Cheating on her husband: how to behave?

Marital relations are a sensitive topic. In the family, what kind of cases do not occur, but there is nothing surprising in this. People have been together for a long time, and so I want new sensations, some just got stuck in living conditions. Among rash acts in this situation, treason stands out.

Years go by. A woman at any age always wants to be in the spotlight. Those needs are especially strongly felt by those who think outside the box, monitor their appearance and engage in self-improvement. Dissolved and addicted to alcohol women, of course, do not count here.

In most cases, married women are busy with the house and children. None of them specifically seek love on the side. It all depends on a chance meeting. And this is how it often happens:

• in a casual man, a woman sees what is missing in her husband;
• since life does not yet bind, the couple is fun and interesting together;
• a relationship is struck - light at first, but difficult afterwards.

At first, neither a woman nor a man thinks that they are doing badly. A whirlwind of feelings circles and does not allow to stop. Ultimately, there comes a moment when someone from acquaintances or colleagues learns about this connection.

As the saying goes, "sewn in a bag you can’t hide." First, whispering is heard behind him. Then there are "good people" who are happy to tell your spouse about your betrayal.

There is a huge scandal, after which the husband will not leave home, but will put you out the door.Another option: he will leave, loudly slamming the door. There is another option: he will be greatly offended, will scare him by divorce, but after your repentance he will forgive him for the sake of his family and children. Then there will come a reconciliation of the spouses, and, perhaps, the relationship will sparkle with new colors.

So, the husband filed for divorce. How to behave further if tormented by conscience? How to get my husband back? Firstly, do not despair. The next day no one will divorce you, but as long as there is time, you can find a way out of any situation. Secondly, you need to "get over it" and analyze the situation. And ask yourself the question: "How to live further?"

Do not expect your life to be the same even if your husband forgives you. Be prepared for the fact that it will radically change. You have to correct your mistakes every day. Tolerate reproaches, humiliations and even insults. Not everyone can stand it. It may happen that you yourself want to leave the family hearth.

Each of us has our own character. Someone is soft, while someone is stronger than stone. Not every man can forgive his wife for exchanging him for another.

Women who fall for treason claim that their spouses after that became simply unrecognizable. For male insulted dignity, they paid their unfaithful half with a cruel attitude.

Insults and beatings occurred almost daily. Not everyone can stand it. Repentant women are willing to do anything to regain confidence, even endure humiliation and violence. In this case, they are difficult to understand.

Professional advice from a psychologist will certainly help return love to your family or ease the transition period until you feel better. But unfortunately, not every representative of the fair sex can afford it. A big role here is played by the money issue, the choice of a good specialist and other points. But the tips below will help or breathe a little confidence into you. Analyze each item and you will definitely come to the right decision.

• Think about the question: “Is it worth it to continue a relationship with a former lover?” Perhaps it was a simple affair, meaning nothing to him or to you. And you just now realized how really you love your husband.
• Your husband kicked you out of the house with a scandal, and you were offended. After that, they decided to go live with her lover. Think: Were your meetings based on serious feelings? Perhaps this, in fact, a stranger man, too, will soon point to the door. Maybe he was never going to marry you. He has a beloved wife and children who have forgiven him for a long time (women in such situations forgive more often). Do not have empty illusions. Despite resentment, do everything to return to the family.
• You had such an “unearthly love” on the side. You really want to stay with your new chosen one. Does he want the same? To find out, talk to your friend about it.
• A man who wants to marry you will be the first to propose marriage. If he has not done this before, then you should not count on his support now. Offers "hands and hearts" from such a superficial friend, you most likely will not wait.Go back home to your family.

So, you decided to return to your husband. Then do not postpone your actions. Ask for a meeting or offer to talk seriously at a time convenient for both. Usually a woman is very sorry that she betrayed. Therefore, sincere tears and repentance, if not immediately, and then melt the heart of a jealous person.

Often, women begin to reproach her husband for not spending much time with his family and disappearing at work. And so there was treason. Try to avoid harsh words and reproaches against him. On the contrary, repent and apologize. Think of the children and the need to live for them. They need a full-fledged family. Typically, such arguments have some success.

If we are talking about treason, which was a long time ago, it is better not to admit it at all. But if you have nowhere to go, then remember: your husband is also very worried and does not want a break with you. Try to be convincing. Give him a lot of arguments, for example, such as: “Divorced, and then what? Find another? And if the other changes, will you go from one to the other? But what about the children? Parents? Credit? Apartment? Car?". Many spouses have something to lose, and such "iron" arguments convince them not to get divorced.

The situation is complicated, and manipulative issues can save the family. The main thing after this is to establish relations and gain the trust of her husband again.

The husband, however, has forgiven you. This does not mean that tomorrow he will give flowers and talk to you as if nothing had happened. Most likely, his attitude towards you will be "cold." Do not expect ardent hugs and confessions from him in the near future.

You can return love only through perseverance and patience on the part of women. You need to clearly articulate yourself one desire: "I do not want to lose my family." Strictly go to him. And these recommendations will help smooth out the crack in the relationship.

• Try to avoid jokes about treason. Do not focus on jokes, films where the plot is based on betrayal of the spouses.
• Do not provoke scandals. Do not cling to it on trifles. Do not yell at children with your spouse and his parents. On the contrary, try to make everyone reach for you. Create an atmosphere of warmth.
• Do not humble yourself, and at the same time try to please your husband and children. For example, prepare a delicious breakfast and call everyone to the table. This technique brings you all together.
• Get your family together on vacation. There you will escape from the problems. This will contribute to the development of a romantic relationship.
• Start saving money to buy a car or summer house. The common aspirations of people unite.
• Communicate more with each other. Consult on the little things. For example, discuss together how you will organize the upcoming festive feast.
• Finally, start knitting a sweater in the evenings. So you will demonstrate to your husband that you are no longer interested in outside affairs. You are busy with household chores.

There are many ways. Choose the one that resonates in your soul. The period of verification of feelings can last for years. All this time keep yourself in control, show your husband your devotion. Despite everything, you are happy together - you can cope with this task, and many families confirm this. Everything is possible in life, and hope dies last.

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