Wife is constantly dissatisfied: causes and solutions

Although each of us undoubtedly strives for harmony and mutual respect in marriage, it is not always possible to achieve such an ideal. In the life of spouses there are difficult periods and unpleasant ups and downs. But all of them can be overcome if there is a spiritual relationship and sincere feelings between partners. But in some couples situations may arise when one of the spouses very often or almost constantly expresses dissatisfaction with the partner. The reasons and methods for overcoming the constant discontent of a wife by her husband will be discussed in this article.

The psychology of a couple’s relationship is far from simple. The expression "dear ones scold, only amuse themselves", indicating the frivolity of conflicts and quarrels, is far from true in all cases.

Often, married men are faced with the fact that they are forced to live in a difficult and hostile atmosphere. The wife is always dissatisfied with her husband, often insulting him for no reason, presenting far-fetched and unreasonable demands and claims. If there are children in the family, such an unfavorable situation has a very negative effect on their emotional and mental health. Unfortunately, often men in such a situation simply break down in response, showering a soul mate with harsh retaliatory words and reproaches. As a result, scandals exhausting both partners occur almost every day in the house.

Both spouses should approach the solution of such a problem with complete seriousness. It is important for a man to figure out what is the reason for such behavior and the almost constantly inflated state of his partner. The wife should also work on her psychological difficulties.She should try to find a way out not in the sphere of scandals and systematic humiliation of a loved one, but in rational methods of correction and control of the psycho-emotional state.

Consider the possible reasons for the disorder of family relations in a couple, because of which the wife is always rude, insults and expresses discontent without objective reasons.

Often such violations in relationships lead problems in the couple’s sex life. Being unsatisfied with sexual relations for a long time, but not knowing how, shy or not wanting to express this, a woman gradually accumulates emotional stress. Over time, stress only increases, and the spouse begins to unknowingly seek detente in the domestic sphere. Many women do not associate sex life with their psychological state at all. This greatly complicates the awareness and subsequent resolution of problems in relationships.

A barrier to family life is the shyness of one or both spouses. Partners are not ready to competently discuss sex, express mutual wishes to each other, point out some negative points. A similar situation when a couple does not have a healthy sex life that satisfies both partners greatly complicates the relationship outside of bed.

Emotional remoteness of spouses, lack of common interests and the opposite of characters greatly complicate family life. It is not uncommon for a man to choose a marriage to be somewhat forced. Unfortunately, even today, marriages are still being made at the convenience or at the insistence of the parents. The reason for this inappropriate union may be an unplanned pregnancy. In any case, almost certainly such partners, cohabiting in a marriage, will be deprived of a sincere spiritual relationship.

Lack of common interests and common ground will complicate normal communication. But living side by side, it is impossible to ignore each other's existence. Therefore, the reasons for communication, in this case - negatively colored, are simply thought up. This results in nit-picking, reproaches, insults from one or both spouses.

The reason that a woman scolds her husband may be that family environment, which she observed in childhood. In other words, a girl or woman, having married and starting a life together with a man, unconsciously repeats the scenario of building a relationship that she saw with her parents. Often in such cases, even children's psychological injuries occur if the girl had to watch the difficult scenes of scandals and even violence.

Heat up the situation in the family and the parents of the wife can. Most often, the mother intervenes in the relationship of the daughter. Mother-in-law may speak negatively about her son-in-law. Often, an adult woman can even embark on an adventure in order to humiliate her unwanted partner in the eyes of her daughter. The situation is even worse if the spouses live in the same house or apartment with the wife’s parents.

The reason for the abrupt and rude behavior of the wife may be covered in the negative character traits of the man himself. The spouse is thus forced to defend or defend her interests. Often husbands openly show unreasonable jealousy, possessiveness, restrict the freedom of the second half, not allowing her to realize her interests, engage in hobbies. Deprived of communication with friends, not having the opportunity to engage in an interesting business for herself, in addition to work and family, the woman responds by breaking her emotional stress on her spouse.

Severe consequences for the psycho-emotional sphere of a woman have experienced episodes of violence, including sexual abuse, by men. It can be beatings of the father, and fierce fights with the older brother, rape of a partner or a stranger.If a woman has not received psychological help and could not cope with the trauma on her own (which is very rare), then fear, resentment, helplessness before brute force for a long time remain in her subconscious. This is a very difficult situation, requiring long-term rehabilitation and work with a psychotherapist. Women are most often ashamed of such an experienced experience, and the husband may not even know that the wife was once abused. Therefore, it cannot even conceive that the root of the problematic behavior of the second half lies precisely there.

Of course, a loving spouse certainly wants to return a calm and friendly atmosphere to his family. However, it is worth setting yourself up to the fact that it may be possible to do this not as fast as we would like. In any relationship, marital or premarital, patience plays an important role. It is this quality that is important to stock up with the goal of preserving and strengthening your marriage.

Psychologist tips for men

• Try to have a trusting relationship with your parents, close friends and relatives of your spouse. This will help significantly reduce the likelihood of negative comments on their part. Your second half for many years was a beloved daughter, sister or close friend. Seeing you as an introverted person who avoids contacts, they are likely to be distrusted by you. And then from the side of parents and friends it is quite possible to expect a defensive reaction in the form of slander and setting your spouse against you. Communicating with friends and relatives of the spouse, you can also discover for yourself her personality more fully. And these are new topics for conversations and activities for joint recreation and creativity.
• Take time out in private conversations with your wife. Remember, she has interests and experiences that it is important for her to share with a loved one. Do not rush to condemn or prohibit anything without objective reasons.

• Do not ignore problems in sexual life. Talk with your spouse about her feelings during intimacy. If you and your wife are not ready to discuss such a question, do not be afraid to contact a specialist in sexual relations. All over the world, couples visit such consultants, and this helps to strengthen the marriage, build mutual understanding, and often prevents divorces.
• Objectively evaluate your behavior, habits, manner of communication with your spouse. Self-analysis of your personal qualities is useful in any situation. Often we reproach a loved one for doing things ourselves on a regular basis.
• Often husbands make a mistake, trying to please the second half in any conflict in everything. Of course, you need to make contact and correct really committed mistakes. But here to indulge unreasonable demands, insults and nit-picking is still not worth it. This way you will not get rid of the essence of the problem.

Simple tips should be followed.

• Try to be calm, do not respond rude to rudeness, do not heat up the situation. Adequate constructive communication is much more effective than a heated quarrel.
• If the spouse cannot calm down in any way and does not make contact, perhaps she should be left alone for a short while. Go for a while to another room or go for a walk. Before that, gently tell your wife that her words are very offensive to you, and that you are ready to give her time to recover, and then calmly discuss the problem with her.
• Master the techniques for controlling emotional state. For example, breath counts. To calm down, do not quickly count to yourself up to 4, making a uniform breath, hold your breath for another 4 counts at the same pace, then exhale evenly for 8 counts.