It has long been a stereotype that a woman should not take the first step and show her feelings until the man himself begins to care, spoiling the lady with flowers, invitations to the cinema and other pleasant moments. But unfortunately, life is often unlike a movie, and it happens that it is a woman who sometimes has to take the first step when, for example, she has strong feelings or sympathy. And, first of all, it is worth considering one important point: how to invite a man on a date so that he does not refuse?
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There are situations that a girl definitely feels that a guy is interested in her, but he does not have the determination to invite her. In this case, you can cheer him up, push him to the idea that it would be nice to go somewhere together.
And there is nothing shameful, as some people think, if a girl herself invites a guy.
If the first meeting took place on her initiative, it would be more logical to wait for the second step from the man. Well, if the pause is delayed, there are two options for the development of events. Letting go of the situation and not get upset is not the right person. Or forget about all prejudices and try again.
There are situations when a guy likes, but he does not pay any attention and, perhaps, does not even notice that a girl is interested in him.
Here you need to act carefully, first probe the soil, find out what he is interested in, try to establish at least minimal friendly contact.
If this is a person from the team, maybe during a break over a cup of coffee it will be possible to start a conversation about his favorite films, games, books, music.It can be anything.
Any man really likes if a woman is interested in his hobbies, and especially if she praises him for some actions.
Maybe he plays the guitar well or has a literary talent, an excellent athlete or an experienced climber. Be sure to know all its strengths and weaknesses, then it will be easier to act.
It is worth, for example, to say that all my life I dreamed of going to the mountains, but I could not find a fellow traveler. Most likely, he himself will offer to go on a camping trip with him. Or let’s say that you also like the same group as him, and, by the way, notice that you have an extra ticket. The main thing is not to miss the very moment when you can find these common ground, which will bring closer to the desired date.
Another option is when the acquaintance happened by correspondence, and a new acquaintance for some reason hesitates with a date of invitation. Here the algorithm of actions is very simple. In the process of correspondence, people try to learn as much as possible about each other, respectively, share their thoughts, stories about themselves. It is enough to show interest in any topic and throw a completely innocent phrase: “How do you look at discussing this over a cup of coffee?” Most likely, the answer will be yes.
And to make it clear that this is just a friendly conversation, it is better to make the first date, for example, in a coffee shop, at lunch, or during the day off.
But most importantly, you need to consider that a man should not be in a relationship with another girl, and even more so should not have a family. Firstly, it is simply unacceptable to destroy foreign relations for the sake of your goals, after this troubles will surely follow, and it is unlikely to enjoy cloudless happiness. Well, and secondly, there are more chances to get a refusal from a man, which will be quite predictable.
A bad experience can discourage for a long time to take a step towards the first. So, before moving towards your goal, you should definitely find out if a person is open to relationships and if there are any obstacles.
How to formulate and convey an invitation?
You always need to take into account the nuance that a man can have, but this is not a reason to begin to doubt his attractiveness or think that a mistake has been made somewhere. The circumstances may be different. And one of the reasons may be that he recently broke up with his girlfriend, and the guy is simply not ready for a new relationship.
But you need to try to make sure that he does not refuse. And therefore, armed with the knowledge gained about him, you should book tickets for the theater or cinema, for a concert or football.
It depends on what you learned about him. And just at any opportunity, inform that there were plans to go to a match (concert, in a movie) with a friend, but she, unfortunately, could not.
In fact, phrases can be any, but they should sound believable. So do not come up with too fantastic fables. Whatever text sounded from the lips of the girl, it will be clear to the guy that she does not mind spending time with him.
On the other hand, if something goes wrong, the girl has absolutely nothing to worry about, she just did not want the ticket to disappear. That's all. But if time goes well, then the representative of the stronger sex will figure out how to spend it next time.
If it is very scary to take the first step yourself, afraid to get a refusal, you can use SMS. The text is usually written the simplest.
For example: “There are two tickets to a great performance. Critics highly praise. A friend got tickets, but at the last moment she had to go to work. Would you like to keep me company? ” Or this option: “They presented two tickets to the concert. I know how you like this band. We can go together. ”
For more timid girls, there is an option even better and more reliable. You can invite a young man to spend time in the company of friends. Most often in such cases there is no failure.And there you already need to take the situation into your own hands and try to spend as much time with him as possible and communicate.
