A marriage proposal is one of the most romantic moments in the life of a future couple. The young man is worried before asking the main question in his life, wondering if his beloved will say the cherished "yes." And for the girls, the fiery speech and engagement ring becomes a stunning surprise. After the words of love are spoken, the future bride puts a piece of jewelry on her finger in agreement.
Features of the tradition
The tradition of giving the jewel during the offer came to the countries of Eastern Europe from the West. The ring as a gift symbolizes the seriousness of intentions and sincerity of feelings of the future groom. The girl accepts the jewelry as evidence that she is ready to share her remaining life with her lover.
Some young people prefer to surprise their chosen one in front of everyone, for example, in a restaurant or at a gala event. Others consider this moment to be very personal and offer their hand and heart in private. Engaged celebrate with relatives and friends after they filed an application with the registry office.
Right or left hand
An engagement ring is an unpaired jewelry, unlike an engagement ring. Such a jewel is in the family in a single copy and only the bride wears it. In the Eastern Slavic countries, which include Russia, Ukraine and Belarus, it is customary to wear it on the ring finger of the right hand. The same tradition is in Poland.
The future wives of the Western European countries and America wear a ring, presented by the groom, on their left hand. Someone after the marriage ceremony hides this jewel in a box, while someone continues to wear it, but on his right hand.
It is not customary to wear a groom's gift directly to the ceremony, regardless of whether the woman plans to wear it after that. The bride’s finger should be decorated exclusively with a wedding ring.
According to Slavic traditions, widowed spouses wear rings on their left hand. Therefore, our girls after registration either no longer put on an engagement ring, or combine it with an engagement ring. Then it is important that the design of the rings is in harmony with each other. In addition, two rings should not cause discomfort to a delicate female handle.
A ring given by a future husband is usually worn on a ring finger. This applies to all regions, regardless of which hand it is customary to put on. There are many opinions why the ring finger is designed to wear wedding jewelry. Some find an explanation in the human anatomy - it is from him that the nerve stretches to the very heart. Others prefer more romantic versions.
If you put your palms together, bending your middle fingers, and connect the rest with only pads, you can see something unusual. All fingers can be easily separated, except for the ring fingers. Therefore, they became a symbol of the inseparability of two lovers' hearts.
If the ring does not fit
Whatever the traditions and superstitions, modern realities dictate their conditions. A young man chooses a ring for his lover without her. Therefore, a jewel sometimes has to be worn on the finger to which it fits.
In extreme cases, you can seek help from a jeweler so that he fits the product under the finger on which the girl is going to wear it.
The future groom should be safe, choosing a jewelry design with such a condition that it will be easy to subsequently manipulate it. Jewelry salon consultants will tell you which model is best suited. If the product has an ornate design, inlaid with stones or consists of various alloys of gold, then it will be almost impossible to change its size.
No matter what happens during the engagement, there is no need to look for bad omens. The ring did not fit on the finger - it does not matter. You can always find the best solution for the jewel to shine on the fingers of the bride.
Signs and superstitions
The wedding ceremony and everything that precedes it, including the engagement, are accompanied by numerous signs. Something has already been forgotten or not respected, turning into superstition, which young people try not to attach importance to. However, there are signs that are so rooted that they have become full-fledged traditions. They are not neglected even by the most skeptical couples. Especially a lot of beliefs associated with the rings.
As for the engagement gift, it should be hidden from envious eyes, so as not to bring troubles to your family happiness. Jewel should not be given to anyone and, moreover, to try on. The symbol of future married life must be worn without taking off until the wedding day.
If the future bride loses the groom's gift, this promises a dysfunctional family life or even a divorce. And vice versa. If nothing bad happened with the ringlet, it did not get scratched, did not deteriorate and did not deform, then the couple will have an easy and happy life together.
In some families, engagement rings are usually passed from mother to son. This is a wonderful tradition. If families lived well, the older and richer the decoration, the more happiness it will bring to future generations. His positive energy will only increase. However, if the groom’s parents are unhappy in the marriage or divorced, then such a gift should not be given to his beloved.
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How to choose a jewelry?
The question of on which finger it is customary to wear an engagement ring is asked not only by its owner. First of all, the future groom thinks about it. A young man needs to make a surprise for his chosen one, and even not to get into a mess, having lost with the size of the gift.
Particularly inventive guys manage to figure out the size of the finger of their future wife. This may be a casual question as part of a conversation. So that the girl probably did not suspect anything, you can ask her friend, mom or sister about this. Ideally, if a lover has a lot of rings in the box. One of them in the jewelry store will be a real salvation, the main thing is that the girl does not suspect anything.
After the young man found out on which finger his bride will wear an engagement ring and figured out the size of the item, he goes to the store. In the jewelry salon from a lot of jewelry the eyes simply run up.
To make it easier to opt for a particular model, it is enough to adhere to a few simple tips.
- The engagement gift should be made of precious metal (gold or platinum). If a lover wears silver, then a white gold jewelry will be a great alternative. Guys should remember that their gift will be a very important attribute in a woman’s life. It is not worth saving. The jewel will remain in the family as a relic.
- Before you opt for a specific design, you need to remember what accessories the future wife prefers. If she is a supporter of the classics or does not wear jewelry at all, then it is enough to pick up a classic product with a small pebble. If the future bride prefers unusual accessories, then the gift can be picked up in the appropriate style.
- Gemstones on the product are desirable, but optional. With them, the engagement gift looks more solemn. However, there are no clear rules on this score. It can be a diamond or a colored gem. On the fingers of a young girl, a thin ring with a neat pebble will look prettier. Older women fit products with more massive inserts.
What to do with a jewel when breaking up a relationship?
Unfortunately, it is possible that the engaged couple decides to leave. Then the question arises for young people, what to do with expensive jewelry.
If the initiative was to part with the girl, then the failed groom has the right to pick up his gift. If a man initiated a break in relations, then a girl with a calm soul can leave the jewel at home. What to do next with jewelry, everyone decides independently.
When a young couple has lived in legal family relations for a short time, after the divorce, the woman is obliged to return the gift from the engagement. Thus, it makes it clear about the breakdown of once undertaken obligations. At the same time, wedding rings remain with their owners.
In the event of the death of her chosen one, the woman continues to wear an engagement ring as a sign of mourning, putting it on the opposite hand. The decoration can be removed when the next bridegroom appears in her life.
