How not to worry about an interview?

Almost everyone experiences the excitement of an interview. Recruiters themselves can create stressful situations to look at the reaction of the applicant. The success of the interview often depends on how much he copes with his emotional state.

Excitement is a person’s psycho-emotional state connected with an estimated reaction to current or future events, generated by a fear of the unknown, consequences and uncertainty as a result. So the body reacts to negative thoughts, trying to prepare for a negative result.

The reasons for the excitement before the interview may be:

• lack of experience and necessary skills;
• lack of confidence in oneself and one's own knowledge;
• fear of being ridiculed or rejected;
• the presence of life difficulties, lack of money;
• poor preparedness, low awareness of the company and the proposed job.

As a result, the applicant experiences extreme stress, which manifests itself in increased anxiety, sweating, rapid breathing, nervous trembling, loss of concentration, stiffness, tension, or, conversely, in abnormal gaiety and increased activity. From experiences, thoughts begin to get confused, speech becomes incoherent, stuttering may appearand your hands and knees will begin to tremble. At the peak of emotional stress, even nausea and vomiting may occur, and some may bleed.

An interview in this state is simply impossible. The more you are afraid to go to a business meeting, the brighter the symptoms appear.

Moreover, such signs also indicate that the applicant is lying, although in reality this is not so. Nervousness does not allow to fully reveal, to show one’s strengths, to talk about previous work experience.

After an invitation to an interview, short-term joy comes, and then anxiety appears. Nervous before the meeting is normal, this is a natural reaction of the body, which absolutely everyone faces. But if the anxiety is strong, manifests itself on a physical level, deprives sleep, letting such a state go by itself is not worth it. There are several ways to help yourself deal with stress.

What will happen if the position is refused? What are the most unpleasant questions you might ask during the interview? What is the applicant most afraid of? We need to mentally imagine all the most negative situations that can occur.

And then what happens if this happens? You can imagine anything. Come up with an absurd situation and mentally beat it. Suppose the interviewer shouted, let go of a greasy joke, doused himself with coffee, asked to undress, or called the applicant worthless. What will the applicant do in this case? What will he feel?

Each new situation should be worse and worse than the previous one, do not be afraid of complete absurdity, even if such a thing never happens in life. A man should frighten himself so much that the absurdity of fantasies causes laughter.

You can play these situations in front of the mirror, turning to himself. Or act out with someone close to you.

An interview often feels like an exam, so you need to prepare for it too. For example, work through answers to uncomfortable questions. Why did you quit your previous job? What are your strengths and weaknesses? How many loans do you have and why do you take them? You only want to work with us for money? We know everything about you! Some questions can drive into a stupor. Recruiters often consciously use psychological pressure.

In most cases what matters is not the answers themselves, but the reaction to questions and statements. It is for them that the interviewer can evaluate the identity of the applicant. If you work through the answer to every tricky question in advance, the person will feel more confident, and therefore calmer.

Despite the rich experience in this field of activity or position, It is recommended to update your knowledge, especially pay attention to new laws, regulations and other regulatory documents. A questionnaire may be accompanied by a test not only for logic and ingenuity, but also for professional knowledge. It will also add self-confidence.

If the excitement manifests itself on a physical level, it is worth following his lead, and not ignoring it. There is a close connection between the physical state and the psycho-emotional. Hands are shaking, so you need to really shake them. For example, imagine how the water is shaken and the tension along with it.

Darkened in the eyes - to cover them and do breathing exercises or meditate. If your knees tremble, stretch your joints.Palms sweat - wipe them with wet wipes or rinse with warm water, and then do a warming massage.

If self-management of anxiety is difficult, it is necessary to help the nervous system. There is nothing wrong with sedatives, but you should not choose the most expensive and powerful. Often enough tincture of motherwort or valerian root. If the state of anxiety is protracted, especially with a long job search, it is recommended to visit a neurologist.

The best sedative for the applicant, and at the same time other drugs, can only be prescribed by a doctor. The general condition can be affected not only by excitement, but also by hormones, as well as general well-being.

It is difficult to cope with excitement when thoughts constantly return to the upcoming interview. You need to get distracted and stop wrapping yourself up. Physical work best helps. For example, you can clean up the house, make out trash or shelves for which there was no time. Cleaning will not only restore the psycho-emotional balance, but also generally positively affect the psychological well-being.

Helps to distract and physical activity. You can do fitness, run in the park or just take a walk. Communicating with loved ones is a good distraction; sometimes it’s enough to call and share your feelings.

Before the interview itself you should sleep well, and the day before the meeting, exclude foods from the diet that can cause digestive discomfort. For example, legumes, cabbage, cheese, flour products. These products cause increased gas formation. Spicy spices and sauces can cause heartburn, and onions and garlic can cause bad breath.

Be careful with fruits and dried fruits. Some may have a laxative effect, such as apricots or prunes. And nervous tension will only aggravate the situation. At the same time, you should definitely have a bite, even if your appetite has disappeared from excitement. It will be unpleasant if an empty stomach purrs during an interview. Enough curd or apple.

It is better to appear at the interview in advance. Haste only spurs excitement. Extra time will allow you to calm down, look for information about the company on the phone, chat with employees.

You can take drinking water and wet wipes with you in case you dry out in your throat or your palms sweat. The phone must be disconnected. In some models, the silent mode is very noisy and vibration will distract both the applicant and the recruiter.

Sometimes the interviewer is given a stressful interview, eg, can specially make you wait and more than one hour. Shouting, scandal and angry exclamations are not the kind of behavior that should be demonstrated, but it is also not worthwhile to allow a humiliating attitude. It is important to show patience and even behavior, periodically remind yourself, but without scandal and a vivid manifestation of discontent.

During communication, it is important to monitor breathing and speech. Speak clearly and slowly. If it is difficult to cope with excitement, you need to take a break and take a breath. The pose should be relaxed, but "spread" in the chair is not worth it. To calm down, you can twist some object in your hands, for example, a pen and a notebook. At the same time, they will come in handy if you need to write something down.

Lucky if the interview will be conducted by the immediate supervisor. He is better aware of the job responsibilities and the work of the entire department, he can be asked all the questions of interest.After the interview You should definitely thank the recruiter for your time, as well as clarify the feedback method.

Psychologist's advice on how to properly prepare for the upcoming interview, see below.