Despite the fact that historically the right to approach and get acquainted belongs to the male gender, its representatives often expect the first step from the girl. This comes from a lack of experience, self-doubt, ignorance of how to behave and what to say in order to please. This task is not so difficult, but also as simple as it seems at first glance. Knowledge of the basic rules, compliance with simple recommendations will certainly make it possible to feel freer, and therefore find your own one. Psychologists believe that you can find a way to the heart of any girl.
Where can I meet?
The main question that confronts a man who wants to start a relationship with a girl is where to look for her. In fact, although this can happen anywhere, choosing the right place means increasing the chances. We offer you the most popular places where you can interest a girl who likes.
It is important to remember that unsuccessful attempts are normal, in no case should one be allowed to confuse oneself, one should not lower one’s hands either.
Outside
You can make acquaintance even on the street, a large percentage of relationships arise that way. If you don’t know where to start, just take a closer look at the surrounding girls. The main signal that they showed sympathy is an open, interested look.Even if you just looked into each other's eyes, but at the same time saw a disposition and affability on your face - this may be enough to try. Many meetings did not take place, because the view was not considered a sufficiently weighty argument. No need to get lost and pass by if you notice the look of the girl who impressed you.
You will miss the chance and will reproach yourself for insecurity, but the worst thing that awaits you is mutual disinterest and a few minutes of lost time. Getting acquainted on the street is promising, because there really are a lot of options. However, this is difficult to do, because you need to overcome your shyness, behave confidently and not delay.
It is very important to enter the conversation correctly, the first phrase often solves everything, so it’s worth considering. Said stupidity or vulgarity instantly devalue all your chances. Try to start by making eye contact, after which the said phrase will no longer shock the stranger. Do not build long ornate phrases, just say hello, invite to meet you. You need to communicate with positive, friendly. You can start with a compliment only if you are confident in yourself and know how to do it, because the banality about beautiful eyes is unlikely to surprise anyone.
If your goal is a long acquaintance, then you should demonstrate this immediately. If the first sentence was received favorably and the offer to meet was not rejected, it is important to interest the unknown girl. If the degree of disposition is unclear in the response, try joking or getting attention with your accomplishments (but not in the form of boasting). Participation in interesting events, competitions, interesting work - everything will do. If the girl is still polite, but no more, it is worth referring to employment and asking for a phone number, offering to meet another time.
In social networks
A shy man is a fairly common occurrence. Such people cannot get to know each other personally, but there is a solution - Internet resources. Social networks are the most popular sites where you can find a girl. However, you should not think that it is enough to send one message for the acquaintance to take place. First of all, take care of your account, put a real photo on the avatar, where you are in a good angle and in good shape.
Pages with candid pictures are unlikely to interest an adequate girl. If you are in search, do not be lazy to fill out an account form in full and in detail. Be sure to demonstrate hobbies: sports, photography, books, travel. Another important point is literacy. If you are not sure about the spelling, you will have to use electronic assistants. Be sure to check the letters before sending. An illiterate text will cause nothing but annoyance.
To interest the interlocutor, it is better to study her account and understand what she is interested in - based on this, the first message should be built. It’s good if you are in the same group or subscribed to the same public.
In club
This is a very popular dating place, which, however, rarely leads to something serious, as the situation in the night club is relaxed, frivolous. Of course, there are exceptions to any rule, but the girls themselves do not take such acquaintances responsibly. Getting to know and having fun together one evening is the maximum you can count on when meeting in clubs. But as a practice, accumulating experience, and overcoming embarrassment, this option fits almost perfectly, because the situation is conducive to easy communication.
On the beach
If everything is in order with your appearance and figure, you feel confident enough in bathing shorts, then the beach is a good place to meet.Girls come to rest there, so they are in no hurry - you will have time to think over tactics and take a closer look. A great way is to engage the girl you like in some kind of beach entertainment, game.
In the shop
Girls love shopping, so meeting in a store is one of the most promising. And there you can meet not only with a spectacular customer, but also with the seller you like. The latter can be made much simpler, as the girl will be forced to chat with you by her status. Ask for help choosing a shirt or jacket, a perfume for mom as a gift, and handbags for your sister.
In public transport
Getting to know each other in transport was considered bad form, however, the situation when you ride across the subway for a long enough time and look at each other is a great chance to make a new acquaintance. Almost the same rules apply here as when meeting on the street: look, first phrase, interest.
