Cheating on the wife: reasons and ways to overcome the situation

Women cheat on their husbands a little less often than the stronger sex. But the consequences of cheating on his wife are always very painful. Men, by virtue of their nature, relate to this phenomenon as if the end of the world had come. And then spiritual torment begins: to get a divorce or stay.

So, the wife cheated on her husband. Why this happens - it is difficult to answer this question right away, without understanding each situation separately. At the very beginning, it should be noted the fact that a woman almost always goes for treason for a reason. The fairer sex never cheats on their husbands, if those are worthy partners who need to not only be loved, but also respected. If a respectable mother and wife took such a step, then she had very good reasons for this.

• The wife harbored a grudge against her husband for any serious reason. Maybe he once long ago raised a hand on her or publicly humiliated her. After this time passed, and the pain also passed, the insult subsided, but did not disappear at all, but only dulled. And here on her way there is another person who can kindle a fire in the heart. First, a light flirtation begins, and then a sense of revenge floats out. In this case, emotions and mood lift are quickly intertwined, and the result of all this is treason.
• Treason can occur against the background of a meeting with a former lover. They had not seen each other for a long time, but somewhere deep down they always remembered what was between them. A bright flash of emotions, a quarrel with her husband or a good mood will play a role and push both to treason.
• Amorous meetings with a colleague are a rather common occurrence. Work for most people is a second family. Against the background of gray everyday life, light flirting seems an innocent entertainment. In the team everyone knows each other well, celebrate holidays together. In common feasts with music and alcohol, all employees come closer together. The line is erased, and permissiveness appears. A wife can succumb to a momentary temptation and make a mistake.
• Men often complain that their wife betrayed them.without thinking that the reason for treason could be their incorrect behavior. Husbands very often forget to compliment, give flowers to their wives, look at their dear friend with a “blurred look”. In everyday hustle and bustle, they often insult and humiliate their soul mate. So then be surprised if the wife at one point looks to the side. She will look and, quite possibly, will find support for herself there. Undoubtedly, a new friend will appreciate the merits. As a result, the family will fall apart.

• Women with a strong character are looking for a partner who can tame their burrows. This condition will be met only by a bold and patient representative of the stronger sex. If the husband does not meet the requirements, then the wife will begin to look for a decent couple on the side. And such a person will surely find a friend, as she has a purposeful character. In this case, the man needs to work on himself, improve himself, otherwise betrayal will follow, and not even one.
• The female psyche is very vulnerable. As a result of family contention, a wife can say offensive words. To reproach, and in most cases is fair, that her betrothed lies on the couch and does not help her with the housework. The husband should not respond to them with aggression. Just fulfill the request of the wife. If the misunderstanding continues, then, perhaps, a woman from hopelessness will look at those men who are more economic and have good earnings.
• It is very difficult to love a person who is addicted to alcohol. A drunk husband is a woman’s misfortune. You won’t go out with people like that; he will turn any fun-filled feast into a negative. Therefore, it is not surprising if his wife always looks to the side. It can be understood: a woman is tired of being a laughing stock in the eyes of others. There is no need to talk about children. Do not be surprised if at one point a wife replaces her husband - an alcoholic with a teetotaler.
• A tyrant husband is another problem for a woman. A man for every occasion plagues his life partner, since he sincerely believes that his wife is to blame for all troubles. Thus, he covers up his failure: he cannot make a career or does not earn enough money. The reasons may be different. Of course, a woman will get tired of such an attitude towards herself, and she will try to find a reliable and wealthy man.

Of course, there is no excuse for treason. Many of the stronger sex genuinely believe that this is a very vile act. And all the excuses in the form that the husband himself is to blame for cheating on him do not sound very convincing. Yes, it is, but only for those who, indeed, have become the victims of an unfaithful woman.

But life is very multifaceted. You cannot condemn this or that event one-sidedly. All our actions have consequences. And if something happened, then it was not an accident. You need to remember this before you judge and make decisions that can harm you. It is necessary to analyze every moment, and try to find an explanation.

Surviving a wife’s betrayal is very difficult, as difficult as stepping on your throat. Resentment smothers and torments. These feelings do not allow you to live and breathe normally. The hunter spirit, which is inherent in men, only enhances the experience.

