Relations between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law are rarely ideal. Be that as it may, family celebrations require strict observance of etiquette. When choosing a birthday present for my husband’s mom, you need to be very careful that the gift comes to the court, is understood correctly. We hope the material in this article will help you find the right solution.
Features of choice
It is no secret that the present chosen for the husband’s mother will receive special attention. You need to understand that it should not be a go-ahead: you need to give something that is useful to a woman and will cause positive emotions. It is always necessary to take into account the degree of warmth of the relationship.
For example, if they are far from perfect, you should not give cosmetics or sets of care products. In this case, the husband’s mother may perceive the gift as a hint of his not well-groomed appearance.
In addition, when choosing a gift, it is important to consider the age of the woman. If she is young and active, the direction of gifts can be one (for example, sports). But if she is sick and does not move much, it is preferable to pay attention to health. In this situation, you need to buy what she needs, but she cannot afford it. Let's say it could be a blood pressure monitor or an inhaler.
Giving status is also important.. For example, if you are just going to get married, it is not at all necessary to hit the future mother-in-law for a birthday with an expensive gift. This is useless, and will not make you an ally, because any mother is jealous of her daughter-in-law to her son. In such cases, gifts should be inexpensive but useful.For example, if a mother-in-law loves to read, you can give her a book from a series of her beloved author.
Best gifts
It is easy to find out which gift can be the best if the daughter-in-law often communicates with her mother-in-law. Someone prefers to consult with her husband, others rely on themselves, often picking up more interesting gifts. Conventionally, they can be divided into several categories.
Useful
This group includes items that, regardless of their choice, will be useful in everyday life. However, they need to be selected taking into account the mother-in-law's lifestyle. If she spends a lot of time in the kitchen, it is worth giving her household appliances that will facilitate her work, make cooking more convenient and comfortable.
In order not to get into trouble, you need to take a closer look at the situation, and give something that is not there, but it will come in handy.
Depending on the budget, this may be:
- slow cooker with a sufficient set of cooking options;
- a double boiler for preparing healthy dishes;
- a bread machine with the option of kneading dough and making jam;
- built-in oven or toaster with a transparent panel;
- hob with quick heating burner;
- French press (apparatus for brewing tea or coffee);
- coffee maker or kettle with fast heating of water;
- photo frame with uploaded family photos;
- photobook with photos of grandchildren.
If a woman is socially active and knows how to handle gadgets, you can give her something from this series.
When buying, you need to consider age: for round dates, a gift is chosen more expensive. For example, it may be a laptop with sufficient functionality so that her husband’s mother can spend time communicating on social networks.
A laptop will be a great gift even if her occupation is related to this technique.
An alternative to a laptop could be good tablet or even an e-book. You can download a lot of fascinating literature or applications for entertaining leisure (for example, sudoku, crosswords, puzzles of varying degrees of difficulty). When buying this gadget, you need to take care of sufficient memory and choosing a good manufacturer, which will determine the durability of the gift.
One of the desired gifts for any woman is modern smartphone. It is not at all necessary to purchase a model for a fabulous sum. Today, the range of phones is quite extensive, and therefore you can pick up an option with useful options without overpaying for unnecessary ones.
In order for the gift to be finished, it is best to immediately pack it in a stylish case and provide it with a protective glass.
Necessary
If the relationship between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law is warm, it is easier to choose a birthday present. Knowing that the husband’s mother will not consider the present through the lens of distrust, one can acquire for her:
- a set of beautiful bedding;
- blanket with heating function;
- orthopedic pillow with latex filling;
- smart watches imitating dawn;
- vibration massage wrap on the chair;
- a beautiful bathrobe and a large bath towel;
- hydromassage for legs;
- tonometer or aroma lamp;
- soft blanket-plaid with sleeves or a hood.
A good gift could be two-in-one plaid, consisting of two layers. If necessary, you can unfasten the warm part and wrap yourself in a soft cloth if it is cold at home. In addition, you can buy beautiful sofa cushions that ennoble the interior of the guest space.
If the mother-in-law is allergic, you can consider buying an air ionizer as a gift.
Inexpensive
If the budget is limited, you can buy a symbolic gift. However, in this case, you need to choose a thing that is sure to come in handy. For example, you can give mother in law for a birthday:
- reading glasses with a case;
- collage of photo frames on the wall;
- water filter;
- a set of scarf and gloves;
- a purse similar in design to a handbag;
- gloves with touch fingers;
- Photo album;
- table lamp;
- makeup mirror with backlight;
- neck scarf or stole;
- a beautiful flowerpot for a house flower;
- a set of jars for bulk products or spices;
- flower pots or a beautiful stand for them on the windowsill;
- stylish ladies bag;
- a beautiful tablecloth with napkins;
- electronic wall clock with a large dial.
The list goes on, but all his ideas are to donate what will be used and will not remain unclaimed.
Original
If you want the gift to remain in the memory of the mother-in-law for a long time, you can give her something special that will cause positive emotions. For example, she might like a gift such as:
- tickets to the theater or to a concert of your favorite artist;
- single or family photo session with a professional photographer;
- holding a holiday with a program and a leader in a restaurant;
- rest in a sanatorium or subscription for stone therapy;
- professional salon manicure with applying hybrid coatings;
- master class on a certain type of needlework or dance lessons.
If the mother-in-law is young and active, and the relationship with her is good, you can offer her a subscription to the gym or pool.
If the budget allows, it is preferable to purchase a subscription for two, for example, for the father-in-law. This will relieve the woman of discomfort during a single visit to these institutions.
Unusual gifts can be supplemented with sweets or sweet surprises. You can pack certificates in beautiful boxes, add cards with wishes of health and longevity.
