The betrayal and lies of a loved one knock the soil out from under their feet and force them to seek ways to restore justice. There is a desire to inflict a “knockout” on the traitor, making you feel the pain you have experienced. Dip him into the abyss of sleepless nights, tearful pillows, drunk valerian bubbles and endless conversations with girlfriends-psychologists. But any tantrum comes to an end, and evaluating the events of the recent past, you understand that you have shown yourself in an unfavorable light.
Why do beloved men cheat? How to implement the "royal" plan of revenge and how to make the cheater regret what he did?
How to avenge treason and maintain self-esteem?
The social networks and advice of girlfriends from the forum are full of elegant ways of revenge, starting from self-mutilation of your favorite car, glass in socks, a laxative in beer and ending with magic love spells for an unfaithful husband, returning with a drop of blood, a broom or salt purchased in a certain place, at a certain time ...
It is unlikely that a self-respecting woman will begin to perceive such advice as a guide to action, rather, as an ephemeral fantasy of humiliated pride. Often, stories about skillful revenge on an unfaithful spouse remain unfulfilled dreams, and such confessions in forums are a way to tell the whole universe about their misfortune.
Before developing a phased revenge plan, it is worth analyzing your actions and possible retaliatory strikes from the enemy.If, after all, you decide to take active actions, then you should consider the tactics of your behavior and develop an offensive strategy. Connect allies and think out a surrender plan if something suddenly goes wrong.
Leading family psychologists call the reason for this desire a state of passionprovoked by personal circumstances. This is a short-term impulsive action that, unlike a physical or emotional state, cannot be controlled. At the same time, professionals are advised to change the atmosphere, switch to another type of activity, go in for sports, appearance, visit the spa. To do what will help you find personal harmony and make you balanced and happy.
Family debt or why do husbands change?
Men are polygamous in nature, prone to search for new experiences and diversity in intimate life. Even the most faithful family man sometimes turns his head toward a sexy beauty, enjoying her charms. As a rule, men are pushed to treason by household troubles, monotony, habitual measured life. Monotony makes you look for impressions and new emotions on the side, if in the familiar family environment he does not feel happy.
Caring for family and children, constant household chores take away all free time from the spouse. She lacks the strength to engage in herself, and the new passion conquers her with spectacularity, extravagance, carries away into the world of unknown adventures. But the main reason is the monotony of intimate life, the dissatisfaction and constraint of the partner. Few couples can talk heart to heart and find out all about the pitfalls in their bed, and the thirst for new emotions, vivid impressions pushes the man to a new romance.
Only a person who has experienced such emotions can understand the feelings of a deceived woman. The first thing that comes to mind is to throw a grand scandal with beating dishes, slaps and connecting heavy artillery in the form of his mother. There is a desire to punish the missus and his rival in the most sophisticated way. But over time, these feelings are replaced by spiritual emptiness and disappointment. If you manage to cope with the first emotions, you will be able to come up with an exquisite revenge plan, and if you wish, you can return your spouse to your bed.
Royal Revenge Always Serves Cold
Remembering the stories from the lives of your acquaintances or friends, you, of course, understand that spontaneous revenge is from a number of fiction. In order to avenge her husband for treason, scolded honor, the past years and a lot of invented persistent phrases on this subject, and to get out of the water, having saved, self-esteem, you have to come up with a couple of creative ideas.
An ideal plan of "royal" revenge can be created on a cold head, while maintaining an exceptional calculation. Get rid of bored emotions: they are like a malicious burdock that cannot be torn off after a walk through the autumn forest, when the enjoyment of nature is overshadowed by an obsessive desire to get rid of an annoying problem.
The desire to commit an immediate vendetta, to punish the offender, to avenge her mistress is connected with the complexes that a woman acquires in her early childhood or youth under the influence of social conditions, education, environment, relationships with parents. As a rule, girls witnessed the divorce of their parents, their personal problems or the clarification of relationships with the child, which disturbed the psyche and formed established stereotypes about family life.
Battle tactics
Faced with the problem of betrayal, you should accept a completely win-win option: lie low, demonstrate absolute indifference to what happened. This will require patience, overcoming one’s own resentment, anger, bitterness. But, as experience shows, this is one of the most effective ways to show your indifference and sow a grain of doubt in the head of a traitor.
Taking the opposite tactic, many women make an irreparable mistake. The desire to call a partner for a frank conversation, to find out the relationship and find out “what is it better than me”, never change the situation for the better, but, as a rule, exacerbate the situation. Often such actions make a man think that he made the right choice. A certain scheme is being formed that confirms the established opinion that “the wife is scandalous, that means he did the right thing, changed, left, left and did something else ...”.
Try not to leave the slightest reason for such thoughts and statements. Thus, you will force the faithful to be responsible for their actions and be responsible for what is happening. In an attempt to justify himself, a partner can provoke spontaneous and rash acts.
For many women, adultery is a point of no return, but for some reason a man after this needs to feel necessary and mega-valuable for a woman. Attempts to provoke a conflict or cause a storm of emotions is just a way to prove your worth and indispensability. In this difficult period for both, it is important to make a man understand that he is not the center of the universe and the meaning of your existence. Remaining attractive, happy, in demand, demonstrating to a man his independence, you are awarded a technical victory.
Psychologist's advice
But what to do with surging emotions that overshadow common sense, do not allow you to breathe deeply and require retribution? You can make innocuous dirty tricks: change door locks, pay with your spouse card in a jewelry salon or flirt with his close friend. That's it with a loved one, because the information must reach him first hand. If there is an irresistible desire to break a couple of plates or make a fire on the street, throwing your wedding photos into it - do not stop your impulses. Time will pass, and you will buy dishes and order new photos, but the moment when you want to throw out the negative must be satisfied, otherwise it will transform into stress, prolonged depression and chronic ailments.
Social networks can provide indispensable help in a small revenge on their faithful. Go to his page under a false name and start a virtual novel. Leading questions, easy flirting will help to find out the true attitude to life and current circumstances. Learn to read between the lines - this will help to figure out what the missus feels after parting.
Try to surround yourself with positive emotions, do yoga, female Taoist practices, attend master classes and maximize your social circle. This will help to adapt to the situation and create the impression of a confident harmonious personality. The main thing is to highlight life priorities, value time and strive to realize your own ambitions. This is the most exquisite revenge on the man who underestimated your love.
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