The betrayal of a husband and girlfriend is always a terrible trauma for a deceived wife, especially if she was sure that her husband was incapable of such an act all the time while the woman was married. And even more so with the one that enters the house and to whom the most secret secrets have been trusted.
Reasons for betrayal by a friend
Sometimes the reason why one woman has an affair with a husband of another, well-known to her, lies in a feeling of envy. The girlfriend’s husband seems more successful and attractive against the backdrop of his own, familiar, to which many complaints have often accumulated over the years of marriage.
If the traitor is not married, she has even more reasons to encroach on someone else's. Even if she earns a lot, dresses better and is able to afford something that her married friend doesn’t even dream about, it is this usual family well-being that can be the subject of envy. And if there is a chance to prove to herself that in love, she can also be no worse than others, it is impossible to avoid the temptation to taunt someone else's husband.
There is nothing to say about the unsuccessful and not so attractive girl as her married girlfriend. She has even more reasons to prove something to herself and increase self-esteem at someone else's expense.
A much more intriguing affair in a love triangle occurs when a forbidden love affair becomes revenge for the former "merits" of the now married friend: you took away my boyfriend, now I will take you away! In addition, the lover - the husband of a friend - is very convenient.He will securely keep a secret about extramarital ties and is unlikely to start doing stupid things, as this will substitute not only his mistress, but also himself.
Without interrupting a friendly relationship with a married friend, you can always have access to her house. If your own husband asks where he went, it’s convenient to honestly answer where he was, and in between cases lead a love game, spiced up with the severity of a secret relationship with another husband.
In addition to the usual everyday reasons, the reason for betrayal sometimes becomes a reaction to prolonged stress, in the state of which today there is a huge number of people, or a banal lack of a constant sexual partner. I wanted to relieve tension, but then a familiar man turned up, attractive, moreover, with "recommendations" from a close woman.
Reasons for husband cheating
Men fall into two categories. Some of them are faithful, in spite of any problems in the family, while others are able to change at the slightest occasion.
Faced with such betrayal, women invariably ask themselves the question - why did the husband cheat on her friend, despite the fact that cheating with a woman she knows is much more painful than with a stranger.
This is explained by the fact that it is much easier to establish a relationship with such a girl than with a stranger, with whom you need to get acquainted, prove to her your attractiveness, take a long walk and so on. If the wife’s girlfriend is a pretty, sexy girl, why look for someone else?
Relations with a neighbor or a colleague in the workshop can lead to unpleasant consequences, sooner or later dangerous rumors will go that will eventually reach the ears of the one behind whose back all this is done, but here everything seems to be very accessible. Communication with a wife’s girlfriend is not difficult to maintain, from a technical and psychological point of view, without causing suspicion from the missus.
Why do "friends" appear
The friendship between two women can be different. Some originate from childhood, others begin in adulthood. Anyway, if the communication between the girls comes down to washing their bones to their husbands or discussing what they don’t need to know, this in itself is a sign of unhealthy family relationships. Ideally, the best friend is her own spouse. With full trust from him there can be no secrets.
If a married woman does not completely trust her husband, it is possible that he will seek this trust on the side. A girl who is aware of the structure of the family life of the one who is always in reach is fully equipped to have an affair with her husband, especially if he does not need to be persuaded to embark on love affairs.
Forgive or not
If a man cheated on his wife with her best friend, the deceived woman always raises the question: forgive or not. And in relation to her husband. With a girlfriend, everything is usually clear. It is hard to imagine that it will be possible to maintain any relationship with her after what happened. If the friendship is real, and not just in words, to sleep with your beloved girlfriend - it’s the same as going for it with a relative. If betrayal happened, then there was no friendship.
As for the husband, everything is not so clear here. If the fact of betrayal happened for the first time, you can find the strength to understand the essence of the problem, get to the bottom of the true motives of the spouse's behavior, give him a chance to continue living together.
If it is obvious that the man does not consider himself guilty, he is not interested in what his wife feels and what she thinks of what happened, then the relationship is unlikely to be continued. Moreover, it is not uncommon when a guy considers walking to the left as a completely natural manifestation of the nature of a strong half of humanity. Even if there is no parting, the woman will surely have to endure the fact that her husband is cheating on her.
Psychologist's advice
If in doubt about what to do if the husband cheated on with a girlfriend, experts advise giving yourself time to sort out your feelings. You can move to your parents or go on vacation or put the cheater out of the door. Thus, it will be possible to less painfully survive what happened, and after observing the further actions of the lovers who are revealed, it will be possible to clarify and rethink a lot.
During this time, one can assess what has not happened so far in family life, and what is the underlying reason for what happened. Perhaps the woman who was cheated by her own actions brought disaster upon herself. Correcting errors is never too late. And if you still have to part with your husband, making conclusions for the future is also useful.
Having experienced such a blow from beloved people, psychologists advise not to shut oneself, and seek solace from relatives and those who have confidence. Sometimes, turning to a specialist will not be out of place, since not every woman is able to cope with her feelings in such a situation. There is a risk of prolonged depression.
A common mistake in such cases is cheating on a husband with his friend. It will not become easier from this, but the situation may become more complicated.
How to avoid cheating on spouse with girlfriend
The best way to save family and relationships with friends is not to mix one with the other.
- You should not turn the house into a hotel for friends, relatives and acquaintances who have problems.
- With friends, you can discuss anything but family difficulties. Details of personal life should remain between husband and wife. Then there will be no reason for outsiders to act as a comforter. It can be comforted so that someone “stays with horns”.
- It is best to meet friends outside of their own home, and even if they invite them to visit, then when the husband has left or left on business. If the spouse returns, for a friend this should be a signal that the gatherings are over. Now the mistress of the house is busy with other things. This approach has two advantages at once. The husband will not feel unnecessary in his own house and at the same time he will not have the opportunity to examine his wife’s girlfriend, involuntarily comparing the external data of two women.
- Features of sexual life with a husband should never be the subject of a conversation with friends, even if there are problems in this regard. There are doctors to deal with such issues.
And if there are no problems, then we must remember that happiness loves silence. Do not brag about what you have, and no one will want to take this from you.
- Do not allow a close acquaintance of a friend with her own husband. If you need to solve everyday problems, there are “husbands for an hour”, loaders, plumbers and other specialists who can solve such problems.
- And, of course, no matter how many years pass, it is important to monitor your appearance, develop in your personal plan in order to remain interesting for a loved one, overshadowing all your friends.
About what to do if the husband or boyfriend has changed, see the next video.
