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How to stop being late?

How to stop being late?
Content
  1. What types of late are there?
  2. Main reasons
  3. Effect of character on lateness
  4. How to overcome yourself?

There are persons who are pathologically always late everywhere. This manner of behavior makes life very difficult. Due to constant delays, they have to make excuses and cheat. For people doing business, such a character trait is generally an unforgivable minus. This problem in its behavior must be eliminated. Otherwise, due to pathological non-punctuality, you can lose confidence, work and even family.

What types of late are there?

Eternally late subjects have always caused and will cause misunderstanding in society. Nobody will ever take them seriously. Moreover, careless persons will always be treated with hostility and distrust of colleagues and even close ones. Therefore, the authorities will never entrust an important task to such employees. And this means that they too will not be able to climb the career ladder.

Moreover, non-punctual people themselves suffer from such a minus. Each time they have to do everything in a hurry, run for the bus and at the same time come up with a plausible excuse on the way.

So, consider the types of people who are prone to the above behavior.

  • Mystery man. This subject behaves intriguingly, pretending to have simply forgotten about a meeting or meeting. When he appears in the right place 15 minutes after the start of the event, his behavior is mysterious and independent. It is difficult to call such behavior correct.
  • A man who, being very late, is lying. Typically, such an individual reports that he is already approaching the meeting place. In fact, the non-merry individual is disingenuous, because at this time he is only going to take a shower.
  • Procrastinator. He constantly puts everything off for later. Usually its appearance is surprising.The disorderly person represents his lateness as a kind of bohemian behavior.
  • He’s lying after he’s already late. Usually such a person makes excuses all the time. His words are something like this: “I was riding the bus, it broke. Then it was repaired for a long time, etc., etc. ” He tells this story regularly. Such an individual realizes that he is lying all the time. However, nothing can be done with this.
  • The man who is called: "As long as you wait, you will die of hunger." He is always late for breakfast, lunch or dinner. Naturally, people gathered for a meal begin to eat without it. If you wait for such a person, then all the food can cool or even deteriorate.
  • Interrupts the process. This individual appears during a discussion of a serious issue. Its appearance distracts from the process and greatly interferes with others.
  • Empty place. Usually such people are late, despite the fact that their colleagues keep a chair for them. This type of lateness is the most unacceptable, because it shows disrespect not only to colleagues at work, but also to oneself.
  • Genetically tuned person. This kind of individuals usually blames their ancestors for being always late for important meetings. They inherited this trait.
  • Unlucky traveler. He always comes at the wrong time. At the same time, fables are told that he got stuck in traffic due to an improperly organized city movement.
  • The sufferer man. He shares his hardships when he is late. He tells the whole story that his health is very poor. And then follows: “If I were a little younger, I would definitely come on time.”
  • Very busy. He always finds a reason to linger due to very urgent and important matters. If you check the authenticity of his words with the help of social networks, you can find out that a person "sits" all the time on the Internet.
  • One who warns in advance. He can name any reason that will be the reason for his future lateness. For example, he will report to his colleagues since the evening that in the morning he will go to see a doctor.
  • Not admitting late. Arriving at work, he greets and always pretends that nothing special has happened.
  • Lost in space and time. Such an individual can never determine the time that he will need to travel from one point to another.

Main reasons

This problem can be sorted out if we consider in detail some factors of behavior which is inherent in people who are always late.

  • Non-assembly. This feature is characteristic of some people who, in principle, do not strive for anything in life. They cannot concentrate on the most important, therefore they are late all the time. Especially this behavior is characteristic of children. That is why from early childhood it is necessary to accustom any individual to self-discipline.
  • Laziness. Those who do not like to overload their person with different tasks are constantly late. Such subjects always leave all matters for later in the hope that everything will resolve by itself. They are late precisely for the same reason. It's just too lazy for a person to get up a little earlier in the morning to get to a business meeting.
  • Self-worth. Such persons deliberately delay the time to appear later, and not as it should be according to etiquette. With these actions they want to show everyone that they should always and everywhere be sure to wait and, most importantly, love. Basically, those who consider their person above others behave like that. Their motto: “Let the whole world wait, and I - the authorities. I should. ”
  • A low level of responsibility is also the cause of many delays. Usually disorderly individuals believe that everything will always get away with it. If you apply some sanctions to such people in the form of a fine or reprimand, then they begin to gradually put their thoughts in order and get used to fulfill the necessary requirements.
  • When a person protests or resists. For example, dissatisfaction with low salaries can be late. With such behavioral gestures, an individual tries to say that no one but him will work for a meager reward. And if they do not raise his salary, then he will soon give up his post.
  • Determining your status in the team. If a valuable employee is late all the time, then by such behavior he tries to distinguish himself from the crowd. At the behavioral level, the individual says so: “I can do anything! I love myself, I'm a star. " Often, these attacks do not end with anything good. Over time, bosses get bored with employee demarches. He is being held accountable.
  • Getting the next dose of adrenaline. Some people like it when a drive begins in their life.

