Narcissism is characterized by excessive self-love. Such people feel their own superiority, which is constantly shown to others. The name of the term was introduced by the Austrian psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud, who took the name of the ancient Greek myth of Narcissus, which was so obsessed with its own beauty that it died, unable to break away from its reflection.
Signs of narcissism
Narcissism is considered a personality disorder in which a person is too proud of himself. He considers himself an exceptional and unique individual, and therefore has the right to dominate other people. For this reason, the daffodil requires a special attitude to his own person, and if this does not happen, he begins to show additional mental disorders.
The main sign of narcissism is an irresistible desire to prove oneself.
If this disease is inherent in a man, then you can notice it from false stories about its irresistibility.
He will show others high intelligence, even if there is nothing special to brag about. In addition, he will try to criticize the interlocutor in order to look more profitable against his background.
Narcissus requires increased attention, and therefore is constantly in the circle of people. Such a man will try to impress the opponent by any means, even through deception. Sometimes he himself begins to believe in fictional stories, denying reality. And this, in turn, is the first sign of schizophrenic disorder.
Male narcissism is manifested by the desire to demonstrate their high position. For this, the young man exaggerates the importance of his own achievements, drawing the attention of society to even minor successes. Such a person will not do anything just like that. Any action should be admired.
This psychotype is characterized by a desire to increase their own self-esteem. To achieve this goal, the person in every possible way tries to humiliate other people. According to the logic of the daffodil, humiliation is the best way to personify one’s own superiority. Moreover, he will not even try to develop his intellectual abilities, but will try to ridicule other people's knowledge.
Such people are afraid to show true emotions. This is due not to shyness, but to the fear of showing one's true face.
Representatives of this psychological type, the manifestation of these feelings seems to be a weakness, and therefore they by all means avoid displaying emotions.
The psychology of such a person is represented by the inability to listen, since this ability is directly related to sympathy and patience, which is simply not characteristic of the narcissus. Such a man is not able to talk about others, all his conversations are built only around his own "I".
If you question the narrative of the narcissus, then you can encounter aggression. The young man will try to accuse the interlocutor of distrust and portray a mortal resentment. Thus, the opponent will feel guilty, which is what a person with narcissism seeks.
People with this psychotype are obsessed with success and power.
They do not know how to obey and do not tolerate comparisons. They want to get a high position, but they will never make any effort for this.
Classification
Narcissism syndrome is divided into a classic and uncertain form. The classic type is manifested in a demonstration of compelling and important, but the uncertain daffodil is not entirely sure of his exclusivity, and therefore needs praise and attention.
The classification of narcissism is divided into four types.
- Two-faced - Tries to surround himself with people who will idolize his exclusivity. This person will try to ignore the neglect of others, but can sometimes be aggressive.
- Brilliant - yearns for fame and recognition. Such a man portrays megalomania, hiding anxiety and insecurity. It is impossible to convince yourself of your own wrongness and indicate a perfect mistake. It is easier for a young man to admit to madness than to fail.
- Dependent - Needs female attention and suffers in its absence. Such an individual does not seek to have a serious relationship, as he is afraid to show his true face. He constantly controls emotions, and having shown weakness, immediately breaks off all contacts with the lady.
- Detached - distinguished by neglect and detachment, but at the same time needs increased attention. Such a man will do anything for recognition. For example, commit a heroic act or become a member of charity. The main thing is that all his actions should be widely publicized.
In psychology, there is also perverse narcissism, manifested by excessive love of love.
A man is constantly in search of new partners, showing all his ingenuity for this.
He longs to manipulate women and be a leader, and therefore will go to all the tricks.
Reasons for the appearance
It is believed that narcissism occurs in early childhood, when parents praise the child too much. If each achievement of the child will be perceived as something supernatural, then the child will subconsciously consider himself a genius. The boy’s further life will develop in such a way that after any perfect action he will wait for praise.
Another cause of this disorder is childhood injury.
