Everything you need to know about preparing and conducting the perfect wedding

A wedding is a significant event that should be in the life of a man and a woman only once, and it will always be remembered. And how bright and pleasant these memories will be depends on a competent approach to the preparation of this event.

As for what the word "wedding" means, there are different versions. Some believe that the roots of its origin should be sought in the ancient Indian language, where there was a word that sounded in a similar way and meant "own." It turns out that the bride and groom after passing the ceremony of marriage became close to each other.

According to another version, the word "convolution" originally existed. During the event with the same name, the spouses were “brought” into one family.

If you look at history, initially the marriage of two people was not their will, but, first of all, the will of their parents. Often they married sons and married their daughters as early as possible so that young people did not embark on erotic adventures outside the limits assigned to society, while the groom's family also received a worker in the house.

The wedding day was preceded by a matchmaking, then a wedding was organized, followed by a feast lasting three days.

This situation changed somewhat when Peter I came to power. Then it was possible to marry people from different classes and who were very different in age. The practice also appeared to combine marriage with representatives of foreign states, and those who divorced.

Marriage of their own free will began to be approved, although the fundamental influence of parents on this issue remained significant for a very long time.

At any time, a lot of diverse traditions were associated with the wedding celebration. Among them are:

• parental blessing;
• ransom of the bride by the groom;
• exchange of rings;
• shedding young grain and coins as a sign of family and financial well-being;
• fortune-telling on a festive loaf (which of the spouses breaks off a larger piece, he will lead the family).

There are relatively recent traditions, some of which are described below.

• Releasing into the sky white doves with pink and blue ribbon on their paws. If a bird with a pink ribbon takes off above, then a girl will be born first in the family. A blue ribbon means that a boy will be born first.
• Break happiness glasses, from which the newlyweds made the first sip of champagne.
• Dancing young right after the wedding ceremony.
• The bride is dancing with her father.
• Throw a bridal bouquet over your head in the company of unmarried girlfriends.

For example, today the wedding is considered the most expensive Indians Vanisha Mittal and Amita Bhatia. Costs amounted to 78 million dollars. This happened back in 1981. Since then, no one has managed to surpass the organizers of the wedding for financial costs.

An ancient castle on the outskirts of the French capital and the Louvre parks was chosen for the celebration. At this wedding, champagne alone cost one and a half million dollars.

The funniest and at the same time the most budgetary is considered to be the wedding of two lovers walking around naked. This is a couple from Germany: Emmy Bartonnie and Philip Handicole. Young people did not even spend on clothes, as well as their guests.

The bride and groom were registered naked in full view of one and a half hundred guests, who were also not covered by anything. Of the accessories, the newlyweds had rings, the groom also had a hat, and the bride had a veil and a bouquet, which she held in her hands.

There have been times when people got married in an aquarium with sharks or in an airplane. Wedding in our time is becoming an occasion for experimentation.

For many, it does not end after decades. It is no coincidence that every new year of spouses living together is celebrated some kind of wedding: chintz, paper, leather, linen, wood and others. One hundred years from the date of marriage, a platinum wedding is celebrated, but there are very few who survived to this day.

To organize such a significant event as a wedding is a difficult and responsible matter. Often it is for the bride and her parents that organizing this event becomes an essential concern. So that preparation for the wedding day does not turn into a fussy, exhausting and ineffective running around, you need to act according to a plan that provides all the steps towards achieving the goal.

First of all, you can create a table in which to write down all the points that you need to remember to do.

The to-do list may look like the one shown in the table.

Knowledgeable people advise not to neglect the use of a diary, which should always be at hand if you thoroughly prepare for such an important event as your daughter’s wedding. It should record the contacts of specialists who will help to resolve all issues in stages.

Given the fact that any event begins with an idea, it needs to be made and formulated. This applies to themes, stylistics, the venue of the celebration, as well as such details as the dresses of the bride and groom, the menu and the number of guests. And for this, the future heroes of the occasion themselves and their parents should discuss all these important points and decide who will be responsible for each direction.

• Budget allocation. On such a parameter as money depends on how fulfilled the wishes of the newlyweds on the wedding day, therefore, even the smallest expenses that will affect the final amount, starting from the state duty for the wedding and ending with catering, should be foreseen initially.

You need to understand that there will be expenses for clothes, for a bouquet, and for decorating the holiday as a whole, as well as for the services of a host, photographer, hairdresser, transportation costs, etc. To the resulting amount it is necessary to add another 20% for unforeseen expenses - only then you can understand the approximate price of desires for organizing the holiday and evaluate the extent to which the plan is feasible.

