successes, which, of course, will give the necessary positive emotions.

Self-development is another right way after parting. A guy after breaking up with his girlfriend can start to play sports or learn a new business, and a girl can change her image and start everything that she had planned for a long time. Often in relationships, people are too “obsessed” with each other and lose themselves: this inhibits everyone in personal growth and becomes an additional painful factor when parting. However, it is very important to love yourself, take care of yourself and grow - this is the only way you will attract the right people into your life.

Strive to learn new things about people and relationships. Communicate more with a wide variety of people, watch movies and read good fiction. You will learn more about the experiences of different people and will be able to quickly understand yourself. Other people's stories will inspire you to positive changes, allow you to look at the world wider and not become isolated in your own melancholy.

Both men who parted with a woman and women who have experienced a break with a man are equally affected. Nevertheless, in our society it is not customary for men to express their emotions, which can be fatal for the psyche. It is very important that there is a close person nearby who can talk.

Even when you managed to calm down after a painful breakup, the question arises of what to do next. Often, a person’s life after parting changes significantly - this is especially true for those who were in serious relationships. If you lived together, you shared an apartment, a common budget and household duties, got used to each other's habits, put up with certain inconveniences and enjoyed the positive moments. Even if you just met, you spent a lot of time on relationships. It is very important that after parting in this place a void does not form.

Find the pros in your free life: you have time for yourself. If you do not find a good way to manage this time, there is a risk of constantly nostalgic about the past and become depressed. Remember what you always wanted to do and what you may have been hindered by a lack of time and effort. You can find a new hobby, meet friends more often, and develop professionally. Creativity is one of the great activities that will allow you to express yourself, pour out negative energy and receive positive emotions. Sports can also help: after classes, you will become even more beautiful, and during active movements, the body produces a hormone of joy - endorphin.

Try not to think stereotyped and be open to new acquaintances. After parting with a loved one, you can go to two extremes: either idealize your former lover and criticize everyone around you, or expect meanness or betrayal from others if you split up with your partner for a similar reason. Be open and look for new good things in new people. Where can you make new friends after breaking up?

• Find for yourself activities besides work: creative clubs, a gym, additional education. There you can find people with similar interests and possibly meet a suitable person.
• Do not be afraid to meet people you like on the street or in a cafe: this is usually easier for men, but women can also take the first step.
• Do not reject dating sites: in the modern world, meetings in the Internet space are increasingly turning out to be crucial.
• Take a closer look at your circle of acquaintances, perhaps if you start to communicate more closely with old friends, someone will open for you from a new angle.

Postpone or even throw away memorabilia, do not browse the pages of your former beloved person on social networks, if necessary, make a permutation in the room and temporarily suspend contacts with mutual friends. This will help reboot your life and start over from scratch. Live a full life, be active and enjoy your own loneliness.

Being alone with yourself can be difficult, but you need to learn this. Often a similar problem arises in people who have been in a relationship for a long time and lived together. It can be very unusual for you to spend evenings in an empty apartment, have fun, do household chores or travel without your partner. Nevertheless, it is very important to find inner harmony and feel like a self-sufficient unit. Enjoy your own freedom: a good book before bedtime, a walk in the park alone, home improvement. Only when you enjoy freedom can you create new harmonious relationships.

Very often, people make mistakes after breaking up with loved ones. Sometimes they simply don’t know how to survive the gap, and in other cases they follow the path of least resistance. The following things you should not do if you want to comfortably survive the breakup.

• No need to dive into your own thoughts and lock yourself in for a long time. Give yourself a few days to be sad and throw out emotions, and then try to live as active as possible: do new things, communicate with people, gain experience. In no case can not be nostalgic for too long, you need to let go of the situation and live for today.
• Do not think about returning your loved one if there are no good reasons for that. Often people want to renew old relationships, because in them it was calm and comfortable, however, this is a disastrous path. If you split up, it means that some serious problems have arisen, and they will be repeated again: you will only ruin your life. There are times when a couple breaks up by stupidity and chance, but in this case, the desire to return the relationship is usually mutual.

• Do not hold evil at your former partner. Even if it seems to you that your loved one is to blame for the break and hurt you, try to forgive him. Resentment will prevent you from living and make you constantly think about the past, close yourself from new people, then the separation will be harder.
• Do not keep evil on yourself. You may have made many mistakes in your past relationships and you yourself are to blame for the fact that they stopped. Forgive yourself and just draw conclusions from the situation.

Do not complain too much to others. Best friends need to speak out, but sharing the details of personal life among distant acquaintances is not worth it. Firstly, you can create a reason for gossip, and secondly, just tire your interlocutors. Be positive and open to the new: don't think too much or talk about past relationships.

Many after the break have an understanding that they need to significantly change their lives, but it is not always clear what specific steps can be taken towards positive changes. If it’s hard for you to part, use the advice of a psychologist.

• Immediately after the break, it is better to stop communicating with the former, even if you decide to remain friends. You need to cool your feelings, and when you stop worrying about parting, you can resume communication again.
• If the couple breaks up at the initiative of one of the partners, it is useful to talk constructively, explain to each other how you feel and why one of you wants to break up, and the other is happy with everything. You need to be honest with each other: then such a conversation will provide food for thought, will make it easier to leave and not repeat past mistakes in new novels.
• In order not to be bored, make a busy schedule for yourself. Work, hobbies, sports, creativity and reading will help you get distracted and return to normal life, but in a stressful state it’s difficult to lead an active lifestyle - it’s easier to spend time thinking about the past. Do not allow yourself this: make a clear schedule and follow it.
• Draw conclusions about past relationships and write them down on a piece of paper. Write what you did not do so that your partner did not fit you. You can visualize problems and not repeat them in the future.