Psychologists told how a woman does not turn into a draft horse and does not become an evil aunt
Often Russian women complain of fatigue. They are tired of work, from constant domestic problems and worries. They often want to drop everything, wave to the sea, but there is not always the opportunity to do this.
It is also clear that the desire of women of any age to have a strong male shoulder nearby, which, if necessary, can be cried and complained about. And not everyone has such a shoulder, and therefore tired women are forced to rush into the battle again and again - to solve problems, earn money, pull children, make responsible and important family decisions.
The circle closes, and the woman does not have time to notice how, by the age of 35, or even earlier, she turns into a driven horse, an embittered and nervous aunt.
Given the magnitude of this disaster, psychologists decided to give some useful advice to women on how to prevent this outcome. And these recommendations do not even concern those who are just at the beginning of the journey from a cute girl to an evil aunt, but those who have almost reached or reached the finish line.
The way back is possible, but only without sudden movements, in stages.
1. Learn to listen to yourself
First of all, you need to learn to listen to your own desires. It is clear that a woman is used to living for the sake of others, to do some work to ensure their welfare, but now it is time to honestly ask yourself if you personally need it. The stronger a woman became a draft horse, the less desire she had.
But you need to try and answer yourself the question, what do you want for yourself. Psychologists recommend starting with small joys - a warm bath, a cup of coffee in complete silence, a sweetie before bedtime, send my husband for a walk with the children and sleep. Gradually, desires should become larger and larger, but the main thing is to move forward gradually.
2. Fall in love with yourself
Do not spare yourself, namely, love and take care of yourself.Begin to eat right, walk, take care of your own body, and it will soon answer you in full. This point should also include self-development. Be it any hobby, reading, drawing or playing music - be sure to find time for it.
This will be your time, which cannot be sacrificed for anyone.
3. Take action
This recommendation is understood literally - if you do not start to change something in your life, no one will come and change nothing. Try not to rush. Every night before going to bed, tell yourself if it turned out today to love yourself and listen to yourself. The basis of any action should be your conscious decision to change your life.
A woman who turns into a draft horse cannot love herself; people around her do not like her. She looks like a victim and sincerely considers herself the same. Living a victim’s position is not the best choice. Perhaps the time has come to change everything right now.