No one will condemn you if, after the betrayal of a friend, you pack and leave her on all four sides. It will be your choice. In this case, it remains only to add that you did not have much love and affection for the woman who changed. You were not bound by anything, and a break will not be a special problem that can cause a depressed state for a long time.

What if you do not want to part with a woman who has become the closest person on earth? What to do if spouses have been married for more than one decade and “ate more than one pound of salt together?” If such a couple has a strong joint economy, have children and even grandchildren, established life and joint habits? What if all this does not want to lose because of resentment and betrayal?

An appeal to a private psychologist will help to cope with the problem. However, not all men are ready to take such a step and tell an outsider about their specific situation. In this case, some recommendations may help.

• If your parting with your wife is like death, do not let her go and forgive. But first, talk to her about why she took such an unseemly step. Perhaps you will hear such arguments that you yourself will want, if you do not change yourself, then radically change yourself, and become a completely different person.
• You are tormented by thoughts of the impending breakup, but in order not to fall into a final depression, restore peace to yourself. Only you yourself can help yourself in this. Sit and sit in silence. Think about what follows the decision to divorce. Perhaps you will regret it all your life. Draw conclusions and try to forgive your woman.
• Remember that you are a man and are responsible not only for yourself, but also for your wife and children. No need to transfer blame only to a woman. Think about your mistakes and mistakes. So you can analyze the situation and find out why there was a betrayal. Do not deny your guilt. As a result of reflection, you yourself will find the answer to the question: “Is it worth it to get a divorce?”
• Do not make a hasty decision about a divorce. First imagine the consequences of this painful step. Having lost your usual way of life, you can gain in return a frenetic search for a new companion who, quite possibly, will not be able to give you the family happiness that your wife gave you.
• Know how to forgive. Especially if you consider yourself a real man and love your wife. Let your opponent envy you, and you enjoy saving your family.

When they hurt you, the first action you want to do is revenge. Revenge on a loved one is a bad way to calm your pain. Therefore, it is worth a hundred times to think before making such a not very prudent decision.

Family relationships are the most confusing tangle that only an experienced specialist can unwind. But if you are a self-sufficient man, then you can help yourself. To do this, you can try in practice some expert advice.

• Resentment from cheating wife throbbing. Different thoughts climb into my head. So I want to punish the opponent. No matter how you like it, hold on with all your might, do not spoil your nerves. Think about the consequences. They can be very deplorable. Due to rash actions, you may lose your reputation or gain a real term.
• No need to recoup your wife. She already suffers from remorse and fear of losing her family. If you care, then try not to offend your spouse with the last words. If you are very upset, and still do not want to see her, just do not talk for a while with her.
• Do not humble yourself before your wifeif she is going to leave you for her lover. You will not achieve anything with this. If she cheated on you, it means that you did something wrong all the time. Maybe they were too rude with her and the children, maybe they did not pay attention to the problems of the family.Let your soulmate think in which direction to move, and when she understands this, then you can return her to the family.
• Get away from the worst mistakewhich some "hot" men resort to. These are threats that will greatly harm yourself and the whole family. After such “arguments”, the wife will not only not return to you, but will also be frightened for herself and for the children. Then you will lose her forever.
• The argument of taking away children and depriving the spouse of parental rights will not only help, but will make your attempt void. The most precious thing for a woman is her children. The threat of their removal does not cause fear, but anger. This will be equivalent to trying to take her offspring from a lioness. Tear and bite. It will not work to achieve something, and you will never return your wife and children. Moreover, the spouse will do everything to protect you from communicating with your kids.

• Going around and spreading rumors about a lecherous wife is also not worth it. By these actions you will discredit not only your soul mate, but also yourself and the children. No one needs extra gossip and ridicule behind his back. And if you soon make peace, it will be difficult to look into the eyes of others.
• Do not connect your wife’s friends to the solution to your problem. Do not ask one of them for help. Women are an unpredictable and envious people. It is not a fact that a long-time friend will sincerely rejoice at your speedy reconciliation. Maybe, on the contrary, out of harm, she will tell you various tales, after which you immediately file for a divorce. Do not trust strangers. You can be deceived, and you will take rash actions. Then after a while the truth will emerge, and you will greatly regret the break.
• And one more tip. Do not solve problems by bumping into sweeps and intoxication. In this way you will definitely not achieve anything, but only harm yourself. Health will be shaken, lose a good reputation. Only very weak people in character go this way. Do not be like them. Be stronger and smarter.
• Do not engage your children in adult conflict. Let them have a full childhood. What happened between you and your spouse should not concern them. They love both of you. Details of the scandalous situation that your children will know can cause psychological trauma.
• No need to strive to change yourself to avenge the betrayal of his wife. Another woman will receive hope for your relationship with her, and the wife will be worried and jealous. As a result, you will punish both at once. This will not make it easier for anyone. And if children also learn about it, then it will be even more difficult to restore the family. Such actions can completely ruin all attempts at reconciliation.