The individual deliberately creates problems for himself, so that later they can be safely solved. And while he is late, let him wait and worry.

Effect of character on lateness

Psychology says that the character of a person has constant stable properties that are inherent in any person. These properties influence the behavior of an individual. So, we will consider how temperament affects a person’s behavior, including his lateness.

  • Sanguine - This is a man-activist, but only when he is interested in doing the work. If there is no such work, then it becomes boring and lethargic. And this means that the sanguine will be late for work if he becomes bored and uninteresting. In addition, this type is able to quickly switch attention from one activity to another. And this suggests that, carried away by something, he will forget about other, no less important matters, and he will be sure to be late.
  • Choleric easily irritated, easy to lift and uses all his strength to achieve the goal. Therefore, if such an individual has an interest, then he will try not to be late for the meeting, but to come much earlier. If we talk about work, then lateness from the side of the choleric is possible. However, they can arise only when this type of personality has completely spent its energy potential and is very tired.
  • Phlegmatic person has a stable psyche. He can correctly calculate his emotional and physical strength. This person has perseverance and perseverance. Therefore, such an individual almost always comes to work and to other events on time. Moreover, he treats badly those people who are not punctual.
  • Melancholic always waiting for a dirty trick from life. He is very dependent on external influences. That is why it may be late for meetings. He will always find a reason for such lateness.

There are also mixed types of character. This factor also affects human behavior. In this case, the negative side will appear if some circumstances contribute to this.

How to overcome yourself?

This question excites many people who seek to achieve a certain status and improve the quality of life. Success requires willpower. She will help you learn how to properly manage your desires, so as never to be late. And you also need the following.

Motivation

In order not to be late, you need a goal. If you don’t have one, then you either will not go to the meeting at all, or you will be very late. You’ll be late because at the subconscious level you will hope that the meeting will not take place. In this case, the reasoning will be as follows: “I was late (a) quite a bit, but they did not wait for me. So, so be it! It’s not my fault. ”

But if there is motivation, then any person will come to the meeting ahead of time. Therefore, you must always know why you need to arrive on time. To never be late, work where you like or where you feel in place. And yet, communicate with those people with whom you are pleased to communicate. This is the main motivation. If it is not always possible to fulfill such conditions, then you need to have special tricks that will help you tune in. To begin, explain to yourself that you need to come to work on time. Tardiness will only exacerbate the negative situation, which will continue to unfold in your favor. At the very least, force yourself to always comply with disciplinary conditions so that you are not fired from work while you are looking for a new one.

Meetings (whether it is business or not) are also different. Try to stop panic before each unpleasant meeting. Just turn off your dislike and tune in to the dialogue.

Of course, this requirement must be fulfilled when a meeting is inevitable. In other cases, just ignore her.

Reward yourself

Punctuality needs to be developed every day.. Praise yourself if you succeeded in fulfilling the condition that you yourself set. You can even encourage yourself to be loved with certain sweets. They will come in handy if you are on a diet.

Start a notebook and write down cases when you managed to show special punctuality. At the end of the month re-read the entries where all your achievements will be recorded. If you have not made any miscalculations, then be sure to reward yourself. For example, go to the cinema or to a restaurant. In this case, you need to invite your close friend or girlfriend. Tell a loved one why you decided to have a holiday. By the way, a reward is an easy way to teach a child to come to school on time and develop a habit of not being late every day.

Get ready in the evening

If you are late pathologically always and everywhere, then start preparing in advance for the next day. To get started, try to go to bed early, do not stay too late near the computer until late. Also prepare breakfast in the evening. Make a sandwich or cut a piece of meat pie. Brew tea in a mug, pour sugar in it and cool. Place all the ingredients on a small tray and put in the refrigerator. In the morning, you just have to put your breakfast in the microwave for heating. This procedure will take about 5 minutes.

During this time, you can get dressed or take a shower. After which you will have to eat and complete your preparations. Of course, prepare clothes and shoes in the evening. The bag should also be collected in advance and thought out the elements of the hairstyle (if you wear it).

In the morning, try to get up early to be sure that you still have some time left if unforeseen circumstances arise.

Warn

So that you are not expected if you are still late, warn your co-workers that you will be a little late. This will help you avoid trouble. The same goes for the meeting that your colleagues or friends have scheduled. Well, if you are a very valuable employee and are going to get a job in a company where you are eagerly awaited, then you should immediately warn your superiors that you are left with one minor sin. Tell me directly about your pathological non-punctuality. Perhaps the company’s management will not pay special attention to this flaw in your character and henceforth will not put much pressure on you.

Don't make excuses

If you are still late, then just apologize. Believe me nobody needs your excuses. Slurred speech that the car broke down on the road will cause even greater irritation of colleagues. Do not come up with excuses if you are late for work regularly. Know that you have been "bitten" for a long time - then you look ridiculous and ridiculous.

Instead of coming up with excuses for yourself, do better with self-discipline. These actions will help you first, and only then will affect the effective work of the entire team. It’s very easy to get to work on time, the main thing is to take the first step.

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