What can you do yourself?
Ideas for giving a mother in law may be the most unexpected. For example, it can also be a handmade if the husband’s mother appreciates manual work. Say you can do it on her birthday:
- name apron with comfortable ties and a set of towels;
- a set of tacks of an unusual shape;
- textile hot coasters;
- a tablecloth with a fringe or piping along the edge;
- candles made using decoupage technique;
- collage of photos combined in one frame;
- scrapbooking album;
- cement vase for a houseplant;
- knitted blanket of pompons;
- Bonbon blanket
- bedspread using the patchwork technique;
- sofa cushions or knitted rug;
- beautiful knitted snood and gloves.
When choosing a hand made option, it is worth considering the degree of warmth of the relationship. For example, if a mother-in-law loves a daughter-in-law as a daughter, you can give her gifts that you could give your mother.
Some women really like this care, because what they do with their own hands means more than a ready-made gift bought in a store. Even if it will not be particularly expensive in terms of budget, but the care with which it is done is much more important.
Today in the search for creativity you can stumble upon interesting solutions. For example, you can give an unusual bouquet consisting of flowers and fruits at the same time. The solution, of course, is specific, but it looks non-standard. To make such a gift look more aesthetically pleasing, it is worth choosing a basket as the basis for it, but it is advisable to supplement it with something else.
Selection recommendations
Choosing a gift for the mother-in-law, it is worth considering a lot of nuances. If you buy an expensive item, be sure to inspect it in the store. The seller’s warranty and certificate of compliance with required quality and safety standards are required.
Never take gadgets from a display case; this item should not be sold. Given that it is always on, it has a worn out battery, and this, in fact, is no longer a new thing.
If you plan expensive household appliances, you need to check it. Always use the right of guarantee, inspect so that nothing hangs anywhere. This is a clear marriage, which can not be eliminated by any twisting. Think about the low price for good equipment, so as not to purchase a defective item. Take the product in a store with a good reputation.
Do not look for something in a hurry, because you can not notice the marriage, or purchase a fake. This is especially important if you want to give a mother in law beautiful handbag or designer item. In order to choose a really good product, you should look at its design on the manufacturer’s website in advance. This will make it possible to understand whether it is real, because a fake often differs from the original in details, whether it is an incorrect letter or a difference in design.
If you want to make something special, but the budget is limited, you can focus on packaging.
For example, you can do an original bouquet of useful gizmos, twisting roses from them and fixing with stationery gum. The color scheme of the packaging should be in harmony with the color of the gift. In addition to the gift itself, you need a congratulation card that will give the present a complete look.
If you decide to give trip to the sanatorium, you must ask the mother-in-law in advance whether she will be in the city at this time, whether she is going to leave. It will be useful to her opinion about how she relates to gifts of this kind, because not every woman can still be persuaded to do so.
However, this does not mean that you need to ask what is called “on the forehead.” This is done in advance and carefully so as not to reveal a surprise.
For example, if you want to buy a woman beautiful glasses, you can’t drill it with the same questions about the size of the glasses and the distance between the pupils. If you want to know what you need, you need to do it discreetly and delicately. Ask in advance how her vision is, what the doctor says, do I need to change glasses. If you want to buy decoration, choose the chain, because the size of the earlobes and the thickness of the finger is more difficult to guess.
What is better not to give?
When leaving for your mother-in-law’s birthday, keep in mind that flowers are obligatory, but it’s better that your son gives them when you come to the celebration together. They will expect something else from you. Looking closely at a particular thing, remember the rule: it makes no sense to take something that is not interested in the mother-in-law. This gift will be useless. For example, if needlework is alien to her, you do not need to buy yarn and knit a sweater or a scarf with gloves from it - buy a ready-made set, because she simply will not appreciate your work.
Do not give anti-aging products or anti-hair loss cosmetics. This you can offend the mother-in-law.
Moreover, such presentations always receive the corresponding “answers” in the form of anti-aging products, for body hygiene or similar presentations. No need to give something that can offend, because it is a negative that can destroy an already bad relationship.
Do not give what you want for yourself: your birthday is not yours, you need to think about what will be nice to receive in-law. You can’t give your mother-in-law a parachute jump: you probably would not have liked such a gift.
Do not give her a quest: extreme conditions of the game can provoke unnecessary stress, and this is a blow to health. In addition, this gift, despite its popularity, is not for the mother-in-law.
Do not give your husband's mom underwear, slippers, night pajamas. She does not need to give her medicines, even if they are needed, but she cannot afford them. Medicines do not give, they do not apply to gift ideas for any holiday. This is what they buy just like that, without calling a gift.
With age, the care that others show is most important. And therefore money is not the best gift. Such a present seems to say that it makes no difference to you what to buy, or, in general, it is not interesting. Therefore, the mother-in-law may be offended. In addition, a monetary gift can put her in an uncomfortable position: she can consider that you will expect a similar presentation from her on your birthday.
Do not give hygiene products so that the mother-in-law does not consider this a hint of her uncleanliness.
It is undesirable to buy gift sets consisting of shampoo and shower gel. Despite the beautiful packaging and reasonable price, they are not suitable as a birthday present. No need to give mom a husband and handmade soap - this is the same hint.
Do not give her verses of your own composition if your relationship is strained.It is not worth presenting gifts that are not appropriate for age. For example, a gym membership will be understood by a young woman who goes in for sports. But such a gift will be an insult to a woman who considers herself ideal without playing sports, or leading a sedentary lifestyle. The hint may serve as a reason for the taunts in the return gift.
If you do not know what to give in-law for a birthday, see the selection of gift ideas in the video below.