Dismissal is a big stress for any person. For some, work is a guarantee of stability, the ability to provide for themselves and their family. And for someone this is a favorite thing, the opportunity to express yourself, to realize your abilities and skills. In any case, such an event negatively affects the human condition. Hands drop, self-esteem decreases, grievance, anger, despair seize. Our article will tell you how to adequately survive the dismissal from work and turn the situation in your favor.
First wave of emotions
If the loss of work did not happen on their own, this inevitably leads to a stressful state. It is especially offensive if a lot of effort and effort has been applied. Emotions may vary depending on the situation. Someone first of all is hurt by pride. Man is captured by anger and indignation.
It seems that the boss underestimated and humiliated him. In this case It is important to pull yourself together and leave the workplace with dignity, no matter how much you want to express all your thoughts to the management. All the same, insults will not rectify the situation, but only expose the brawler himself in an unfavorable light.
For someone, the main thing in this situation is the loss of a source of income. The panic begins, it seems that it will be very difficult or even impossible to find another job. Particularly affected by layoffs are people whose age is close to retirement (40 years or more). It is also important here to try to calm down and understand that the labor market is great, there are many opportunities, and even people of mature age can be in demand. Many executives value experienced staff.
In any case, if you were fired, you need to leave the worries for later and try to extract the maximum benefit from the last job. Ask your boss to write you reference or reference letter.
Make sure that the reason for termination is indicated on the employment record or employment contract. Claim compensation for unused vacation.
We look at the problem from a different angle.
So, all the formalities are settled, and you are left alone with the situation. From the point of view of psychology, it is obvious that it is difficult to enjoy in such a situation. But you can look at the problem from the other side. When one door closes, another opens. Having lost one job, you can find another. However, it may be better than before. Perhaps you will earn more or, in general, change the type of activity to a more interesting one for you.
If the financial issue is not the main one for you, dismissal can be an opportunity to relax a bit, take time with your family, do self-help, learn something new or upgrade your qualifications. Anyway this situation can be an impetus to positive changes in your life that you would not have decided on your own.
Cause analysis
In the event of job loss, it is important to determine why this happened. An analysis of the reasons will help restore peace of mind and understand what is worth working on so that the situation does not happen again in the future.
So, the most common reasons for dismissal:
- a person poorly fulfills his duties - one should learn to concentrate on business, strive to improve skills, gain new knowledge, adequately perceive constructive criticism and correct one's mistakes;
- problems with discipline - it is necessary to develop responsibility, punctuality;
- bad relationships in the team - it is worth learning to be more polite, friendly, sociable, to wean gossip and build intrigue.
If the cause of the situation is a banal layoff or the need to free up space for a relative of the bosses, you should not even think about it. If the reason is unclear, and at the same time you are refused to pay compensation, you can contact a lawyer for advice. So you will be sure that everything happens in accordance with the law and they are not trying to deceive you.
We use our free time to good use.
The freed up time before starting a new labor activity can be pleasantly spent and even benefit from it.
Physical activity
Lie on the couch and not be sad. Be sure to do exercises, go for walks, you can sign up for the gym or start jogging in the morning. It will strengthen your health and fill you with energy.
Healthy eating
Office workers often eat irregularly and not too well. At home you can adjust your diet, learn how to cook new healthy dishes.
Travels
If you have such an opportunity, give yourself a good rest. It can be hiking or just visiting other countries. Unity with nature, new experiences, bright positive emotions - all this will benefit you.
Restoring order in home and life
Perhaps, recently you have accumulated a lot of unfinished business, for which there was not enough time due to work. Repair what is broken, get rid of unnecessary things, finish the repair.
Education, hobbies
If time permits, sign up for continuing education courses or learn something new. It can be getting skills useful for future work (for example, computer courses, language learning) or some activity for the soul.
Search for a new job
Resting longer than a month is not worth it. The fact is that any skills are lost over time. In addition, employers are reluctant to accept those who have been inactive for a long time. Yes, and the very desire to work can disappear. A person gets used to staying at home and relaxing, and his enthusiasm for work decreases.
Having calmed down and gathered strength, you should begin to search for a new job. Think about whether you want to stay in the same field or do something new. If you choose the second option, you should soberly assess your capabilities, knowledge, level of training. Think about what is required for the desired position and decide which gaps are worth filling.
Make a resume, send it to companies offering jobs, register on the labor exchange.
Side job
In search of a new vacancy, do not ignore any opportunities. If the financial issue is acute, you can take a temporary side job for a couple of hours a day. This will keep afloat and will not interfere with serious interviews.
Psychologist's advice
Experts advise Do not keep negative emotions in yourself. Of course, you shouldn’t throw a tantrum in your boss’s office, but emotions can be thrown out later (for example, through punching a box). Do not fence yourself off from loved ones; share your thoughts and fears with them. You will definitely feel better.
Nevertheless, "swimming" in depression for months is also not worth it. Allow yourself to be a little sad, and then (after a couple of weeks) get together, analyze the mistakes, find the positive sides in the situation, think over ways to solve the problem.