• Site selection. You also need to determine the options for the place of registration of marriage. Today this is done not only in wedding palaces and in the halls of celebration of registry offices - retreats are in fashion. And if the native daughter and her chosen one have a desire to marry on the seashore, in the forest, or, for example, in an old mansion, then all this requires study.

• Search for contractors. The executors of one or another part of the plan can play a key role in the event. The search for reliable companies and good specialists is a responsible occupation. This issue needs to be given maximum attention. You need to start solving the problem as early as possible so that there is an alternative to choice.
• Buying outfits. The bride must decide what dress she needs for the wedding, because this is her holiday, therefore, the outfit must exactly match the fantasies of the girl, so that on the crucial day not to experience disappointment or frustration. You also need to plan which veil will fit the dress, and whether it is needed in a particular case.

Despite the fact that the groom should not see the bride’s dress before the wedding, the style of his suit should be determined so that it matches the dress of the future wife in style.

• The choice of rings. It is also important to think about the image of the rings in advance, because in the future it will become an everyday decoration for spouses. Young people may be inclined to choose jewelry in yellow or white gold, with or without stones, with or without engraving. Thinking about the choice, you need to think ahead, because even the brightest and most beautiful ring becomes familiar.

The bride and her parents can prepare for the holiday both independently and with the involvement of professionals.

All stages of preparation should be carried out step by step, focusing on the plan prepared at the very beginning.

It is advisable to coordinate the date of the celebration with invited guests, or at least with those without whom this holiday is impossible. Usually, Saturday is chosen for the wedding, since most people rest on that day.

It is important to ensure that the figure itself in the calendar does not bother future spouses, because this date will be celebrated in the family annually. And if you do not like the number, for example, 13 or 4, then you should not let it into your life - it is better to postpone the wedding to a later date.

The season of the year is of particular importance. The most saturated color photographs are obtained in the summer and during the golden autumn. If this fact is important, then when choosing a date for the wedding should focus on it.

When compiling the guest list, one should focus on the wishes of the bride and groom. Usually, the most important people are included in it first, and then the rest, whose presence is not so important. If the number of guests has to be limited for some reason, then with this approach it will be easier to clean the list.

When sending out invitations, it is better to contact friends and relatives by name - this will make it clear to people that their presence at the wedding is very significant for the heroes of the occasion.

The event should be held in a place that will accommodate the required number of guests and will enable everyone to comfortably accommodate. It is necessary to decide in advance on the check for one guest and the possibility of independent purchase of alcoholic beverages, since they are cheaper in the store than in the restaurants or cafes themselves.

Usually a wedding is entrusted to the host. When choosing a leader, the bride and groom should agree on who to entrust this side of the matter - a man or a woman. After this, several discussions should be held with candidates for this role. It so happens that you have to choose from 4-5 people - there is no need to rush into such a matter.

A professional photographer is a specialist whose choice cannot be taken carelessly. Only a person who has a special look and knows how to properly use a camera can capture in the best possible way everything that happens at a wedding and effectively conduct a photo shoot with the newlyweds. It is this person who creates that memory of the holiday, for which he is conceived.

Increasingly, a videographer is being invited to a wedding - this allows you to get a really high-quality video report about the event, which can then be edited into a full-fledged movie or clip.

For the comfortable moving of the newlyweds, you can order a limousine or several roomy cars. It all depends on who else, except for the young spouses themselves, should be in the motorcade. You also need to ask how the guests will solve the transport issue.It is possible that for someone it will be necessary to organize the opportunity to calmly get home after the holiday.

Time to take care of choosing a wedding cake is part of the self-organization of the celebration. Before placing an order, you should visit several confectioneries, talk with their specialists and understand what they can offer and at what price.

An alternative may be turning to a confectioner working independently. And in one case and in another case, you need to make sure that the quality of the cake will be at a high level.

For the dance, which should take place immediately after registration, the bride and groom need to choose simple movements so that they can be easily rehearsed using video lessons or under the guidance of a specialist. The dance should make a good impression on the guests and replenish the piggy bank of photos and video material from the wedding, which will be equally pleasant to return to over the years.

Composing a bride’s bouquet, as well as other floral arrangements for the holiday, should be entrusted to a florist who is experienced in this matter and knows how to create bouquets of one form or another that will be in good harmony, for example, with a dress or a girl’s height. This issue will also have to be worked out with a specialist in advance.

