If the family broke up, this does not mean that the relationship is exhausted comprehensively. For children, and for oneself, the best outcome of a relationship is to remain close friends, if not friends. That is why it is not surprising if the ex-husband decides to give the ex-wife a present for her birthday or another holiday. Moreover, if the ex-wife is the mother of his child, this is a civilized, intelligent approach.
Are flowers appropriate?
Flowers are classic and easy solutions. A rare woman will not like that on a special day for her family, friends, colleagues give her flowers. And if relations with the ex-husband are not so warm and kindred to count on a more significant gift, then flowers will be the best compromise solution.
The moment is delicate, because the new chosen one of the ex-wife (and the current girl of the ex-husband) can be jealous, seeing how flowers are bought for a woman "from the past". But a reasonable approach and trusting relationships will not leave room for jealousy and misunderstanding.
Moreover, very often ex-husbands give flowers to the ex-wife with the words "Thank you for the daughter (son)" for the child’s birthday.
Because such bindings are appropriate, they also say that after parting, people do not burn bridges, but retain appreciation for a good common past and continuation in the form of children.
Therefore, the flower delivery to the ex-wife with a card “Happy Birthday! You are a beautiful mother of our daughter (son)! Be happy!" This is not an ugly background that hurts the current halves of ex-spouses. What kind of flowers to give, etiquette does not strictly mean. Classic options in favor are roses, tulips, chrysanthemums, asters. Fashionable and very beautiful combination - yellow tulips and irises.
Standard Solutions
Not necessarily a gift to your ex-wife should be expensive: if you give sweets, tea / coffee, balm and flowers - this is quite convincing for people who are no longer in a relationship. Nevertheless, it is a sign of attention, a sign of complicity. What else can I give?
- Not a very high cost certificate. This can be a certificate in a spa, clothing or cosmetics store. But you should not give a certificate to an underwear store - the message is unequivocal, possible only in rare situations (often leading to a renewal of relations).
- Jewelry. In some cases, possible. If such gifts are perceived as appropriate for the former spouses, if you do not want to put the ex-wife in an uncomfortable position with the help of earrings or a pendant, then this gift is not reprehensible. But if it is unexpected, too expensive and presented with a challenge - relevance is excluded.
- Gift box. Beautiful, modern, and some intelligent neutrality is maintained. In such a box there can be cosmetics, chocolate, sweets, other sweets, elite alcohol, beautiful dishes, etc.
- Voucher. And this is one of the best options if the package includes a vacation with a joint child. Even if it will be a 3-day trip to a holiday home outside the city, and not at sea, this is a very convincing, unequivocal, pleasant birthday present.
It is very important what kind of relationship remained between the former spouses. If they are warm, even, then you do not need to look for universal gifts - you know the tastes, preferences of each other, it is unlikely that after the dissolution of the marriage they have managed to change dramatically.
How to give?
The answer to this question also depends on the circumstances of your marriage, divorce, current relationship. In many families, the ex-husband is a guest at the birthday party, to the arrival of which everyone is treated with understanding, without omission. If this is the situation, then the gift is traditionally presented. If the arrival of the ex-husband to the festival is not entirely appropriate, there are two options: order delivery or give after the holiday, in a neutral place.
Many spouses give gifts to ex-wives through children - and there is nothing “criminal” about it.
Perhaps more than the gift of the ex-wife expect from the once beloved man kind words, wishes. You can always find words that smooth the corners, help you forget grievances, and build bridges of understanding.
If you feel some embarrassment, take the child "as accomplices." Together, buy a bunch of colorful balloons, cake, flowers, and at a convenient moment, congratulate your ex-wife.
The child helps to balance, removes moments of constraint. There are situations when you know that an ex-wife is not going to celebrate her birthday (not before, not with anyone, a lot of worries), and if you book a modest table in a restaurant for her and your child, most likely the gesture will not go unnoticed . The main thing is to know exactly about her intentions - common children can guide you.
Examples of congratulatory speeches
- "Happy Birthday! Although we parted, it does not cross out that you are part of my life, and a lot of good in it is connected with you. I wish you to be happy, surrounded by good people, wonderful events. Accept a small gift from me, it’s nice to please you. ”
- "Happy Birthday! On your day, I want to say again - you are a beautiful woman, a wonderful mother, a good and kind person. I am grateful to you for the time spent together. I wish you health, love, warmth and prosperity. Thank you for our child, he will bind us all his life, which means that we will always remain close people. You can always count on me, congratulations. ”
If you do not ignore the birthdays of your ex-wife, this is only for the good of your children. They learn that a person cannot be deleted from life: you can forget about grievances and disagreements, keeping in mind the good that was necessary in life together. Therefore, such a positive example of human relations, support, is always better than silence, ignoring the holidays and joyful events in the life of a once close person. Of course, not all relationships that end have contributed to this, but in most cases this is possible.
Other gifts for girls can be found in the video below.
