What to do if the husband is constantly dissatisfied with everything?

Perhaps, almost no one can honestly boast that he has an ideal relationship in marriage. It is natural and normal to strive for harmony, intimacy and a benevolent emotional atmosphere in your family nest. But the achievement of such a relationship is the result of the great and everyday work of each of the spouses. Therefore, if difficulties arise, you should not give up and give up, it is better to adequately assess the situation, understand the problems and solve them together.

It is very difficult to endure a tense emotional atmosphere in the family. Many women are forced to put up with the fact that the husband constantly finds fault, criticizes, reproaches and insults. Moreover, this often can happen almost without reason or on far-fetched occasions. A man, as they say, “starts with a half turn”: screams, expresses dissatisfaction with cooked food, housework, reproaches for any shortcomings or reproaches his wife with money.

Offensive words can be repeated over and over again without further apology. Claims are getting smaller and far-fetched. The charter is to endure, many women are ready to decide on a divorce and severance of relations with a once beloved person. What are the reasons for this behavior of the spouse?

A man may show negative emotions towards his wife due to one or more of the following factors.

• Often a woman complains that her husband is constantly yelling even without weighty reasons and is dissatisfied with everything, but she does not try to assess the general emotional state of her other half. Similar manifestations may be a signal of accumulated stress, chronic fatigue, or prolonged psycho-emotional overload. Most often, this may be due to problems at work. Tired after a working day and not being able to relieve stress in other ways, the man, returning home, screams and reproaches his wife for nothing.
• Perhaps rude family behavior is manifestation of personality traits and character of the spouse. Before cohabitation, they could be simply invisible. General life is often very unexpectedly able to reveal a person from a completely different perspective. For example, it is simply characteristic of a choleric that he is almost always evil, often grumbles and always makes comments to others. Unfortunately, such a manifestation cannot be avoided even by a loved one.
• It is mistakenly believed that a man is almost always satisfied with his sex life, especially when it is regular. But this is not so. And exactly sexual disorders very often cause disagreement and loss of understanding. The situation is aggravated by the fact that not all couples are ready to adequately discuss intimacy, correctly express their wishes or comments to a partner. Often, a woman is generally not inclined to look for the root of problems in this area, not seeing the connection between sex and communication in everyday life. This leaves the problem unresolved and eventually increases the tension between the spouses.

• Like women, the stronger sex it’s peculiar to create a certain ideal of one’s life partner. Having begun to get to know her much closer, the husband inevitably encounters certain disappointments. This is especially often manifested in dissatisfaction with the wife on maternity leave. A pregnant woman during this period undergoes physical changes, as well as fluctuations in the emotional state. Of course, a man can understand that it is impossible to blame her, but simply can not restrain himself in many cases. The fact is that he himself is in some confusion and does not have time to accept new qualities for him and the image of his beloved woman. It seems to him that in front of him is almost a different person, previously unknown to him, connected with him by marriage.

• The mother-in-law can set up her son against her unwanted beloved. For some reason, disliking her initially, the mother will try to bring discord into the relationship of the couple. If a man is strongly attached to his mother, for the most part he will blindly take her side and unconsciously agree with her opinion and claims.
• A very unpleasant and serious reason for a husband’s harsh and rude behavior can be romance on the side. These can be very fleeting feelings that will soon fade away. But during their height, the life partner fades in the eyes of the spouse. But the new passion, on the contrary, just blossoms with virtues and often imaginary advantages.
• Reasons for irritation and reproach can serve real flaws of a woman. Often overstated self-esteem does not allow us to adequately assess our qualities and actions. Listen and take a closer look at yourself. Do you show similar negative attacks in your relationship with your spouse? Are your housework and dishes really flawless? Sometimes a woman simply does not want to admit that she is doing something badly or untidily and stubbornly stands her ground, repeating her oversights over and over again. And the husband is forced to make complaints and remarks in a more rude, harsh and irritated form in order to “reach out” to his wife.
• Perhaps your husband has been watching tensions with his parents.Often in the adult period, such children, having no positive example, begin practically in their marriage copy the behavior model of your family members.

First of all, understand the fact that if you let the situation drift, it is almost certain that it will not change for the better. In establishing a shaky marital relationship is important sincerity, love for a partner and patience. Without these qualities, it is impossible to build trustful and mutually respectful communication even in the premarital period, and even more so after the conclusion of the union and the beginning of life together.

Do not spare time for calm conversations. Representatives of the stronger sex, although more inclined to keep their feelings within themselves, still respond very positively to any friendly and confidential conversation with a loved one. If your man has problems at work, support and encourage him, show that you believe in him. If the quarrel begins to flare up, try not to start. Do not shout back and do not heat the conflict. A constructive calm discussion of the problem is much more effective than any scandal and mutual insults.

Sometimes it’s better to leave the man alone and let him calm down. Gently and without a call, tell him that his words are very offensive to you. Explain that you would like to talk about the problem calmly, so ask him to cope with emotions. After that, leave the room or go for a short walk.

Nevertheless, try to correctly discuss with your husband your feelings in bed. If it’s obvious that you and your spouse are not ready for such a conversation, don’t be afraid to turn to a couples sexual relations consultant. Listen to the advice of a psychologist advising in this area. Unfortunately, in our country, many people still have prejudices and shame regarding intimacy. But such consultations help a lot of couples to harmonize their sex life and relationships, as well as keep from breaking.

Help your man realize himself in an interesting business or hobby. Life should not be reduced only to work and family. Such a limitation of one's horizons and activities greatly exhausts and leads to nervous and emotional exhaustion. Offer him interesting options for a weekend weekend or some creative activity. Perhaps in your pair there will be a new common hobby. And this is a sure way to rapprochement and resolution of disagreements.

Try to work on your shortcomings. Talk with close friends or parents and ask them to objectively and honestly point you to them. Do not stand up and cherish your weaknesses. Such tactics will only lead to moral laziness, complacency and arrogance. And these qualities are very noticeable and unpleasant in any communication, not only within the couple, but also in other areas.

Take care of yourself. Maintain a tidy appearance even at home. Sometimes change your image, this will create a novelty effect in the eyes of the spouse. Try to build good, trusting relationships with your husband’s parents, loved ones, and friends. Even if one of them is unpleasant to you for any reason, maintaining communication with them will give you two big positive points.

Firstly, you can more fully reveal for yourself the identity of your chosen one, learn his childhood and youthful dreams and hobbies, interests, hobbies. This will undoubtedly help you in a relationship. Secondly, you can avoid possible “bullying” by the spouse’s family or friends. After all, if you are fenced off from them, then they may well form a negative opinion about you and treat you with distrust. And this is the basis for intrigue, slander and setting up a husband against you.