Where to call?
On the one hand, many believe that inviting a date first is something indecent. On the other hand, only very confident girls can afford this, who know that they will not be refused or are aware that sympathy is also present for the opposite sex.
There are a lot of options where to call a guy. The proposal to visit the recently opened bar to form an opinion about it is likely to be accepted by the man. Well, there he, of course, leads home. It's time to say that the meeting could be repeated.
In addition, it is not forbidden to just invite a walk in the park, the promenade, talk and enjoy the beauty if it is spring, summer or autumn.
During the walk, different topics can arise that can bring two people together.
If you act decisively, and not feel the atmosphere, you can immediately invite you to a romantic date, book a table in a restaurant or a boat trip, depending on what places to relax in the city. A good option may be a movie for an evening session, the main thing is to choose such a film that it was interesting to both. Theater, concert hall are also suitable. This is an opportunity to discuss what they saw after the event with a cup of tea or a glass of wine.
This is only suitable if the man has a positive attitude towards such events. Otherwise, there is a risk of rejection.
If a girl wants to arrange a very unusual date, then everything here depends on her imagination. After all, it can be anything: roller-skating, ice-skating, skiing, horseback riding, hot-air ballooning, parachuting, a master class on the joint production of interesting things or a trial lesson in dancing. It all depends on the partner’s preferences and the girl’s understanding of what he can be ready for, and which he will most likely refuse.
In the next video, you will find a tricky reception that is guaranteed to help you go on a date with a man.
How to behave on a date?
If the long-awaited date has taken place, and there is a desire to meet further, you need to behave so that the guy definitely wants to take a walk again. It’s not difficult to do this. Do not try to make him somehow express his feelings and push him to any actions on the very first night.
The best option would be to behave unobtrusively, maintain a conversation, show interest in everything he says, laugh, make jokes by herself, flirt a little.
During the meeting it will be clear how to behave - more restrained or you can allow some little thingsfor example, hold hands, kiss on the cheek goodbye. You should not go further on this first date. Perhaps the man wants to continue the evening and get closer more, but we must remember that the first impression is indelible.
You should be very careful not to ruin anything. But, of course, the best way is to rely on your intuition.
How to get dressed?
Any girl feels comfortable and confident if she looks perfect. Therefore, the image must be carefully thought out.
It is imperative to make a hairstyle, but the one that was already done earlier, the one that goes and is time-tested. No experiments like curling, painting, cutting.
All this may not be very successful, and then the mood will be spoiled, in some cases you will have to refuse to meet. Restrained makeup will be the way, do not paint too brightly.
As for clothes, it is most reasonable to wear your favorite outfit, which is comfortable.
There is no need for a too short skirt and an excessively deep neckline. All this is not suitable for a first date. New shoes are also not an option.
They can behave unpredictably, and all thoughts will no longer be about a date, but about how to get to the house faster and throw off shoes. Therefore, it is better to wear beautiful and beloved shoes, optionally even with heels.One or two jewelry, combined with each other and with a common style, will also look elegant.
Tips
Before inviting a guy, you should collect all the necessary information about him. This can help social networks, friends, colleagues. The more information there is, the greater the chance of a successful date. Having learned about his hobbies, it is necessary to gather the necessary information to support the conversation and show off erudition.
Important advice from a psychologist: to behave confidently (not to be confused with arrogance!) And kindly. When inviting to a date, do not mumble, be embarrassed, or faint. A much more suitable smile on his face, an open look and a confident voice.
When communicating with a man on a first date, it is necessary to show interest in his person, it will be useful to praise a couple of times, only the moment for this should be suitable.
Oddly enough, men constantly need approval and praise. If you manage to show awareness of what he is interested in, the young man will appreciate it, and he will want to at least chat again.
Another situation that needs to be prepared for is failure. And you need to accept it with dignity. No stingy remarks or barbs. Courtesy and calm. Moreover, tomorrow everything can change, and you always need to think so. The long-awaited date will happen, but not this time. It is very important to tune yourself in a positive way and believe in yourself, only then you can succeed.
