The wedding of one’s own child is, perhaps, for most parents no less important event than his birth. Yes, and various troubles, financial costs of this event often fall on the shoulders of the fathers and mothers of the bride and groom. As a rule, one of the first toasts is pronounced for them at the festive banquet, it will be useful to please parents with a special gift.
Traditional options
Presentation of the present to parents from the newlyweds is an old Slavic sign. Thus, the bride and groom thanked each other's parents for raising and raising a son or daughter. In the east there was (and still exists in remote regions today) the tradition of paying kalym for a girl. Wedding kalym is a rather rich offering, designed specifically for the bride's family. As a rule, these are cattle, wine, money, carpets, crops.
In Slavic families, according to tradition, parents were usually thanked and bestowed on the second day of the wedding. On this day they were transported around the village on a decorated cart, jokes, songs and jokes were dedicated to them, as well as gifts. The latter were often with an erotic hint - as a desire to have another child in return for creating their own family. In other words, the young people devoted the second day to their parents, as well as close relatives (grandparents).
For mom and dad groom
By tradition, the bride handed the groom’s parents their own things. Usually it was homespun textile, embroidered rushnyks, tablecloths. Thus, the girl demonstrated her own abilities in needlework, housekeeping.
Following this tradition, home textiles can become a gift from newlyweds to parents: curtains, rugs, carpets, towels. A set of bed or table linen will be appropriate. Personalized embroidery will help to give originality to the present. Since few modern ladies have the ability to embroider and free time, it is more reasonable to order machine embroidery in a specialized salon.
Always appropriate, and most importantly - a desirable and pleasant gift will be the one associated with the passion of parents. If the future mother-in-law is fond of cooking, she will clearly be delighted with the cookbooks in the gift edition, dishes, baking dishes, a set of spices or rare oils. If, on the contrary, you want to ease the economic duties of the “second mother”, present her with a bread machine, slow cooker, dishwasher or other household appliances. It is difficult to find a woman who will not be pleased with such presents.
Gift suitable for couples - service. It is not necessary to present expensive porcelain sets consisting of many objects. Even a small tea or coffee set, selected with attention and presented with the words that your young family is waiting for an invitation to a family tea party to the father-in-law and mother-in-law, will look symbolic and cute.
If you want a newly-made mother-in-law to remember you with a kind word, present her with good tea or coffee. Do not stint and choose a decent option, acquiring it in large volume. Each time, wanting to taste tea or coffee and enjoying its taste, the groom's parents will remember the donors.
If funds permit, present the parents of the future husband with jewelry made in the same style. For mom, you can choose earrings, and for father - cufflinks. The main thing is that jewelry should not be fake or cheap jewelry.
If you do not have money for expensive and impressive things, it is better to choose a different gift option. The same should be done if you are afraid to "miss" with the style of jewelry.
For father and mother of the bride
In the old days, after marriage, the girl transferred to the groom's family, so the number of workers in her own family decreased. Today you can beat this by giving the girl’s father and mother an “automatic assistant”. An excellent option is a multicooker. Of the larger gifts, a dishwasher or washing machine, refrigerator, etc.
The textile sets described above will also be a good present (bedding, tablecloths, towels, etc.). No less symbolic present will be beautiful dishes. Demonstrate your parental care — a heater, humidifier, massager, or salt lamp will surely delight them.
The groom can present the mother-in-law a bouquet, and if she is fond of floriculture, she can give her a rare indoor flower. You can give elite alcohol to the dough.
Both the parents of the groom and the parents of the bride will be pleased with tickets to the sanatorium, movie tickets, subscriptions to the gym, pool, and philharmonic. If funds allow, you can purchase a country plot for them, and even better - a cottage with finished buildings and landings.
At this age, by the way, many people have summer cottages and literally live there. In this case, you can give them tools and equipment that facilitate work (lawn mower, automatic irrigation system). The presented grill for frying meat will also be successful. Gifts in the form of decorative elements will be appropriate: garden lanterns, flower garden decorations, small forged benches.
DIY presentations
DIY presentations are not a way to save money, but an indicator that you tried very hard, wanted to present something really symbolic and unique. As a rule, young people have a lot of trouble before the wedding and there is almost no free time, therefore, if they created a collage on a Whatman’s gift or baked a cake, this indicates their reverence and strong love for father and mother.
