In everyday life, you have to constantly deal with conflicting personalities. It is impossible to avoid this: such people are found everywhere and sometimes completely unpredictable. But nevertheless, using psychological knowledge, you can recognize them, divide them into types, and choose the appropriate line of their own behavior.
Features
Human interaction is not complete without conflict and clash. But not all “skirmishes” are objective and inevitable. Sometimes their real cause, the decisive factor are the psychological characteristics of people. There are two fundamental approaches to their description: one considers collisions as a strictly negative process, and the other considers them as opportunities for moving forward.
Conflict in any case is called the probability that a person will enter into a dispute, whatever the occasion. For the behavior of people in situations of a particularly tense kind, entering into conflict is perfectly normal. Any ordinary person, even the most balanced and calm, can be extremely hostile:
- to life failures;
- disappointment in other people;
- cheating;
- various forms of betrayal.
But there are still people of an uncontrollable type, they are incapable of:
- adequately assess the situation;
- reduce the severity of your reaction while easing the tension;
- perceive arguments and explanations.
What determines the propensity to conflict and forms of participation in it
It is necessary to pay attention not only to the personal moment, but also to the manifestation of different cultures in the conflict interaction.Cultural space determines a set of value and moral guidelines, basic meanings and goals of existence. In this case, cultural space is understood not so much as an ethnically colored worldview, but as belonging to a certain group, distinguished for a variety of reasons.
So, people of a high general cultural level naturally seek to minimize the severity of collisions and smooth out sharp corners. The tension of the confrontation is limited, it is introduced into a clear framework that muffles the contradictions.
Differences in the cultural code of the parties to the conflict usually aggravate it, make it longer, and complicate the resolution of contradictions. The situation is even worse with interethnic interaction, with the clash of people belonging to different cultural worlds.
At this moment, the struggle escalates most and even innocent, from the point of view of some people, actions, words are interpreted by others as fundamental disrespect. It matters more than just greater or lesser emotionality. The boundaries of the permissible and the forbidden, debated and non-negotiable differ; the reaction force to these or other events, facts is different.
Varieties of conflict-prone personalities
And yet, with all the ethnic, professional, and moral diversity of people, conflict management allows us to identify several clear psychotypes of particularly aggressive personalities. The so-called demonstrative participant in the conflict strives to be continuously in the spotlight. For him, struggle, argument and contradiction are not an end in themselves, but only a means. Inherent in such people is a simple separation of those around them: whoever admires them deserves attention, but if there is no admiration, then you do not need to pay attention.
“Demonstrators” are characterized by increased emotionality and rarely plan their actions. It is difficult for them to carry out such work, which requires attention to small details. But then this group of difficult people can easily reconfigure from one situation to another, using this ability to embody inclinations.
The opposite psychotype of destructively destructive behavior is a rigid type of personality. Such people are prone to straightforward and categorical judgments. They as often as possible choose not constructive methods and strategies of interaction, but conflictogenic ones, are not inclined to listen to other people's opinions. Even if they manage to seemingly persuade them to their side, they will nevertheless act as they see fit, although they will agree in words. Moreover, such individuals are not inclined to be the first to reconcile, even if they clearly realize that they are wrong.
Rigid people have a dignity: they are extremely "corrosive", they know how to analyze situations like no one else, moreover, with a clearly defined goal they can "turn mountains".
Another highly conflicting category of personalities is people of the so-called ultra-precise type. For the most part, they are prone to anxiety, fear not to justify the trust placed in them. With this combination of behavioral characteristics, people diligently hide their emotions. Only experienced psychologists or very sensitive interlocutors can catch them, and then not always.
An ultra-precise person pays attention to the smallest details, trying to avoid hasty and ill-conceived decisions. The problem is often caused by perfectionism, leading to nervous breakdowns and psychosomatic disorders. Workaholism is peculiar to ultra-precise personalities. Much worse is communicating with uncontrollable people, they:
- behave impulsively;
- basically uncontrollable;
- inconsistent;
- incapable of planning.
A person of a conflict-free type rarely enters into a dispute. Usually masterfully avoids it.
Even if the situation objectively pulls them there, such individuals try to play the roles of “observer”, “peacemaker” or “adjoining the winner”. It is justifiable to use them in complex and intense negotiations.But to entrust matters that require a clear upholding of the line, no matter what, they should not.
Bremson classification
Familiarization with the psychology of the family allows us to highlight a different classification of parties to conflicts - according to Bremson. The initiators of disputes and squabbles are usually "aggressors." They are divided into three subtypes:
- “Pavers” (peremptory and assertive);
- “Well-aimed arrows” (ironic, try to hit and provoke in the most emotionally intense moment for others);
- “Exploding” (easily excitable due to temperament, nature or prolonged psychological trauma).
Conflict can also provoke the so-called know-it-alls.
They are sure that no one knows better than them a certain sphere, or other people, or even everything in the world. A type close to them is maximalists. They believe that they are distinguished by impeccable personal qualities, irresistible beauty, a penetrating mind, professional talents - and sometimes all together. And the so-called secretive brawlers accumulate emotions and throw them out suddenly.
How to behave with conflicting people and how to take control of the conflict into your own hands is described in the video below.
