From time immemorial, the nine was considered a special magic figure, which charges with luck and brings success in endeavors. So the ninth anniversary of family life is a very special date, which has its own customs, traditions and related rules.
What is the name of this anniversary?
The ninth birthday of the family is called the earthenware wedding. On the one hand, the spouses are already fully accustomed to each other during this time, got used to it, learned to turn a blind eye to shortcomings and find compromises. On the other hand, marriage is not yet so strong as to be indestructible, and at this moment quite often all kinds of crises arise.
That is why faience became the main symbol of this date - on the one hand, it is a dense and luxurious material, and on the other hand, it is rather fragile, which needs to be handled with care. So a family union on the threshold of the 10th anniversary may crack if the husband and wife do not cherish their feelings and relationships.
There is an opinion that faience is capable of absorbing negative energy from outside, in connection with this, our great-great-grandmothers sent all ceramic dishes after washing to dry on the stakes of wattle. This had its own symbolic meaning - our ancestors believed that such dishes absorb all the bad things that are in the house, and during drying in the sun, the accumulated negative goes out, and the kitchen utensils are charged with the energy of the sun and heat, water and air. If there is no way to dry dishes made of clay in this way, they simply change it once a year so that negative emotions do not accumulate inside the living room.
The symbolic meaning of a faience wedding may be a little different. In everyday life, ceramics require a very neat and caring care, and the personal relationship of a married couple can easily crack, if not cherish them.
Not a single married couple can be insured from the crisis stages, and it is generally accepted that just in the ninth year of life one of the most powerful psychological crises occurs.
At this moment, the relationship becomes more fragile than ever, like a faience dish, so the symbol of the anniversary is that respect and love between husband and wife should be protected and protected, otherwise, as they say, the broken bowl should not be glued.
Sometimes the ninth anniversary of family life is called chamomile. This is a very beautiful allegory, because chamomile among all nations is considered a symbol of romance, devotion and purest love.
On the threshold of the tenth anniversary, there is no longer any need to guess on a camomile - loves or does not love. The strength of feelings has already been proven, but refreshing the relationship and bringing a touch of romance, which, to be honest, almost comes to naught at this point, will not hurt. It is this moment of the relationship that needs emotional nourishment. Both husband and wife - young still, in fact, people, can go in search of new, sharper and stronger sensations, and this will not lead to anything good.
Traditions
A faience wedding symbolizes a certain milestone, a day after which the whole story can begin anew, as if from scratch, so it will be very good if the couple decides to celebrate this day. However, the celebration should follow some folk traditions - there is a belief that only in this case the young will live happily ever after for many long years.
The main omen is that the spouse must present on this day a bouquet of daisies to his lover, and he must collect them with his own hands: for this you should wake up with the first rays of the sun and go to the field in search of these delicate and pure flowers.
However, in modern conditions it is not always possible to do this, so you can just walk to the nearest flower shop. Let your spouse, waking up in the morning, immediately notice this delicate bouquet and hear warm and sincere words of love from her companion, this will set young people in a lyrical manner and bring warmth, peace and harmony to the family.
It is important that the husband and wife do not part at all on the wedding day, even for an hour, if someone alone needs to go, for example, to the store, then the second must certainly go with him. But it’s better to take time off from work - it is unlikely that the bosses will like the presence of an outsider in the office. Such unity will symbolize the inseparability of the couple and the fact that they will be together for more than a dozen years.
The number of guests on this day should be any, but so that their total number is at least 9. It is important that couples always come together. or better yet, with your children.
If possible, the ninth anniversary should be celebrated in nature, for example, on a forest glade or on a picturesque river bank. You can light a fire or have a picnic, the main thing is to listen to sincere, pleasant and warm congratulations, and children should run around, and their cheerful laughter and sincere joy will surely bring joy and prosperity to the house.
The girls and women invited to the event should weave wreaths of field daisies and give them to the hero of the occasion, it is believed that then she will definitely have great female happiness and a lot of health. If the date of the event falls on the cool season, then it is better to buy daisies in a flower shop or at least weave one flower into a decoration of dried flowers.
Another interesting tradition that can bring a lot of fun notes to the celebration is the beating of old dishes. Immediately before the holiday, you need to take out all the cups and plates with defects - chips or cracks from the apartment or house, it can bring trouble into the house, and even during the celebration under the general applause to break 9 plates - then happiness and respect for each other will firmly settle in the family .
