Treason at work: signs, causes and options for action

Office romance often destroys family relationships, especially in the case of treason. Many men are interested in how to recognize marital infidelity, which can cause female weakness, can it be forgiven.

Life together, family hardships unite a married couple. At the same time, piled up worries can quench ardent and tender feelings. Spouses no longer feel the love of a partner. Family conflicts, petty quarrels contribute to the cooling of intimate relationships. Often a gruff and untidy wife meets a man at home, and at work - a well-groomed and friendly colleague. A co-worker may also be someone's wife or girlfriend.

Often office romance occurs between the boss and subordinate. A wife cheats on her husband with her boss most often under duress. Fear of losing a job, a desire to move up the career ladder are the main reasons for adultery. The leader can force sex through threats and blackmail. Suddenly arising passion is not ruled out, leading to treason with a boss or other colleague. Interest in a colleague may arise when the attention signs on the part of the husband cease. Having ceased to feel welcome, the woman succumbs to beautiful courtship by the boss or colleague.With your workmate, your girlfriend or official wife can become close at a corporate party, which the management arranges for the employees to unite in order to achieve further joint fruitful work. Holidays and corporate parties sometimes lead to short-term intimate relationships between family people.

Alertness and sensitivity will help to recognize a wife’s infidelity in a timely manner. Hasty conclusions in this situation are inappropriate. It is necessary to carefully analyze each characteristic sign of treason.

• Suddenly, the spouse ceased to allow her husband into her personal space. She began to hide personal correspondence, phone calls. Does not talk about upcoming or held meetings. In the evening and on weekends, they call her with the aim of solving some working moments. The wife with the phone goes into another room. It is highly likely that the behavior is associated with treason. It is important to remember: it is possible that because of your pickiness, ridicule of your spouse’s statements, various messages or heated discussions with friends and relatives, she began to be shy, afraid of your criticism, and ceased to trust you.
• The wife pays a lot of attention to her appearance. Carefully does makeup, hairstyle. Before leaving for work, she stands in front of a mirror for a long time, carefully peering into the features of her face. This behavior should be especially wary if she has ceased to consult with you about her image, which she cared much less before. She didn't care how she looked next to you. Remember: this behavior can mean reluctance to keep up with your friends.

• Uncharacteristic increased attention to her husband, excessive care and tenderness indicate an attempt to make amends to her husband. An unfaithful husband, finding himself in a similar situation, on the contrary, begins to find fault with his wife for any reason. He begins to compare his soul mate with his mistress, whom he considers to be the best at the moment. It is important to remember: in practice, it happens that the wife really realized and appreciated the positive qualities of her husband. Rethinking can occur after the loss of the second half of a friend: the divorce or death of a beloved man.
• In intimate life, a chill is felt on her part. With the refusal of the manifestation of affection and tenderness, it is possible that feelings are completely given to another person. In such a situation, the unfaithful husband sometimes completely ceases his sex life with his wife or begins to demonstrate acquired skills in a new relationship. Remember: do not forget that the reason for this behavior can be frequent quarrels with her husband, accumulated resentment, fatigue, depression, illness, pregnancy.
• A sharp reaction to criticism from her husband began to cause discontent, irritation. A woman's self-esteem increases with increased attention to an outsider man. It is important to know: the option is not excluded that the wife is tired of your endless negative statements, comments on any occasion.
• Missed husband calls. The explanations can be very different: I didn’t hear, I was traveling in public transport, I was busy, the battery was exhausted, I forgot my phone. Do not forget: this behavior does not necessarily happen when cheating.
• Keeping communication to a minimum. The wife herself begins to actively use a screwdriver and a hammer. My husband does not ask for anything. In the evening there are no stories about the past day.
• The appearance in your company of a new person to whom the wife pays a lot of attention.

• Previously, a punctual wife begins to linger at work. Frequent overtime work hours must necessarily alert the spouse. Especially if the wife returns home with a joyful face, and not with the emaciated look, which is characteristic of exhausting work. The appearance of unscheduled inspections and reports, which were not there before, is the first alarm sign.She talks about overtime with sheer indifference, not annoyance. Pay attention to its aroma, whether there is a male odor on the clothes or hair. A categorical prohibition to meet a wife from work on such days can mean a fear of getting caught. It is important to remember: the situation at the enterprise may change with a change of leadership or for another reason, and the spouse really takes care of her husband, therefore does not want him to spend his time and meet her from work.
• Appeared business trips or one-day business trips that do not improve the financial situation in the family should alert the husband. Business trips are becoming more frequent, but the salary remains at the same level. Remember: a wife’s desire to build a successful career is not ruled out.
• A sign of betrayal may be indifference to family affairs, to conversations with you. Interest in cooking dinner, washing dishes, and cleaning up the house disappeared. Life is completely abandoned. The wife does not want to visit your parents. It is important to know: sometimes a loss of interest in life is associated with a disease or depression.
• Mysterious thoughtfulness leads to the thought: the wife’s thoughts are aimed at the person she adores.

Forgiving a betrayal to a wife is very difficult. Affected by male pride and pride. No need to take rash actions. Drastic measures can be taken in haste. We must wait until the initial shock passes, sound thoughts will begin to appear. The final decision should be made by the man himself without the participation of friends, relatives, acquaintances.

First of all, we need to consider the situation from different angles. There are two important points:

• treason happened once: on a business trip, at a holiday, corporate event or under pressure, threats of the boss, a dangerous acquaintance, or in revenge on an unfaithful husband;
• both spouses for a long time were not faithful to each other.

Sincere recognition is very important in these cases. The wife repents, voluntarily agrees to change behavior that excludes the repetition of unfaithfulness to her husband. The sinning half must itself decide. She refuses business trips, attending parties unaccompanied by her husband. The spouse officially disconnects from the party by calling her lover in the presence of her other half. The wife defiantly throws away her lover's gifts, provides her husband access to social networks and the phone. A long affair with a colleague is best completed by dismissal from work.

Forgiving an unfaithful wife and restoring family relationships is extremely difficult in the following cases:

• the woman consciously went on treason; she herself inclined her colleague to love joys;
• with direct evidence, the wife did not confess or repent;
• a lover at work turned out to be her husband’s best friend or a person from a close circle - he is a member of the family;
• if the wife has several lovers;
• the wife refuses to break off relations with her lover;
• the spouse does not want to change approaches to her life.

It is best to find out the truth about treason by asking an unexpectedly direct question to his wife. Secret surveillance does not lead to anything good. They will surely end with a grand scandal and a final break in relations.

With a married boss, the affair is hopeless; he is doomed to collapse in advance. A fleeting affair at a corporate party may be a random episode. The efforts of the husband should not be directed to finding a lover, but to correct the situation:

• start paying more attention to your wife than before: give flowers, cover her with compliments, gifts, fulfill all requests;
• organize a trip, camping trip, entertainment;
• invite to a restaurant, cafe or movie;
• fulfill her wishes;
• be more sensitive to intimate relationships;
• listen carefully to her stories;
• start active correspondence with messengers through it;
• try to convey criticism to your wife gently, not offensively;
• do not skimp on money and affectionate words;
• do housework on time;
• listen to her advice, requests.

This does not mean that you will go with your spouse about the occasion and fulfill all her whims. Stay always a real man. The emergence of true love contributes to daily hard work on relationships in the family. The initial spark gradually fades. Passion and love pass over time.

It is necessary to fill the family space with warmth, love, understanding. Change relations for the better should be regular. The saying goes: when a family is in a good mood, a treasure is not needed. If there is a real deep feeling for the spouse, in the relationship there is openness to each other, trust, then betrayal is almost impossible.