Named 10 mistakes that women most often make on a first date

Usually we are very worried before the first date. And it makes no difference how old we are - 17 or 57. The excitement is and will always be. Most of all, psychologists say, women are afraid not to find a common language with a man. It is not clear how to behave, how to look, to like, be silent or talk. Representatives of the fair sex experience a lot of obscurely painful things before setting off on their first date with a man.

Psychologists decided to help them and made up a kind of memo. This work was done by employees at Harvard University. They noted that the appearance of a lady is very important for men, but even a dress by a famous designer and perfect makeup are not able to produce the desired effect if a woman makes behavioral mistakes. The most common specialists were presented in their "cheat sheet" for girls and women.

Phone chatter

This included not only conversations, but also correspondence in instant messengers and social networks. It’s ideal to simply disconnect the phone for a date or even leave it at home. But suppose you are an important employee, and your boss can call you at any time on current issues, or you can’t leave your mobile phone at home, as relatives may start looking for you.

In this case, the phone should be set to vibration, so as not to disturb the conversation with a shameless loud call. You should apologize to the interlocutor and quickly talk on the phone right in his presence so that he does not think that you have some terrible secrets, secrets and "skeletons in the closet."

Men usually do not continue their relationship with a woman who is on a first date all the while chatting on the phone with someone, and also continued to “like” the pictures of her friends.

Incorrect questions

There are topics that men are not ready to talk about at all. There are topics on which they do not want to speak precisely on the first date.And you need to show maximum tact so that from the first minutes of meeting you intuitively feel what kind of topics this person has.

If you don’t care with intuition, just try to avoid questions about the exact amount of his income, previous personal relationships, questions of an intimate nature.

Talk about work

No one, of course, prohibits telling where and by whom you work, what your work is, asking your interlocutor about the same, but don’t go too deep into production details and secrets, complain about an insignificant salary, harmful bosses and worthless staff .

This will indirectly characterize you as a quarrelsome nature with which it is unbearably difficult to find common interests, and therefore a man who has been listening to your complaints about the idiot chief all evening is unlikely to invite you to a second date.

Marriage in perspective

Representatives of the stronger sex "mature" longer for a serious relationship. And therefore, a surefire way to permanently scare a man away is to discuss a possible marriage with him in the future. It is also not worth hinting that you want to get married, play a wedding in the style of Chicago, give birth to five children. These conversations are untimely.

Offer to pay in half or in full

If a man called you to a restaurant for dinner, he is usually ready for expenses. Your proposal to pay half the bill after dinner may completely erase the whole impression of you - a man may be offended. The second option is even less enjoyable. If a man has something from Alphonse, even the smallest one, he will graciously allow you to help him pay, but then you will always do the same everywhere, and one day you yourself won’t notice how he sits on your neck, and You will begin to pay not only general, but also his personal bills.

Mannerism

Manner is always a sign of falsehood. Do not consider men dumber than they are. Most of them are easily able to catch this falsehood and prudence. Such ladies are completely not interesting even for short-term flirting. You can’t even count on anything more serious with an airy manner.

Directions and notes

The man, for sure, has a mother, a sister, someone who brings him up one way or another. He is unlikely to like it if, from the very first meeting, the woman with whom he was considering dating begins to do it. Whether he was mistaken in the accent of the word, he didn’t build the sentence correctly, does not remember the dates of the siege of the Bastille, do not even think to give in the form that you noticed inaccuracies and mistakes.

Silence

This happens if both partners are nervous before a date and are tense. If you do not keep up the conversation, a double burden will fall on the man. If you answer only “yes” or “no” questions, he will have the feeling that you are a burden on a date. Psychologists recommend that a woman monitor the timely filling of pauses arising in a conversation.

Dominance and leadership

Even if you are used to leading, for a date you need to forget about the command tone, command notes in the voice and the desire to solve everything for everyone. Most men are afraid of such ladies like fire, because today she is “building” subordinates, and tomorrow, if everything goes the same, she will be forced to march to her pipe.

Thanks for the compliments

If a woman thanks for the compliments made to her, she shows her upbringing at least. To meet a stream of pleasant words with a stone face is somehow not human. You should not dispute the compliments made to you, even if it seems that the interlocutor is cunning or frankly flattering.

The first date will be continued if women adhere to these recommendations, psychologists say. And he will certainly follow the second, third and so on.