Male infidelity: causes, statistics and psychology

Some men believe that male adultery is significantly different from female adultery. Allegedly, it is more superficial, and should not be taken seriously.

Each woman will answer this question based on her life experience. Some will say that there are men who never cheat, and these are their husbands. Others, on the contrary, will answer that all members of the stronger sex are able to betray their other half if certain conditions arise.

Both of them are absolutely right in their opinions, since each of us is individual in our character and outlook on life. What determines the mood for treason in our men?

This question cannot be answered one-sidedly. In many ways, the husband’s attitude to the wife is subject to the behavior of the woman herself. Often there are situations when the same man behaves differently with women of different character.

All this happens because one of them allows her to change or behaves in such a way that her husband is forced to look to the side. The other keeps his chosen one in "hedgehogs" or makes it so that he has no desire to look "to the left."

Any womanizer can be tamed if you carry out constant work to prevent treason. Just as a decent and honest man can commit adultery if his other half does not care about maintaining relations.

It must be remembered that marriage is a very hard job. This is especially true for women.No wonder they say that the fair sex are the guardians of the hearth.

But of all the rules, there will always be at least one, but an exception. There are times when a woman is powerless in the face of circumstances.

In this situation, you should not blame the woman. You need to understand that she got a partner with an unstable mental state. Most likely, some kind of mental trauma caused this condition, maybe even a childhood one. That is why the man-don Juan can not stop at the choice of one permanent partner.

The insult provokes the man to prove to himself every time that he is able to find a mate at any time and at any time. He will never be rejected, abandoned and humiliated, because in his opinion it is perfection.

Having met such a man and understanding the essence of his nature, Do not get upset and try to find flaws in yourself to justify the behavior of the hanger.

Experts after the studies claim that men in most cases cheat in order to get sexual satisfaction. In this case, their state of mind is not always “involved” in the process. That is precisely why many claim that male adultery does not mean anything.

Women cheat “in all seriousness” and expect the same warm psychological return from their partner. No wonder they say that a woman, cheating on her husband and being in a rented apartment, unconsciously arranges furniture and tries to arrange a cozy family nest.

But in spite of everything, the majority of our contemporaries, almost 51%, do not consider treason to be a reason for divorce. Perhaps this happens because more than 70% of men and more than 26% of women cheated on their second half about once in a lifetime.

Here are some statistics.

• About 30% change at work, this number includes both men and women. Usually such infidelity is a one-time occurrence.
• With neighbors, 14% of men and women alter.
• While on vacation, women (34%) change more often than men (20%).
• In nature or in the country, 30% of changes occur, and in apartments where one of the partners lives with their family, 30% of people change.

Thus, we can say that not all the inhabitants of our planet are capable of systematic betrayal.

Psychologists say that there are many prerequisites and factors that provoke a man’s mood for treason. This phenomenon can cause a midlife crisis. After forty years, it seems to some husbands that their active sex life is coming to an end.

Moreover, by this time, children in many families are becoming quite adults. They have their own interests and hobbies. Parental care fades into the background. A man feels himself useless to anyone, and this pushes him to find himself as a person in other occupations.

The feeling of a devastated nest - this is the name of this phenomenon. A man is a breadwinner, he is used to hoping for his help and care. The head of the family continues to work and “pull the strap”, but does not feel recoil and moral satisfaction. He constantly runs up against the fact that his son can already create material wealth himself, and his daughter takes care from a completely alien representative of the stronger sex.

Against this background, the man begins to seem that much in his life has been lost and not tested. If such a representative of the stronger sex does not find a way out of this situation, then he may undergo a psychosomatic phenomenon. Psychosomatics will entail serious diseases.

Therefore, in order to instinctively escape from depression, he wants to catch up and reach many heights. And what inspires this? Of course, romantic impulses. There is always a response to such impulses. Be sure to meet a woman who will share his hobbies and high spirits. The world in this case will sparkle with new colors.

And this is what happens when even the most loving spouse begins to “walk to the left” of her missus. It turns out that men cheat on their wives, but do not leave the family. Often a spouse is in the dark for a long time that her husband has a lover.

Situations when the wives themselves are to blame for the betrayal of husbands are also found in our society. The reason here is sexual dissatisfaction or the cold attitude of the wife. To increase his self-esteem, a man, due to lack of attention, will go looking for him “on the side”.

