Who should greet first according to etiquette?

In the modern world, every person wants to stay free and confident in any environment. To overcome the constraint you need a lot, including knowledge of the basic rules of etiquette.

Dating etiquette was formed in ancient times and was inherent in all the people. Many of the rituals exist to this day. For example, a job description, business note, or phone call is required before applying for a job. And when meeting a newcomer team, an official is represented.

This tradition has come to us since the beginning of the Middle Ages, when a stranger needed a mediator or a letter of recommendation to enter the house. Today it became much easier to get to know each other. Before you start communicating with strangers, you just need to introduce yourself. However, all subsequent communication will depend on the first impression - they are greeted by manners.

So, let's figure out in detail how to behave properly:

• If there is a need to ask a question to a stranger, then first you need to introduce yourself, saying the name and surname, middle name - at will. This rule applies both in personal communication and when talking on the phone or in electronic correspondence. Of course, you should not introduce yourself if you only need to find out the way to the nearest metro and in other similar situations. But in other cases, etiquette is strictly observed.
• During a meeting between a man and a woman, the man appears first. However, there are several exceptions in which the fairer sex should call their names first:
• Students in educational institutions during an acquaintance with a teacher;
• With a significant difference in age;
• Junior in military rank or official position in a business setting.

• If both interlocutors are in the same position, the oldest in age greets the second.
• If you meet a big company or a couple, then you need to introduce yourself first.
• The secret to a good first impression depends on whether you smile or not. You need to look strictly into the eyes of the interlocutor, and not from the sides. If you are in a company that is represented by one person, then you need to wait until the turn reaches you, then shake hands.
• If you are a common acquaintance, you should bring each other people you need to introduce and name them. Following etiquette, guests should not get to know each other themselves.
• If you have to introduce a girl to a guy, then first they call the name and patronymic of the fairer sex.

• If everyone already knows each other in the company, and you bring a stranger, you need to introduce him to everyone by name and surname. A newcomer, after being introduced, needs to make a slight nod of his head a greeting sign. If a newcomer is late for some reason for a feast, he also needs to be introduced to everyone and offered a free place. In this case, the latecomer will get to know himself those who are closest to him at the table.
• If you need to introduce a person to people who are currently busy, you need to wait a bit or wait a while to get to know each other.
• If a man is introduced to someone, then he must definitely get up. However, a woman arises only when she is introduced to a lady who is older in age or a man who is highly respected in society or in this company;

• If you want to introduce someone to your relatives, then first of all you need to introduce relatives. A guest is first introduced only when you introduce him to your parents. If both parties are equal in age, first introduce their relatives to acquaintances and friends. For example, introduces his brother to his friend. If young people are peers, then during their acquaintance you can restrict yourself only to names.
• Etiquette forbids while presenting a person to present him as "this is my friend." Such a phrase will offend the other guests.
• If someone was introduced to you, you can introduce yourself by first name and surname, adding the phrase "Nice to meet you."
• After that, having met, people should exchange at least a couple of insignificant pleasant or neutral phrases.

The initiator of the dialogue is usually a person who is older or higher in the career ladder. If you represent a man to a woman, then the representative of the fair sex begins the conversation.

According to etiquette, any person over 12 years old must be contacted by “you”, you can only chat with friends or very close people.

We all know that each person is, to some extent, an egoist. Consequently, many people during dating assess interlocutors or try to extract at least a small benefit from the situation. However, well-educated people are always successful in the team precisely because of the ability to suppress their selfish interests. Such people are always distinguished by obvious friendliness to everyone, constantly giving smiles to those around them.