It is best that day to buy a new earthenware set in the house, if you absolutely do not need it, then at least any other new item, preferably from clay - a vase, figurine or some other decor element.
What do they give?
Probably the most common gift for the ninth wedding anniversary is considered to be a table set, tea, coffee, any other utensils will be appropriate. In addition, you can opt for candlesticks, interior decoration items, jewelry boxes. Decorative plates with commemorative inscriptions look quite interesting, which will delight and amuse the "young", and if you depict a photograph of a married couple on a plate, it can be a great accent in the interior.
However, it is not necessary to dwell on clay derivatives.
On such a day jewelry, various certificates will be appropriate, you can give a couple a ticket to a performance of a famous theater, a concert of a favorite artist or a ticket to an exciting journey. Actually, the purchase of a gift is limited only by the financial capabilities of the donor and the flight of his imagination. The only thing that matters on such a day is that the gift should bring joy, give romantic memories and leave the brightest and kindest memory.
Of course, the couple should congratulate each other. So, a wife can give her beloved man a beer mug or a new bowl with funny inscriptions, a stylish faience ashtray is suitable for smoking men, and if a husband likes to enjoy sweet jam, he will like a clay barrel for honey.
But the wife can be presented with exclusive jewelry, a cosmetic bag or bag. Any woman will be pleased with a certificate for visits to a beauty salon or new clothes.
It is not necessary to adhere to the idea of a gift made of clay on this day, in fact, on this day a variety of products can bring joy to spouses, the main thing is to give them with the warmest thoughts and sincere good wishes.
How to celebrate?
A faience wedding is rarely celebrated on a grand scale, all the forces and means should be reserved in order to arrange a big celebration in a year, but for now it is better to gather with the kin and relatives, but always sincere people who wish the young only happiness - do not forget that faience perfectly absorbs all the evil and evil.
If you celebrate a holiday in the fresh air, be sure to organize a lot of active games, dance, sing songs, make noise and have fun with all your heart.
If there is no way to get out, then you can arrange spiritual gatherings at home, just make sure that there is earthenware on the table and the room is decorated with daisies: let the flowers stand in a vase and decorate their images with napkins. tablecloths and walls. These delicate flowers will not only become an excellent element of decor, but also a symbol of the purity of spouses' thoughts, tenderness and vulnerability of their feelings.
Husband and wife must definitely decorate their heads with wreaths of daisies, and for guests it is worth preparing garlands woven from wildflowers and herbs - such a ceremony will certainly leave its incredibly charming atmosphere and unique flavor.
On this day, you can use the theme holiday ideas, for example, it will be very appropriate to reproduce the customs of the noble life of the XVIII-XIX centuries. Of course, this will require additional decorative elements to decorate the room or interior. However, ideas can be very diverse, for example, a holiday in the style of forest inhabitants would be appropriate: elves and fairies as a message to daisies.
Themed holidays are always more interesting than usual - they create a special atmosphere, leave warm memories and, of course, charge the participants of the event with the most positive emotions.
Well, of course, you should carefully consider the menu. If you have a traditional holiday in a restaurant, then the choice of dishes will depend on the menu of the establishment, but if you decide to mark it on the street in accordance with the traditions of the earthenware wedding, then the issue of refreshments will be very acute. It is unlikely that it will be possible to set the table with complex meat dishes, but a treat consisting of only salads, vegetables and snacks will look at least strange.
Usually on this day a barbecue or barbecue is served as the main dish, chops and baked bird are also appropriate. From snacks it is worth paying attention to canapes, sandwiches, salads, and they can be either vegetable or fruit.
And, of course, a cake - not a single wedding celebration should do without it.
It is best to order it from a confectioner and arrange it accordingly, for example, a dessert can be decorated with images of daisies, although you can use more traditional decor ideas - hearts, pigeons or swans, which symbolize love, loyalty and devotion to each other.
Cake decorations with figures depicting heroes of the occasion are very popular.
Despite the fact that nine years of marriage is not a round date, do not underestimate its significance. Any lived moment plays a special role in the life of spouses, and each year it contributes to the construction of a strong and loving family.
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