In group classes
A great opportunity for dating is provided by regular classes in groups: for example, sports, fitness. You are already united by some common interest - a gym, horse riding, swimming. On the basis of this hobby you can get acquainted easily and naturally, and there is already a topic for conversation, therefore you are definitely spared from the painful search, what would interest the stranger.
At public events
Another great way to get to know each other is through a concert of your favorite band, a hockey match, a festive event. The situation is relaxed, and the general topic of conversation is ready - the singer, music, the team’s play. Continuing this acquaintance will be much easier than street.
In the theater and at the exhibition
This way of dating is forgotten in vain. If you haven’t been to the theater for a long time, try it. You will be amazed at how many girls and women there are of all ages and statuses. There are very few men there, which means giving a coat, offering a program, discussing a performance during the intermission in the buffet will be very simple.
The same applies to art and photo exhibitions. Girls go there, examining objects of art, so it’s very easy to approach them and start a conversation about an interesting photo.
At school
In an educational institution (college, institute) it is easiest to get to know each other. Moreover, you know many girls. This is the same as a relationship at work, when people communicate within the same institution every day - making long-term acquaintance in such conditions is easier. At least you can catch the eye of your daily interest.
How to look?
Appearance is the first criterion by which we evaluate people. Subsequently, this becomes not so important, but at the time of the first meeting it is necessary to make a positive impression on the chosen one. If you want to like it, you have to look after yourself. Be sure to pay attention to posture, keep straight. Provide dental and oral care, wash your hair on time and visit the hairdresser on time. It is not necessary to dress up in an original way, but a neat look is always a plus when meeting people. If you are sloppy dressed, your clothes are wrinkled, your shoes are dirty, you are unlikely to succeed with the opposite sex.
Learn to choose the right clothes - this is important not only for women. Which store to choose for this does not matter, but the size is very important. There is no ideal style for dating, however, there are areas that increase the chances of making a favorable impression. First of all, this casual is a free and universal style. The classics are also good, but not always appropriate. A shirt, cardigan, coat, blazer, chinos - this is a simple set of things that will allow you to look modern and dignified.
How to behave?
A humble guy is not enough just to approach the girl, it is important to behave correctly, unobtrusively. First of all, accept the idea that girls are not alien creatures, they are people like men.Therefore, there is absolutely no need to jump above your head to like it. Of course, there are differences in interests, but this is more a plus than a minus. First of all, girls love compliments and attentive attitude. Appropriate behavior will be a huge plus. A sincere, slightly embarrassed, smile always works great.
Do not be afraid to seem old-fashioned, letting the girl go forward, holding the door, offering to offer coffee - all this is still effective and has to itself. Masculinity and care are the main qualities that conquer women.
What to talk about?
The most difficult thing in getting to know each other is the stage when you need to build a dialogue, and almost nothing is known about the girl (especially difficult if you are shy). The most effective way is to focus on the interlocutor and give her the opportunity to have a conversation.
If you do not know what to talk about, then the method of active listening will help you out in any situation. You just need to ask more questions about the girl herself - everyone loves to talk about themselves. Ask such questions that your darling will be pleased to answer, then the acquaintance will certainly be successful.
You can start a dialogue with questions about age, name, occupation. At the same time, you must introduce yourself and name your age and status. In a conversation, be sure to emphasize the peculiarity of your chosen one - this always causes a positive reaction.
Psychologist's advice
Before you get acquainted, you should give the girl an opportunity to consider herself properly - hardly anyone will like it if they approach him from the back. A look back and a smile are a signal for starting a conversation. In addition, adhere to the following advice from psychologists:
- start with a compliment;
- commenting is a great way to keep attention at the initial stage, so be observant: the poster of the film is an occasion to talk about it or go to the movies together;
- refrain from templates, try to be non-standard;
- try not to prolong the conversation, even if everything is going well - it’s better to take a phone number, recover and continue
- try to get acquainted wherever possible - experience will add to your confidence;
- unobtrusive perseverance - the path to success;
- do not portray who you are not: naturalness in the framework of decency is the best way to interest a girl for real, to play your whole life you still will not succeed;
- it is important to have motivation, if you want to get to know each other, you will be able to overcome shyness or fear.
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