How to hold a wedding in a narrow circle of friends and family?

Modern newlyweds more and more often refuse to hold noisy weddings with many guests. The arguments may be different, but the main ones are most often:

• huge budget;
• the tediousness of such an event;
• possible excesses.

You can organize a beautiful wedding even with modest financial opportunities. And if you carefully think through every little thing and show imagination, then the celebration will long remain in the memory of both newlyweds and guests.

How to spend your first family holiday, while abandoning a huge number of guests, is decided only by the newlyweds themselves, guided by their desires and interests. Different options are possible:

• a wedding in a narrow circle of friends and relatives;
• a celebration in a small friendly company;
• wedding evening with family, parents;
• romantic dinner for two.

Each of these options has its own characteristics. It is important that the holiday does not turn into ordinary gatherings, where guests talked, ate, drank and safely forgot everything, going beyond the threshold. It should be the real birthday of the new family, so the celebration requires a proper and thoughtful organization. If this is a company of different ages, consisting of close relatives, often already quite old, and younger friends, it is important that no one is bored, no one is sitting quietly in the corner.

A celebration in the company of close friends, united by common interests, can be unusual and unexpected.A wedding evening with parents should not be a reason for discussing possible problems that inevitably arise in any young family, and especially not devoted to nature, weather and oil prices. A romantic dinner together should not be turned into joint preparation and absorption of even the most exquisite dishes, there will be other reasons for this.

In any case, the first assistant will be the imagination of the young themselves, witnesses, parents, friends. Joint preparation for the holiday can unite future relatives and discover unexpected abilities and talents. When organizing a wedding, it is necessary to draw up a psychological portrait of each of the guests. This moment will be decisive in resolving all issues: where the celebration will take place, whether it is necessary to invite the host, what the scenario will be.

When choosing a place for a wedding The most common options will be:

• at home;
• in a restaurant.

Pros for organizing a celebration in an apartment or in your own house are certain:

• home furnishings, allowing you to comfortably accommodate both elderly relatives and guests with small children;
• a significant reduction in financial costs, since there is no need to pay for renting a restaurant, you can refuse the services of a host, musicians and other staff;
• there are no time limits; there is no need to decide how to get home and how to deliver gifts.

But do not think that this will require less effort, because the whole organization will lie on the shoulders of young and parents. The following questions will be added to traditional questions.

• Number of guests. In an ordinary apartment it is difficult to comfortably accommodate more than 15 people.
• The room for the event. It should have a place for the festive table, and for competitions, and for dancing. If this is a country house, then these issues are much easier to solve. An ideal option for an apartment would be the opportunity for a feast to allocate one room, for outdoor events - another. In addition, extra furniture will have to be taken out of them, and tables and chairs are convenient to place.

• Room decoration. There is no need to have a lot of wedding paraphernalia, but the entrance to the apartment and the place for the newlyweds need to be decorated. It is advisable to organize a beautiful photo zone, think over the design and placement of floral arrangements. Flower vases that guests will bring must be prepared in advance.
• Ventilation. Guests should not be stuffy, hot or cold. In the summer to create such conditions in the apartment is quite difficult.
• Musical accompaniment. For help in this matter, you can contact the friends of the newlyweds. Neighbors must be warned of any inconvenience caused by noise and loud music.

• Purchase and storage of products. In the warm season, the issue of storage will be especially relevant.
• Menu, cooking and serving. All these concerns will fall on the female part of the family, which creates serious inconvenience, so in this matter it is still worth turning to professionals. A cook with an assistant and a waiter will be quite enough.
• Tableware. A variety of plates, wine glasses, knives, etc. do not correspond to the solemnity of the event. You may need to purchase them in the required quantity. In addition, all this will need to be washed and cleaned later.
• The script of the holiday. You can’t do without it, even if contests are not planned due to the number or age of guests. Everything should be prepared and scheduled literally in minutes.

