White and black envy: what does it mean and what is the difference?

Each person at least once in his life experienced envy. It is very easy for some people to recognize this emotion, for others it just gnaws from the inside, but they are not ready to admit it. Since childhood, each parent instills in his child that it is bad to envy others. In the explanations, they compare this feeling with a worm that will sit in the chest and corrode the soul. However, with age, parental explanations are forgotten. And the feeling of envy sometimes overtakes at the most inopportune moment. Highlight envy white and black. How they differ among themselves and how they appear, we learn in the article.

In many literary works one can encounter a negative manifestation of envy. For example, Snow White and stepmother, Scar and Mufasa (characters of the cartoon "The Lion King"). Even the Bible has a pronounced sense of envy between the brothers Cain and Abel. In fact, envy is a rather complex phenomenon. And in order to understand its basis, one should consider what this feeling consists of:

• rivalry;
• malice;
• hatred;
• dissatisfaction;
• comparison.

Feeling jealousy means that an envious person wants to have something that another has. For example, a woman wants a fur coat made of natural fur. But life circumstances force her to wear a regular down jacket or artificial sheepskin coat. And then her friend gets for herself a mink coat on the floor.Accordingly, the woman has a feeling of anger, because she very much wanted to complement her wardrobe with just such an element of outerwear, but could not achieve this. The fulfillment of their desires by others is an unbearable sensation. And as a so-called defensive reaction, an envious person begins to take revenge on someone who succeeds. In the example of a woman with a fur coat, a woman who is not satisfied with her life begins to dissolve gossip about her friend, to tell tales. But in fact, such examples are found in everyday life at every step.

The researchers found that People aged 18 to 30 years are prone to envy. It is extremely rare for the elderly and children to envy others. In the modern world, the phenomenon of envy is divided into white and black species. It is believed that white envy is not afraid of anything. However, in fact, even a white tint is a bad emotion. Of course, it is softer, contains less negative emotions, even plays a peculiar role of a push that motivates you to move forward.

The emotional scheme of white envy: he envied, decided, gathered his strength, got what he wanted. Roughly speaking, white envy is a motivator that guides a person to achieve success. Black envy is much worse than white. She causes the envy to have the most negative emotions, sets him up for anger and rudeness. Sometimes it even requires the destruction of the one who is envied. For this reason, intrigue, deceit, and sometimes even murder, always hang around black envy. White envy can arise kindly and unknowingly, and black - deliberately. It can be experienced by rich, beautiful, talented, successful and healthy people. In reality, a person can only feel envy of something that he does not have. In fact, this is a powerful aggression that causes discomfort in the soul.

If a person experiences black envy in his soul, his aura is saturated with anger and complete negativity, anger and hatred. Such a person can harm the owner of the desired good without a twinge of conscience. Black envy can push a person to terrible things. For example, paint a car or write a manual to a management on the employee who received the promotion. A person with white envy does not have bad emotions in his soul. He does not seek to harm a successful person. The white feeling of envy allows you to improve, to believe in yourself and your strength, thereby achieving the desired heights.

Many people know how white envy differs from black, but they cannot convey in words. The main difference between these feelings is that white envy is a stimulant and motivator, and black is anger and hatred. It is black envy that kills a person’s emotional state. It happens that it is extremely difficult for a person to cope with a feeling of envy. The only solution is the help of a highly qualified psychologist.

The causes of jealousy for each person are different. It all depends on personality and character. However, according to psychologists, the main ones are low self-esteem, a love of boasting, a desire to have the best benefits, a difficult childhood, improper upbringing and weakness of mind. This list also includes the love of power. Despite the variety of reasons for envy, they are united by an important component, namely the desire to possess what the other person has.

With regard to white and black envy, there are many different stories, small stories, tales and parables. For example, once an old Indian told his grandson that in the soul of every person there is a constant struggle between two wolves. The first beast is anger, hatred and jealousy. The second is good, peace, love and happiness.The little Indian, who was listening carefully to this story, asked his grandfather what kind of wolf was winning at the end, to which the old Indian replied that the one you were feeding was winning.

Many psychologists believe that envy is a contagious phenomenon. If a similar emotion appeared in the head of 1 person, it will certainly hit a neighbor. For example, a man was envious of the professional success of a colleague for a long time, because of which he began to discuss this employee with the whole team, began to tell stories about him, collect gossip, and even put his colleague under attack before the leadership. After listening to this information, necessarily 1 out of 10 employees will take the side of the envy, and a war against a successful person will be built with double force.

Psychologists pay special attention to people with low self-esteem due to difficult childhood and poverty. They are jealous of social injustice, which is much more difficult to overcome. It is almost as difficult to get rid of envy by people who consider themselves losers and complete insignificance. They are constantly gnawed by the lack of the best in life. Moreover, they even perceive small victories as defeats.

Do not forget that the envious person, experiencing a feeling of envy, plunges into the maelstrom of suffering and devouring his feelings. Quite often it happens that it is impossible to throw out negative emotions on a successful person. Then you have to keep the experienced anger in yourself. Constant negative emotions cause a lot of diseases - not only mental, but also physical.

In addition, an envious person in a fit of violent anger can create a situation in which innocent people can suffer. The most interesting thing is that any of them can be a very serious opponent, then the envious will have to be tight.

Unfortunately, one cannot always control oneself. That is why envy comes unexpectedly and can gnaw a person from the inside for a long time. To avoid this, it is necessary to determine the main cause of envy and work with a psychologist. It is advisable more often to indulge yourself with beautiful things, delicious food, travel to interesting events, travel out of town, visit distant countries. To eradicate a feeling of envy, you must constantly work on yourself. In no case can you compare yourself with other people. Freed from envy, a person’s life changes completely. He has new priorities, interests, acquaintances. The emotional background is changing for the better, and the question "Why not me?" goes into the background.

It is very difficult for a person to curb envy on his own, but with the right approach, you can turn this feeling into an ideal motivation. For example, women who want to lose weight, just look at the beautiful bodies of the fair sex in the gym. Those who want to get rich should work hard and seek their destiny. One of the important tips of psychologists to cope with a feeling of envy is to increase your own self-esteem.