What you need to know about getting to know your parents?

Sooner or later in life there comes a moment when a meeting with the parents of the second half is ahead. Every girl or boyfriend should be aware of what you need to know about getting to know your parents and how to behave correctly.

The moment when the second half offers to get acquainted with mom and father is considered a turning point in the life of any couple. The girl believes that this step shows the seriousness of intentions regarding her chosen one, and for the guy - this is an awareness of responsibility for the whole family of his girlfriend.

Acquaintance with parents rarely occurs at the initial stage of a relationship. A woman must make sure that she has chosen a man with whom she wants to stay until the end of her days, marry him and have children. When such feelings appear, you can agree to a visit to a potential mother-in-law and mother-in-law. A man also needs to be convinced of his feelings and be sure that his half is the same one with whom he wants to build a life and create a family.

Each person wants to please the family of his chosen one, since further relations may depend on this factor. The girl, just like the guy, is nervous before the day of dating and is trying to prepare more carefully to guarantee a good impression. To do this, you can learn the basic rules of behavior that will help to behave correctly and show knowledge of etiquette.

Before meeting a guy, he should carefully study the “portrait” of his girlfriend’s parents and prepare well for the upcoming event. For each girl, mom and dad are role models.For this reason, it is forbidden to say bad words to future relatives, even if they are negatively opposed to the choice of their daughter.

Before the meeting, you can find out from your beloved about what preferences her parents have: what they are fond of and what, on the contrary, they cannot tolerate. You need to get the maximum amount of information to decide how to behave. Then you should start preparing for complex issues that you won’t get away from. If a guy comes to the house of his beloved, then he has serious plans for her. Each parent is afraid of such a moment in the life of his child, so he begins to fall asleep of his potential son-in-law with different questions.

For this reason, it is recommended to work out your answers in advance regarding career questions, outlooks on life, prosperity, and seriousness of intentions. It is important that the answers do not look learned, but sound natural and deliberate. You should not lie and overestimate your abilities. During the conversation you need to tell the truth and stay confident. The confidence that comes from a man at the first meeting softens his parents. Thanks to this, they will realize that they trust their child in good hands.

There are several key etiquette rules that you should familiarize yourself with before becoming acquainted.

• Appearance. The phrase: "meet by clothes" is appropriate in this case. For this reason, you should not dress up in ripped jeans and an elongated T-shirt so as not to spoil the impression. However, don’t wear an expensive suit and bow tie. When choosing clothes, you should make sure that you look neat and decent. For this, everyday things are also suitable. The condition of nails and hair also needs to be taken care of.
• Self-confidence. From the first minutes of being in the house, a man should come from confidence. When meeting a father, you need to shake hands and behave with restraint. However, the girl’s mother can behave differently. Some women may rush to embrace their future son-in-law, while others only say hello dryly. Regardless of the behavior of parents, you should bring a small present with you. The best option is a cake or a box of chocolates, as well as a bouquet of flowers.
• Punctuality. You must not be late for a meeting. Arriving earlier than the appointed time should not be.

• Communication. The key to a good meeting is the ability to communicate. A good interlocutor with whom it is pleasant to have a conversation on any topic will surely appeal to parents.
• Gallant attitude. During lunch, you should take care of your soul mate and behave towards her carefully. Replaying is not recommended, as everything should have a sense of proportion. Excessive affection and closeness to a girl can make parents angry. Do not forget about the mother of her half, as she quickly succumbs to the temptation of the future son-in-law. Having got its location, you can be sure that no one will resist marriage.
• Win the location of a possible mother-in-law and father-in-law possible with the help of his charm and confidence. Do not lock yourself, it is better to behave openly. Staying away is also not recommended. After lunch or dinner, you should start gathering, thanking for a good time.
• After leaving, do not look back and immediately start calling your beloved. It’s best to wait a while and wait for a call from her side. This manner of behavior is not able to cause a feeling of discontent among any of the parents.

In order for acquaintance with the parents of a loved one to be successful, you need to prepare well for this event. The following recommendations are recommended.