There is a small number of representatives of the stronger sex, which is initially not able to create a strong family. This phenomenon is influenced by many psychological factors. A certain temperament and selfish disposition among such men will never help to maintain long-term relationships with women.

I must admit that on the planet there are also such representatives of the stronger sex, which can be attributed to inveterate bachelors. If a man lives alone, this does not mean that he does not have a romantic relationship with his partners. Typically, such relationships are not advertised, and therefore do not oblige.

The negative echoes of a husband’s infidelity can be different. When a wife finds out about her husband’s betrayal, her self-esteem drops sharply and she becomes depressed. Against this background, the whole family suffers, and especially children. Then the woman begins to get angry at her husband for his mistakes. And this state does not end with anything good. Negative emotions have not helped anyone.

As a result, the offended representative of the fair sex herself can go on a betrayal in order to take revenge. Family destruction will be inevitable here. When the couple lived in a marriage for a long time, then the betrayal of one of them will look like "thunder from a clear sky." Not all women are able to forgive the spouse's betrayal, and this must be remembered.

The female half of humanity is the most sophisticated revenge. Out of despair, a deceived wife may decide on revenge. This should never be allowed. Many people can suffer from her rash actions, including her own children. If a woman breaks the law, she will be prosecuted. And this is a tragedy that will cause irreparable damage to everyone.

And another important point that should not be overlooked in a situation of treason is the loss of trust. The offended wife will no longer be able to treat her husband with warmth. It will seem to her at every step that her husband is cheating on her again. And only after some time her suspicion will settle down. But while the state of rest sets in, many scandals and troubles will occur in the family.

If betrayal still happened, then do not get hung up on insults. It is necessary to live on. Time heals, and your grievances will go away if you yourself so wish.

Some men, in general, do not believe that their betrayal is something supernatural. It comes to the point that some members of the stronger sex say this: “What am I doing? I have every right to treason. My wife and family do not need anything. I do not drink, do not smoke. Can I have at least some flaw? ”

It is hard to imagine, but many of them are convinced that they are right and do not believe that they are doing something wrong. Such a representative of the stronger sex will never change his mind. He will walk right and left until he has the strength to do so.Yes, it must be added that this type of men rarely leaves the family.

This behavior is inherent in a typical egoist. In life, he wants to try everything at once. He is always in a good mood. That's just the wife and lover do not feel very comfortable with such a life partner. True, not all men relate to their beloved women in a consumer way. Among the unfaithful husbands there are those who experience unbearable spiritual suffering because they have to dodge and cheat all the time.

He will perfectly understand what is wrong, and his betrayal may destroy the marriage. Fear and remorse corrode a man from within. But with this he can not do anything due to the fact that his wife and lover become dear to him, and each of them in their own way.

If there is a great desire for this, then you can survive this phenomenon. Take your emotions into circulation and tune in a positive way. Without this attitude, nothing should be done. Then it’s better to get a divorce than to do something halfway. So, you decided to save the family and marriage. Then do the following:

• Do not reproach the husband and do not remind of treason;
• create a cozy atmosphere in the house, prepare various goodies and arrange joint tea parties;
• often create a romantic atmosphere when you are alone with your spouse;
• go to visit close friends and demonstrate to everyone that everything is fine with you;
• you need to wean your husband to look at other women, for this always be near;
• engage in joint sports training;
• often go with the whole family to the countryside;
• communicate with close relatives, parents;
• do not drag children into your conflicts - they are still small and will be very worried about the fact that mom and dad can divorce.

All your efforts will not pass without a trace. Gradually, the pain will subside, and at the same time, an optimistic mood will appear. You yourself will not notice how everything tunes in the right way. The main thing is not to focus on the problem and do not get depressed.

Believe me, that no woman who loves to dare to take her husband away from you if she subconsciously feels that she is inferior to you in all respects of femininity. She will not waste time on your missus when other men walk around, whose wives look much worse than she is - so alone and beautiful.

Remember that your eyes should always be made up, and the hairstyle should be in excellent condition. While you are working to preserve your marriage, your appearance should always be impeccable.

Do not refuse your husband intimacy for no particular reason. Your refusal must be logically justified. At the same time, do not be too intrusive, especially if you are both already at a fairly mature age. Otherwise, your husband will begin to complex and worry about the viability of his male power.

A person himself can create a pleasant atmosphere around himself and his family. It all depends only on yourself, and you should not constantly think that your husband can change you at any moment. Fight your fears and defeat them.

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