Talking with a girl you like isn't easy. Indeed, in order to freely and naturally communicate with her, you need not only to be able to speak beautiful phrases, but to overcome your shyness and fear. How to choose the right words? How to like a girl? What can I ask when meeting? Look for answers to these and other questions in our material.
General rules of communication
It’s very easy to find the right words to talk with the girl you like. The main thing is to know some rules of communication and to study a little the psychology of communication with the opposite sex. If from the very first minutes of communication the guy manages to establish contact with the person he liked, then already in the process of the conversation the girl will understand that it is easy and simple to communicate with you. Moreover, she will understand that you can be trusted.
The main rule is that you need to remember once and for all: girls are emotional and sensitive people. Therefore, the main thing in the conversation is to provoke positive emotions in the interlocutor.
The conversation should be easy, only talk about what you are sure of. You should not start a conversation on topics that you think are interesting to girls.
For example, if you do not understand anything in fashion, then after a couple of minutes she will become bored with you. Also, do not say that she will not be interested. For example, it is computer technology or sports cars. Your first conversation should be easy. Do not be afraid to flirt, do not be afraid to joke.
During the conversation, try to prove yourself so that the girl definitely believes that you really like her. If you like her, then she will also behave easily and relaxed.Do not be afraid to smile and look her in the eye during a conversation. Girls are very fond of this.
During the conversation, she will probably tell you something about herself. It is very important to listen and hear what the girl says.
Be sure to remember some details from her story, thanks to which you can then continue the conversation. In this case, she will understand that you are really interesting and that you listened carefully to her.
Remembering some interesting fact from her story, some information, do not immediately ask her questions about this topic. Just remember the necessary information for yourself, and then completely unexpectedly ask her a question about it. She will definitely be pleasantly surprised by your attentiveness and your interest in her person.
Where to start and how to behave?
Too many young people are hesitant or embarrassed to approach the one that they really like. And if this is your fate? Therefore, drop your embarrassment and do not miss the opportunity. Many guys, wanting to meet a girl on the street, immediately try to impress her. They try to behave relaxed, immediately go to flirt, make compliments and say beautiful phrases. By the way, most of these phrases are taken either from films or from the Internet.
Such persistence can frighten some girls, so most attempts to meet on the street do not end there.
Therefore, do not be afraid to just come up and be natural. It’s better to just ask the girl what her name is, rather than try to portray a real macho from advertising. You can simply say: "I am afraid that you refuse me, but I really want to meet you." Similarly, you are definitely interested in her.
If you find her pretty, then she will give you her phone number, and then you can get to know each other better. If you see that the girl sympathizes with you, but is embarrassed to dictate her number, then simply hand her a notebook with a pen or your mobile phone. Then she will definitely write you her number.
During dating, do not forget to introduce yourself. If mutual sympathy arises, then you will probably start a short conversation. During this conversation, try to pronounce her name more often, the girls really like it, and you can win her to yourself.
Remember that during the conversation there should not be any vulgar jokes, any hints of intimacy, awkward jokes, etc.
In addition, try to avoid those related to your personal problems or the problems of your family. The first conversation should be easy, otherwise you will simply disappoint a new acquaintance.
To choose the right words during the first conversation, meeting and interest the girl you like, you need to behave naturally and be able to communicate easily. Keep some interesting stories in stock. You can talk about your recent trip, about your deplorable culinary experience, etc. The story should be lively, interesting, only then it will cause positive emotions in the interlocutor.
In the event that the girl was too shy, then, most likely, awkward pauses will occur during the conversation. You must fill them out, otherwise she will think that you are bored in her company.
When trying to talk to your interlocutor, never say the following phrases: “You are silent all the time, probably you are not interested with me”, “You are silent, but I don’t know what else to tell”, etc.
For starters, ask her questions that can easily be answered with just “yes” or “no.” Be sure to look her in the eye, do not forget about the compliments, and after some time, realizing that you can be trusted, the silence will certainly open.
During the conversation, remember that the dialogue will only happen if both will speak. If a guy is keen on telling about himself, and only he will talk all the time, then the interlocutor will very quickly become bored and uninteresting.It happens that girls also want to take part in the conversation, but the guy does not pause at all and does not allow her to tell anything either. The guy should not only be a good storyteller, but also an interesting conversationalist and attentive listener.
Correct words
To impress a girl, you need to know by heart the aphorisms and sayings of great people. Only it should not be the banal phrases that are in all social networks.
Also, immediately discard the idea of quoting beautiful verses. From excitement, you can forget them, and in the end everything will not look as optimistic as you would like.
Think in advance what you will talk about during the meeting and choose the right words for specific topics. For example, if you want to tell her about your passion for music, then you can prepare in advance the saying of one of the great musicians, composers. It is very important that you pronounce this phrase easily, as if it was your personal opinion.
In addition, refuse banal compliments such as “You are the most beautiful girl I have ever met”, etc. Try to make compliments naturally and easily. “It’s very easy and interesting for me” - such a phrase can catch any girl. Whatever you say, no matter what you talk about, the main thing is not to pretend to be better than you really are and not be afraid to show sincerity.
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