Offended man: causes and rules of behavior with him

Unpleasant situations may arise in a relationship when one of the couple is offended. Communication during this period is very difficult or completely terminated. Naturally, I want to quickly change such a tense atmosphere and return the relationship to normal. What to do if the offended guy stops talking? How to understand why a man behaves this way?

It is believed that women are more prone to emotions, and, therefore, much more often offended. But such feelings are not unique to the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity. Men also can and have the right to express their complaints or show by their behavior that they do not like something.

Someone expresses their emotions openly. Someone scandals or boycotts. And someone, on the contrary, closes in on himself and practically ceases to communicate with the offender or the offender. In any case, for both partners, such situations are very unpleasant, because relations are compromised.

To understand how to restore mutual understanding and establish an atmosphere in a pair, consider the most common causes of male resentment.

• Offending a guy can be any rude and tactless comments of a partner about an intimate life. Most men very sharply and sharply perceive sharp criticism on this issue. If this criticism is also biased, then the situation can in a short time reach a break in relations.
• Resentment against women can arise if the partner does not receive enough attention from her. Of course, the representatives of the stronger sex are traditionally considered the flagships of courtship. But they also need to receive confirmation of the feelings of their beloved.
• Sometimes girls and women allow themselves to openly criticize, express insults to relatives or relatives of their boyfriend. This is very unpleasant for any person. If this is repeated regularly, this can lead not only to resentment, but also to serious conflict. A man will be forced to protect his relatives and friends from your attacks.

• Excessive jealousy and mistrust of a girl can ruin a relationship in a couple. Fending off unreasonable reproaches and accusations is very tiring and humiliating. Constant tension, open control of each step very negatively affect both partners. And if a girl is too persistently and fanatically looking for deception and lies, then she will most likely “find” her, convincing herself of the dishonesty of her chosen one. And baseless accusations cannot but offend. They hurt a man very badly.
• Excessive possessiveness of a woman in relation to a partner makes him a “prisoner” of relations. Attempts to control and manage each step will certainly cause resistance and lead to further misunderstanding.
• Each person has a hobby, hobbies and simply preferred leisure. In a pair, it is important to respect each other's interests. If a woman completely does not accept her man’s hobbies or even forbids him to spend his free time at his own discretion, then there is nothing surprising that this will cause a negative response.
• There are just very vulnerable and sensitive natures. Perhaps your boyfriend is one of those. These people are very easy to hurt, they are dubious and long experience failure. Dealing with such a person is sometimes not easy, you have to weigh every word and calculate almost any step you take.
• The guy’s overstated requirements for his beloved, personal fantasies can provoke sometimes inexplicable insults from him. Men often create in their minds a kind of “image of the princess” and expect the chosen one to conform to her ideal. When a girl does something “wrong”, the partner, seeing the discrepancy with what is desired, feels a sense of frustration and resentment.
• Cheating on a loved one hurts and brings pain. Here we can talk not just about the feeling of resentment, but about serious mental trauma. Many men never forgive insults associated with betrayal.
• The insincerity of the beloved woman, systematic deception leave a very negative impression. A deliberate lie humiliates and offends a man; as a result, he ceases to trust his soul mate.

Most members of the stronger sex experience a feeling of resentment is somewhat different than for girls. The latter are more often prone to emotional outbursts and demonstrations of their claims.

Men often go into themselves. A guy can suddenly become very dry and short in communication. Sometimes a man completely stops contacting: stops calling, writing messages, making appointments.

Some men are simply afraid to flare up and say too much. Therefore, they deliberately try to distance themselves from communication and contacts for the time of a sharp experience, and only after they find out the relationship as calmly as possible.

Of course, it is impossible to outline a universal model of a man’s behavior in a situation when he was greatly offended. It all depends on the specific circumstances and characteristics of the character and personality of the person himself.

A male resentment against women for insignificant reasons may even occur, so to speak, “asymptomatically,” that is, without external manifestations. Strong men are able to pacify their emotions and forgive beloved petty misses, to accept her habits and behavior.But, of course, this does not mean that one should use it and test the patience of the partner on purpose.

If you are sure that the man was offended by you, try to find out the reason. If the partner does not make contact, analyze your relationship in recent days. Think seriously what your act or words could hurt him? A sincere apology, a confession of wrongness and a heart-to-heart talk will certainly rectify the situation in pairs.

• If a man is not ready to make contact and talk, do not insist and do not rush him, give him time to “cool down” and relive his feelings.
• Sometimes a person in a difficult situation for him needs to be alone for some time. If the offended man asks you about this, do not resist.
• You can take the first steps with an apology by writing your favorite note or email. But then a sincere personal conversation must necessarily follow.
• If a guy is very offended and broke contacts with you, you can try to make peace through his friends or relatives. Talk to someone he trusts and ask for your apology.
• Behave naturally, you should not immediately try on roles unusual for you. It will look as if you are pretending or you are making fun of your partner.
• Sorry, keep calm. Do not throw reciprocal reproaches and do not try to offend the guy in response.

In your pair, try to adhere to the following tips from the psychology of relationships.

• Carefully express your partner comments and suggestions in sex. Harsh phrases and rude reproaches will definitely not improve your intimate life. They only injure your man and, possibly, inoculate his complexes over time.
• Try to maintain good relationships with your man’s friends and family. Do not allow yourself to be unreasonably criticized or insulted against them. Remember that they are dear to him and his indignation at your attacks is justified.
• Even in a long relationship, do not stop showing attention to your partner. Every person needs to receive confirmation from time to time that they love him. Affectionate words, compliments, small gifts for the holidays and memorable dates will strengthen your relationship and add you pleasant moments.
• If you are prone to jealousy, try to control yourself. Pay attention to the real state of affairs, and not to your unbridled fantasies or possible slander. Often, those who are obsessed with jealousy, begin to invent something that actually is not. In this situation, the partner has only endless excuses and attempts to prove his innocence.
• Respect the interests and hobbies of your loved one. Let him spend his leisure time as he wants. His hobbies are an integral part of his personality, accept them. Often wives do not let their husbands go fishing or sports activities, depriving them of the possibility of a comfortable and interesting vacation. Do not make such mistakes, and you will avoid just indignation on this issue from your soulmate.
• Maintain trust in your pair. A friendly, sincere conversation can resolve many problems. Give your man the opportunity to speak out if he cares. Support your loved one in difficult situations.