How to stop being a neurotic?

Neuroticism is not a disease, it is a chain of negative stereotypes rooted in the psyche. Originally from childhood, the problem often deprives a person of the joy of life, generates inferiority complexes and heightened anxiety about the future.

In our difficult time, full of stress, it is not uncommon for people to have psychological problems. Neuroticism is a mental state that is not considered a disease, but requires treatment. Neurotic is a type of personality. A human individual who finds it difficult to finish the job, as he lowly assesses his capabilities and cannot realize himself. Hence, a person with neuroticism appears anxiety, suspiciousness, emotional instability.

It is known that the human brain includes approximately one hundred billion nerve cells - neurons that connect together in a stable connection. So in the psyche appear patterns, familiar actions and stereotypes. 80–85% of neural chains are laid before the age of five and are associated with the behavior of the parents and their attitude towards the child. Children who are cherished and loved in the vast majority of cases become mentally healthy adults. And if the baby loves relatives and does not receive reciprocity, he suffers and feels superfluous and rejected.

Knowledgeable parents will not bring the child to the onset of painful reactions, focusing on unsuccessful acts and weaknesses.And also one should not tell the child that there are bad people and envious people around him.

If a person demonstrates with his behavior at least one of the following features, it is time to take action.

1. It is in constant expectation of failure or failure, up to phobias.
2. It goes to extremes from gullibility and naivety to distrust and suspicion. Such people tend to blame others for all their sorrows and problems.
3. Stress and expectation of failure generates intolerance and irritability. Everything and everything interferes with the neurotic, extraneous sounds and the presence of other people. He constantly feels tired and depressed.
4. Despite the hypertrophied passion for one's own health, panic outbreaks and disorders of the autonomic system, pressure surges, and headaches do not go away. Feeling unwell is associated exclusively with impaired nervous activity.
5. As a result, business relations with other people and personal life are fading into the background, there is apathy in the sexual sphere.

But doctors say it’s possible to cure such conditions, even if it takes a long time and patience. It is necessary to work on oneself in order to stop being a neurotic and find the joy of life.

Psychologists in professional practice use a simple method developed by M. Labkovsky. He offers patients to adhere to several principles in everyday life, helping to overcome the usual neuroschemes in thinking and behavior.

• Do only what you want to do. Do not do what you do not like and do not want to do.
• Do not be afraid to declare when something is not pleasant. This must be done immediately.
• Do not say anything extra, answer the question. Do not tell anything unless asked.

People instinctively move their hands and head, bend over and return to their original position to calm down. Thus was born the practice of "self-lulling," popular in the treatment of neuroticism.

There are several independent important steps that can help in the treatment. It depends on them whether you break the usual pattern of expectation of the bad and take a normal constructive and positive position.

• First of all, you need to admit to increased nervousness to yourself and loved ones. Do not ignore the problem, but listen to your own body.
• Become a friend to yourself. Understand that loving yourself is a must. A person who loves you is looking at you from the mirror.
• Foreboding and anxiety are brewing - that means it's time to meditate. Disconnect from the situation and think about something else. Do not let the tension intensify. To have a break. Return back in thoughts after 15-30 minutes and in a different state. This will allow you to get away from hasty conclusions and not make mistakes, change the perception and attitude towards what is happening in the direction of the unemotional.

• Try to hold out for three weeks without negative emotions. To do this, you need to fully concentrate on your own feelings. Control will allow any jewelry to be made - a bracelet or a ring. If during the day you have an unexpected unpleasant feeling - change the ring or bracelet on the other hand. You need to overcome yourself and completely suppress the negative in relation to the situation or person, as well as to oneself. The marathon is won by the fighter who will defeat himself and will control emotions for all three weeks, as required by this technique.
• Love sports and long walks in the fresh air. The basic rule is a minimum of communication with people and a maximum of attention - to the trees and flowers around.
• Forgive the old insults and do not replenish the list of new ones. Try to let go of the thought that you have been wounded.Thank you for the science - after all, much of what was told to you was offensive, but fair. There is a way to improve, and not a reason to be upset.
• If it doesn’t work, forgive yourself and let yourself be mistaken. You can survive it easier and move on. As you know, the road will be overpowered by the traveler.

If possible, do not communicate with those who steal your time for creativity and doing your favorite thing, for a long time talking about unpleasant things. Break off long telephone conversations and strive to communicate with people who are creative and positive in this world.

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