If a little boy grew up in a dysfunctional family and was not loved by his mother, then in adulthood he will begin to compensate for the shortage of love.He will force himself to believe in his own ideality, thereby covering up the inner void.
Sometimes parents demand from the children any achievements and put too much pressure on their psyche. Thus, the child develops the awareness that he is loved and appreciated only at moments of success. In a boy with narcissism syndrome, the idea is born that failure makes him insignificant, and success turns it into an ideal.
How to deal with the syndrome?
Very often, people suffering from narcissism syndrome require qualified help from specialists. Hospitalization can prevent the destruction of personality and reduce the likelihood of new disorders.
Treatment of narcissistic syndrome is based on the individual patient's indicators. Sometimes it’s enough just to go term classes with a psychologist, and sometimes you need to add group classes.
Psychological assistance for this disease is to alleviate the symptoms of the disorder and regulate self-esteem. At first, the doctor should calmly respond to the patient’s stories about his own greatness.
It is important to gain the confidence of a man, otherwise the rest of the work will be in vain. In this case, you can not succumb to the influence of the narcissus, as he will try to influence the psychiatrist.
Individual therapy helps the man to accept the problem, which ultimately allows the doctor to convince the patient of the need for treatment. In psychological sessions, the person learns to accept his shortcomings and refrain from criticism.
Group exercises for narcissistic disorder allow the patient to develop his personality, which in the future will allow him to adequately evaluate other people.
Narcissus must learn compassion and self-control, as well as accept the leadership of the therapist. Group therapy is prescribed only after the doctor sees the significant success of the patient in individual lessons. If it is too early to place a man in an environment unfamiliar to him, then it is possible to provoke his departure from a medical institution.
In order not to lead to the development of narcissistic accentuation of character, parents should carry out prophylaxis from childhood. Their responsibilities include the development of a healthy personality type based on the child’s ability to love not only himself, but also those around him.
Prevention of narcissism
- Parents should let the boy know that the world does not revolve around him and that no one is obliged to fulfill the vagaries of children. It is important to learn not to respond to crying and tantrums and try to talk more often with the child.
- It is necessary to praise the son in the presence of serious achievements. When doing small assignments, it is enough to simply thank the child.
- It is important not to extol the talents of the child to everyone they meet. It is advisable to admire the achievements of the son in his absence so as not to develop vanity in the boy.
- Excessive attention of older relatives can also cause this psychological disorder. Often, grandparents indulge the grandson throughout, which leads to permissiveness.
- It is important to teach the child to respect the opinions of others and stop comparing him with other children.
How to communicate with a narcissistic personality?
Usually daffodils do not recognize the presence of the disease or are proud of it. Communicating with such people is quite difficult, as they are constantly trying to humiliate the interlocutor. To avoid this, it is important to communicate with such individuals on an equal footing, suppressing any attempts to ridicule and humiliate.
Narcissism can be suppressed only when the opponent forces himself to respect.
Moreover, it is not necessary to portray awareness in all spheres of life, it is enough to be able to defend one's own point of view. As soon as a man with narcissistic inclinations begins to appreciate a person, he will immediately take off his crown and begin normal communication.
Daffodils often do not have a relationship with women. It is difficult for them to express true feelings towards their partner.If a lady really wants to establish contact with such a person, then she needs to achieve his trust. To do this, it is important to support the partner in all matters and to console in the event of failure.
At the same time, one cannot show one’s own weakness, otherwise the daffodil will consider the lady not a partner, but a personal slave.
Communicating with such a man will not be a test if you learn to accept him as he is. If you do not focus on the psychological characteristics of a person and do not try to challenge his views on his own "I", then you can achieve stable and harmonious relationships.
If a man is surrounded by a man with a narcissistic psychotype, it is important not to try to establish a relationship with him, but to help him solve the problem.
To do this, you must convince the person to recognize the presence of the disease and help with the search for a good psychologist.
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