• Do not be scared. Every girl is worried, but one should not panic.Nervousness can play a bad joke, and when meeting with her parents, the girl will not look cute, but hysterical or excited.
• Refining parental information from a guy. In advance, you should find out as much data as possible from your loved one: family rules, outlook on life, hobbies, parental education. Such knowledge will help to make a psychological portrait of a possible mother-in-law and father-in-law and prepare. It is recommended that you immediately clarify prohibited topics.
• Positive attitude. No need to look at the situation negatively and wait for the trick. Familiarity with parents elevates relationships to a new level. In preparation for the meeting, it is better to set yourself up for positive changes in the future.
• You should immediately forget about the well-known stereotype of “mother-in-law monster”. The further life with the beloved will depend on how the relationship begins at the first meeting. If it does not work out to establish relations with the mother-in-law, the man will rush “between two fires” and suffer. One should learn to be wise, even if the mother-in-law does not have such a quality. A man will always appreciate such a trait in his lover.
• The main goal is mom. In most families, education falls on the shoulders of women, so it is important to get recognition of the future mother-in-law. However, this does not mean that the guy’s father can be ignored. Pay attention to all members of the family. One must act sincerely and reject all pretense.

Every guy or girl, when it comes to meeting parents of his soulmate, thinks about a gift. Usually at the first visit they bring with them a bouquet of flowers and something for tea. Most people think that coming without a gift is a sign of bad taste. Part of this belief is true, but you need to know a sense of proportion and be serious about choosing a presentation.

Gifts can cause a different reaction. If there is no information about the taste preferences of the parents, you should proceed with caution. You also need to know the attitude of future relatives to presentations. If they do not like to receive them, it is best to treat this with understanding and come to visit with a cake or a good box of chocolates.

In some cases, even the best thoughts can turn against a person. There is a category of parents who associate gifts with bribery and believe that they are given only to lull vigilance. The father of a loved one may not pay attention to such a factor, but mothers are kind to such actions. Therefore, before handing any thing, you should think carefully. If you do not want to come empty-handed, you can opt for confectionery.

The topic of conversation is another problem that boys and girls think about before meeting their parents. A large number of questions arise on the topic of how to behave properly, what and how to talk. First of all, you need to stop worrying, but in order to eliminate unnecessary discomfort, it is better to come along with your soul mate. You should collect your thoughts and manage your emotions. Talk with a smile. Pulling a mask of decency is not the best option, since insincerity will immediately catch your eye. Naturalness is the most optimal variant of behavior.

Talking topics can be thought out in advance based on the preferences of mom and dad, which you can learn about from your couple. No need to strive to please everyone and use the jargon, which is used during a conversation with friends.

A situation may occur when parents do not like the boyfriend or girlfriend of their child. To find out the feedback, you can call your soul mate and find out how everything went. If there is any discontent, it is better to immediately find out the reason. Perhaps due to nerves some mistake was made that was not immediately noticed or topics were raised that were unacceptable in this family. If a fatal error occurs, the next time you need to apologize for it. Mom will appreciate such an act.

Since meeting your parents is not an easy ritual, it is recommended that you familiarize yourself with the recommendations of the psychologist. They will help prepare for the visit and "do not fall into the mud with your face."

• Some parents conduct peculiar checks of a potential relative and try to provoke. In this case, one cannot support provocations and succumb to them. It is best to show wisdom and find a way out of the situation.
• If the situation begins to get out of control, you can try to translate everything into a comic form or change the subject of the conversation. If all else fails, distraction to the narrative of a ridiculous case will help.
• Rude parents are a rare occurrence. If you had to deal with this, do not get angry. However, letting yourself be humiliated is also not necessary. The best option is restraint and lack of rudeness.

• It is important to try to leave only positive emotions about yourself whenever possible. If you were asked to see an album with photos, do not refuse. This will give a chance to quickly get closer to the family of his half.
• You can not speak negatively with your parents about your partner. Any insults are not allowed. No matter how he behaves and no matter what kind of person he is, it is impossible to tell parents about this at the first meeting. Even if the mother and father themselves began to talk about the fact that their son or daughter are deficient, it is not recommended to support such speeches.

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