In the banquet room, you can pre-hang old photos from the family albumaccompanying them with touching inscriptions for parents. You can create a kind of locomotive by cutting out paper cars. On each car, you can attach a photo of the bride and groom from birth. The steam locomotive is mounted on the wall at the entrance to the banquet hall.
As you move to the places of parents, the photos replace each other and demonstrate how the children grew, the family changed. Directly near the instruments, in the place where the mothers and fathers of the young will sit, you can put a photo in a frame. Young parents can take pictures a few days before the wedding, but it will turn out even more interesting if you do it in a registry office.
Naturally, such a present requires a lot of preparation and the presence of assistants. But this is precisely what makes it even more valuable.
You can bake a cake or pie, the main thing is to do it yourself. You can attach a humorous note to the pie, with an explanation of its composition, a designation of each of the ingredients. For example: “to express our love, we put a ripe fragrant strawberry in the cake, and to demonstrate respect, we filled it with a gentle souffle made from natural cream”. Undoubtedly, even with an abundance of snacks and refreshments on the table, parents will be happy to take cakes (they will have to be cooked in 2 copies) home to taste them in the morning.
Unusual ideas and surprises
Most parents, barely talking about the wedding of their beloved child, begin to look forward to grandchildren. In this regard, young people can present them with an orange tree. It symbolizes family comfort, the continuity of generations. The gift can be accompanied by a humorous promise that just as an orange tree is covered with fruits (and bears fruit all year round), your parents will be surrounded by grandchildren.
However, if the couple are very young, and their parents want them to finish their studies and take a career plan, such a gift can scare them.
The medals, cups, diplomas presented to parents will turn out to be original. The main thing is to truthfully and at the same time sincerely determine the nomination for each of the parents. In this case, in the scenario of the holiday, it is better to give a special place for the ceremony of presenting gifts. The bride can say thanks to her parents and explain the meaning of the nomination, and the groom can solemnly present the award. Then he likewise thanks his family, and the bride is already engaged in the delivery of medals or cups.
Original look bouquets of sweets and fruits. The main thing is that they are not opened or damaged. It is unlikely that parents will begin to taste an unusual gift at a banquet, where there are already many treats. But they will be able to take him home and try for 2-3 days after the wedding.
What is better not to give?
Before talking about unwanted gifts, it is worth noting that the presentations to the parents of the groom and the parents of the bride should be equivalent. If some receive household appliances, then the second is desirable to present something like that.
It is better to choose gifts for young parents together. It brings together, allows you to better know the family of your partner. In addition, the bride can stop the young man in time if, for example, he is going to buy flowers for the mother-in-law that she is allergic to.
Above we talked about the possibility of giving a service or tea pair, but it is better for parents to refuse from pots and pans as a gift. It looks too ordinary, and a woman can see in such a gift a subtle hint that her place is in the kitchen.
No need to give gifts that can cause disagreement in the family. For example, if the father of the bride or groom is a passionate fisherman and constantly disappears on a lake or river, and his wife tirelessly “cuts” him for it, it is better not to give spinning shoes, wading boots or a folding chair. The head of the family will want to immediately experience all this in business, once again “slipping away” from home, which the newlyweds will indirectly blame.
Taking care of parents' health is always commendable. The above is a list of presents from this group. However, it is worth stopping at them. It is not recommended to give medicines, certificates for an appointment with a doctor (even very good or paid), means for measuring pressure, sugar level. If these are necessary, it is better to buy all these items to mothers and fathers for no reason.
If you believe the traditions, you can not give watches, open objects, mirrors. According to popular belief, they can make a difference in the family. Even if you yourself do not believe in signs, it is quite possible that your parents, being people of an older generation, will see an unkind sign in such presentations.
When choosing gifts, it is important to approach this responsibly - find out wishes, take into account personal preferences, family traditions. Choosing gifts at the last moment, you risk purchasing completely unnecessary items. If you give something cheap, you will create the impression that you are giving presents exclusively “for show”. A similar impression will be created even if you give people an expensive but useless thing (for example, a refrigerator, if recently your parents already bought this equipment).
It is not recommended to give clothes and shoes to parents. Such gifts, according to etiquette, can be presented to each other only by close relatives. On wedding day, usually the daughter’s bridegroom or the son’s bride are not yet so dear to the mothers and fathers of their “halves”.
About what to present to parents from newlyweds, see further.