Given the huge number of cases that need to be settled in the process of preparing for the wedding, sometimes it makes sense to hire an assistant wedding planner. He will take the lion's share of cares on himself, which will allow the bride's parents and the young people themselves once again not to be distracted from their own work and other obligatory activities in their lives.

The organizer will not only find suitable specialists without whom an event is impossible, but will also tell you how to better allocate the funds allocated for the preparation for the wedding in order to avoid unjustified expenses and mistakes.

As a specialist, it’s easier for him to choose a place for a wedding in accordance with the requests of the bride and groom - they will not have to spend a long time on the Internet and “hang” on the phone, contacting the administration of various institutions and finding out the conditions and prices.

Usually, wedding planner services make up 10% of the budgetthat only at first glance seems an expensive pleasure. If you calculate how much of your own strength, nerves and time you have to spend on preparation, it may turn out that trusting such a person is much more profitable. In the case when it comes to preparing a large-scale event, rather than a modest buffet for a narrow circle of relatives, such expenses are quite justified.

The desire to organize a dream wedding is understandable. And in this quest, people often make annoying mistakes, capable of disrupting the entire course of preparation for an important event in the life of their children, as well as the scenario of the event.

• You should not choose a dress for a wedding or plan a venue for it, as well as build other ambitious plans, before an approximate budget for spending on a holiday is prepared.
• When planning a holiday in an open area, one should not forget about possible precipitation. You can not save on elements such as tents or canopies, without which it is impossible to do with a sudden bad weather on a crucial day. Their absence can ruin everything.
• You can not choose a venue for the event in the expectation that some of the guests will not come. Even a chic restaurant can be inconvenient if the number of those who gathered at the celebration exceeds the number of seats. The optimal site will be where guests will be accommodated ten percent less than the maximum number provided in a restaurant or cafe.

• The holiday program should be clearly distributed in time. The long pauses between the plot-important fragments of the wedding will tire everyone who gathered for it, as well as lengthy toasts and speeches. Impressions from the holiday may be spoiled.
• The marriage ceremony should not be scheduled for the time near noon - it is better to choose the afternoon hours. And when it comes to the photo shoot, then there will be the best light that will allow you to make gorgeous photos.
• For many guests, it can be a problem to get to the venue, as it can be distant and unfamiliar. Some sometimes begin to wander along the way. It is safer to use the services of professional drivers who will definitely take you wherever you need and along the optimal route.

• The bride and groom should not concentrate on the little things on the wedding day. A holiday should be a holiday, not a series of problems. It makes no sense to be upset that the shade of flowers is not the one they were counting on, or the girlfriend is late.
• If a daughter wants to hold a wedding ceremony in an open area, under an arch of flowers or in some other kind of romantic setting, then she should not deny herself this pleasure due to formal or technical difficulties.
• You should not save on the services of a printing house, whose specialists should help to design invitation cards, because future guests will judge the upcoming wedding by them.
• Do not impose on the newlyweds the observance of wedding traditions that annoy them or cause misunderstanding. It is better to bring into the celebration details that are truly interesting and close to them.

To make the guests really interesting and fun, and remember the holiday, you need to fill it with interesting details that will affect the overall perception of the celebration.

• At the entrance to the banquet hall, you can put up a stand with different boutonnieres, which guests can disassemble and decorate their clothes with them. These will be not only souvenirs, but also beautiful additions to the general atmosphere of the wedding, which will become the connecting elements between all those gathered.
• For seating guests, instead of the usual cards, you can use, for example, cookies, which show the names of specific people. It can be baked either on its own or ordered in a candy store.
• If the heroes of the occasion have a well-bred dog, then you can entrust him with taking a sign to the guests indicating the bride’s exit to the groom. It looks very nice.
• Tired of dancing guests, and especially those who spent the whole evening in high heels, you can suggest slippers so they can relax. People can take such shoes as a souvenir home.

• Guests can be invited to sign on a decorative plate, which depicts a joint portrait of the bride and groom. After the celebration, the newlyweds will be able to hang it on the wall as an interior decoration.
• At the wedding venue, you can install a special camera that allows you to take snapshots - this will give guests photo cards to commemorate a wonderful and fun event.
• You can call on an artist's holiday with good taste and sense of humor. He will make funny cartoons for guests that will always remind you of the past event.

A wedding is one of the most important events in the life of any girl. How difficult is the organization, as well as holding a beautiful wedding ceremony for your daughter? Where to start training? When is it better to use the services of a wedding planner?

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