This option of holding a wedding in a narrow circle is good in that you can realize any ideas and fantasies, since even very small venues will do. Traditionally, this can be a spectacular celebration in one of the restaurants of the city.Almost every of them has a cozy small room. You can choose a romantic small cafe, memorable for newlyweds, by organizing a chamber evening “by candlelight”. A great option would be a trip to a country restaurant with a triumph in a tent in nature or on the shore of a pond. At the same time, you can provide a hotel for the weekend, where it is convenient to accommodate all guests and provide them with entertainment of interest.

For a wedding in a narrow circle, it is not necessary to invite a host. But even if the event is celebrated only with immediate family members and does not provide for many contests, the scenario of the event must be thought out necessarily. First you need to decide what kind of wedding you would like to see.

There are many options:

• traditional celebration with observance of all necessary ceremonies;
• themed wedding in a single style solution;
• creative, unusual event;
• youth wedding;
• European style wedding.

Witnesses and parents will help entertain the guests without a host to the young couple. You can appeal to one of the artistic guests with this request. Since such help requires considerable efforts and serious preliminary preparation, it may well be considered as a wedding gift.

The main principles in the development of an entertainment program:

• Do not delay the time of the competitions;
• participation in them should be voluntary and interesting for everyone;
• attention to age, status and character of guests;
• rejection of annoying and frivolous contests.

When developing the script, you can rely on the traditional plan of the wedding celebration, including, as necessary, your own creative “finds”:

• parents meet young people with a mandatory loaf, lead to the table, pronounce parting words;
• thanksgiving speech of the newlyweds;
• toasts and congratulations to guests;
• first dance of the bride and groom;
• dances and mobile competitions;
• removal of a wedding cake, solemn joint cutting;
• removing the veil and putting the young wife in the hands of her husband;
• lighting a new family hearth, which is symbolized by a wedding candle.

Even in the solemn part, “officialdom” can be avoided. Since all the guests are well acquainted with the young and each other, in the opening remarks it is possible, without naming names, to address each with comic poetic lines, and the rest of the guests will guess who they are talking about and greet him with applause. The traditional waltz of the young can be continued with modern compositions. This moment will amuse those present and add a touch of ease.

Competitions for newlyweds should be unexpected and most often prepared by witnesses.

• "Love does not love". Young are awarded large daisies. On the back of each petal is written some mysterious word (names, dates, sizes, weight, parameters, memorials, etc.). The task of the bride and groom is to guess what they mean. In the same way, but only for one daisy, one can "guess" the circle of family responsibilities.
• "Guess what." They blindfold the bride and offer to guess who will kiss her - the groom or one of the guests. The groom kisses all the time, the question is: will she guess?
• "Ice, melt." Young people are handed an ice cube and are offered to melt an iceberg of a possible misunderstanding between them. Hot and stronger is the love of the one who will cope faster. For the winner a separate toast.

Involve as many guests as possible in preparation for the wedding and give rest to the host will be a preliminary request from young people to all those invited: to prepare and conduct their own competition, without revealing its secrets to the others. Of course, parental help will be needed here to control, in order to avoid repetitions, unwanted and uninteresting contests, preparation of props.To help guests, you can offer to choose a contest from an existing list.

Competitions for future "parents".

• Blindfolded to swaddle a baby doll or put on a diaper.
• Doubles competition: blindfolded “mother” (woman) should feed with semolina or drink from the “baby” (man) from the nipples. You can fill the bottle with anything: water, lemonade, cola. Of course, you need to prepare protective aprons for the clothes of "kids".
• "The knot will be tied." Several pairs are selected. The players become close and their touching hands are tied. With free hands you need to lace up the sneaker and tie a beautiful bow. The pair will win, faster and more accurately coped with the task.

Possible mistakes in planning should be avoided.

• Lack of an accurate budget calculation. It is he who determines all the preparations for the wedding.
• Rain, wind, blizzard - such weather conditions can ruin the holiday.
• Lack of timing. A per-minute calculation taking into account unforeseen circumstances will eliminate the risk of being late for the ceremony or unnecessarily prolonged moments of the celebration.
• Save on video or photo. A wedding is one of the most important days in life; you won’t be able to “retake” it.
• Excitement over little things. Everything possible has been done, so unnecessary anxiety is completely useless.

See how to organize a wedding in a narrow circle in the next video.