When it comes to your future fate and the fate of your children, it’s worth a hundred times to think before going to break with your loved one. Love and many years of affection for each other can not go in one day. And if you are determined to restore the relationship, then give a chance for their resuscitation. We need to try to live on fully and with joy, forget about the insults inflicted on each other and come to terms with what happened. By tormenting yourself, you will not change anything, but only hurt yourself, your wife and children.

If you have not left the family after the betrayal, but still think about what you should do, then remember about your children. In some families, two children grow up, and in some more. How will they perceive your divorce from your wife? And if they have a transitional age? Adults should be the last to think about themselves if they have children. Their well-being is the main reason that should lead to reconciliation with your wife.

But if it turned out that the wife also became pregnant from her lover, then it is up to you to decide. Advisers will not help. You can only offer to leave the child and subsequently adopt.Yes, this is difficult and difficult, but if you really do not want to lose your soulmate, then accept her child. After all, children are happiness, and let everyone around you admire your nobility. Let them think what they want, but you, in spite of all circumstances, have remained together and happy.

While a person is young, it seems to him that everything can be changed overnight. But life passes quickly, and there come moments when you want to see near and dear ones. And if you forgive your wife for treason, she will surely pay you back with gratitude. Who in his youth did a lot of stupid things, and then was very worried about this, will no longer make mistakes.

Remember that a woman greatly repents after cheating on her husband. She is afraid that life after this event will no longer be the same and at the same time does not want a break in relations with her husband. She always thinks: “How could I have committed such a shameful act?” This state can either let go or return with a new force. Even a year after the betrayal, the husband and wife cannot recover from the injury. How to be such spouses, and how to get out of depression, some tips of a psychologist will tell.

A man who has forgiven, but has not forgotten his insult, must remember that you cannot do anything in half. Therefore, if forgiven, then forgot. And to forget some interesting hobby will help. For example, fishing. There is no mood, but there is free time, distract from problems.

• Go to the river, catch fish. The wife will be delighted with such an outcome of the matter and will praise, and the thought that you are a breadwinner will raise self-esteem. Cook your ears and sit together at the table. It will bring you closer and calm you down.
• Passion for music also contributes to the normalization of mood. Invite your wife to listen to the classic together, and drink green tea with raspberry jam. The mood will improve from a healthy drink and spending time together.
• See your doctor to prescribe a sedative when you are trying to maintain a relationship with your wife.
• Do not discuss issues with your spouse that could provoke a conflict. Set these conversations aside for a more favorable time.
• Start making repairs in the apartment. Involve your wife in this process. Joint workload will unite you, bad thoughts will leave, and so the mood will rise.
• If you have your own house or cottage, start building a garage or a playground. So you will be busy all the time, and thoughts about the construction will block your obsessive thoughts about the betrayal of a loved one.

• Offer your wife and children a joint trip to the countryside. If it's cold, dress warmer and take a hot thermos with brewed herbs. Move there to music, play with children. You yourself will see how your relationship will move into a positive trend.
• Make it a habit to arrange joint Sunday gatherings with your children. Invite your very close friends (only those you trust). Share the recipes you cook together.
• Ignore the barbs behind. Angry people are not happy with other people's happiness. It is possible that they envy you. And the opinions of such "friends" should not interest you.
• To find peace of mind, plunge into family everyday life. Rejoice at every day spent together. Celebrate even the smallest events. For example, getting a daughter five in mathematics. So you yourself will understand that your ambitions are not worth it to spoil the mood for yourself and loved ones.
• Buy a puppy or kitten at home. Children will be very happy, and common joy unites.