Leaving a good impression is easy enough.The main thing is to show sincere interest in everything that your interlocutor talks about, even if you do not understand the essence at all and cannot give advice. Just listen, then your vis-a-vis will definitely have a good opinion about you:

• During a conversation, you can only look into the interlocutor’s eyes, people with a wandering gaze on the sides express their disrespect, give the impression of disinterest in communication.
• During the dialogue, you only have to smile sincerely, otherwise you are unlikely to want to talk further, a fake smile is determined right away, nobody likes it.
• During the conversation, you do not need to be distracted by extraneous thoughts. Reflections on other topics will be clearly visible on your face, which will spoil the first impression.
• Each person is pleased when he is called by name, so try to do this as often as possible. Topics for communication you need to choose only those that will be equally interesting to you and your interlocutor.
• On the first day of communication with a person, it is advisable not to talk about personal life. Your problems are unlikely to be interesting to the interlocutor, so you should not talk about them.
• In order not to make a negative impression, during the first meeting you should not show your perseverance when discussing common issues.
• In order for your counterpart to be able to feel its significance, one can note its positive qualities, which, in your opinion, are excellent. However, flattering is prohibited.

Almost all businessmen are very reluctant to go to business meetings, fearing to be in an awkward position. People get into such situations because they do not know the simple rules of business etiquette. However, it is necessary to conduct business meetings with work partners quite often, therefore everyone should master the necessary rules of behavior:

• Being late is the most common mistake. You need to come to business meetings at the indicated time. Punctuality is one of the best qualities of a person, demonstrating a serious attitude to the tasks. Therefore, everything must always be done on time.
• If you are the organizer of the meeting, and there are beginners at it, then first of all you need to introduce their companies.
• Before the meeting you need to be very well prepared, you need to know what you will be talking about. If you are presenting a presentation, then you need to collect enough information, make a list of questions.
• At a business meeting, you need to make a clear plan and constantly keep it at hand. A plan is key to making a good impression and achieving goals.

• If the meeting takes place at the table, then the chair should be adapted so as to be on par with its partners. People who diligently adjust chairs or armchairs for themselves are usually perceived by young children sitting at the same table with adults. At business meetings, it is also forbidden to cross legs.
• During negotiations, one cannot speak too quietly, as many women do. You should be heard well even at the far end of the table. However, shouting is also not worth it, otherwise it may affect the result of the meeting.
• Your personal success will depend on whether you decide to speak at the beginning of negotiations or at the end. The later you take the floor, the more difficult it will be for you to say something new. If everything is said, you will have nothing to add, then the meaning of your presence at the meeting is lost.
• During negotiations, you can not put the phone on the table, even if it is upside down, it can distract with a sudden call or SMS. Therefore, it is advisable to store it in your pocket or purse by setting the “Silent” mode in advance. If the call is very important to you, then you need to apologize and leave the room. However, dialing SMS is unacceptable.
• You can’t eat at a meeting. Interlocutors may not like the smell of food or the sound of chewing. However, a business lunch or dinner is an exception.A cup of coffee or water in the conference room is allowed.

If you nevertheless ate, then you should definitely clean it up after yourself, the table should be in the same condition as it was before your appearance, unless it is a restaurant or cafe.

There are special rules according to which:

• a person who is late for a conversation is obliged to say hello to everyone present;
• the subordinate first gives the hand to the boss;
• a person who is lower in rank always greets those who are on the steps of his career ladder higher;
• during a meeting of couples, at first the ladies greet each other, after which the representatives of the stronger sex greet the ladies and then shake hands;
• in many European countries, a man has the right to say hello first to a lady and extend her hand for a handshake. However, it is preferred that women greet first;
• an adult should give a hand to the child;
• a hand left hanging in the air is considered an insult.

If the conversation is too long, you can invite your counterpart to get to know the others. Once you introduce them to each other, you can apologize and deviate.

Before leaving an unfamiliar team, you can not say goodbye to each individually. If you leave a very large company earlier than everyone else, then you should say goodbye only to the owners. Public departure may be a sign that it is time for everyone to disperse.

You need to finish communication by showing courtesy and adding a few phrases, for example: “It was nice to meet you”, “All the best”, “Goodbye”. If you need to leave early, you should notify the other person during a pause in the conversation, and say goodbye to the words: “I hope to see you again.”

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