Who statistically changes more often: men or women?

In society, it’s more common to discuss male infidelity, relish their details, sometimes expose a man to be a real hero, while female infidelity is not the most popular topic for discussion. A woman who cheated on her husband is condemned by society, and these facts themselves rarely become public property. And therefore the question involuntarily arises - who cheats on partners more often: men or women?

Do not think that the cheaters are mostly men. Women also do not remain in debt. This conclusion was reached by experts of the Daily Telegraph, who refuted all the facts of statistics. They published their own data obtained through a large-scale anonymous opinion poll. Their results showed that 2 out of 5 women at least once cheated on their husbands or chosen ones, while only 3 out of 10 men decided on adultery.

About half of the women who, on condition of anonymity, admitted to treason, reported that this happened at a party, in a club. A quarter admitted that they had (have) an affair with a work colleague, a third admitted that attention from outside men led them into an enthusiastic and playful mood, and 10% of unfaithful wives said that this is their life principle, which is that life should not be spent on monogamy.

Previously, it was believed that mainly women are self-sufficient, working and wealthy. But the latest data from sociologists suggest that cheating on women does not know such a thing as wealth or social status - housewives cheat no less than business women. Up to 90% of traitors admitted that sex on the side helps them to get rid of negative emotional stress.

What women are prone to treason to her husband.

The lady, entering into marriage, had her own ideas about a man, built her expectations and illusions. Family life put everything in its place, and the husband was by no means such a prince, as it seemed in the registry office. A woman who considers herself to be deceived is subconsciously ready to replace her partner. However, she does not always seek to destroy the marriage, because the husband can be a partner who is very convenient and comfortable for living together.

If feelings for the spouse are lost, and the courage to break off the relationship is not enough, or there are other reasons to stay married, the need for tenderness, love feelings, disclosure of one’s sexuality is still preserved. In this case, adultery often becomes a salvation for the female psyche, and often everything ends with a stormy romance on the side and the collapse of an existing marriage.

Especially if their level of education is higher than the level of education of their partner. Sooner or later, a split is planned in such a pair - there is nothing to talk about. A woman strives for personal growth, and her less educated partner only laughs at her, does not approve of her aspirations. A lover who will support personal growth and development becomes not so much a sexual partner as a true friend. Sex is attached to such adultery on a secondary basis.

A woman who does not have time every hour has more time for dating (including on the Internet), for flirting on the side.

The former are still too frivolous, the latter are already wise enough and took a little from each of the previous points - they are educated, disappointed, a little bored of the routine and moderately tired.

These are, as a rule, women who saw their mother change partners, justify her friends, who are easily addicted and change men, as well as women who had rich sexual experience before marriage.

Women do not usually commit adultery for the sake of sex. They want to be desired, loved, they want to be admired without getting it in the family. They want trembling and passionate feelings, rich emotional experience, understanding, communication, they want to catch every word they have, value them.

Men are polygamous in nature. And therefore, it is not worthwhile, in principle, to demand that a man dream and dream in reality. However, there is not only a natural desire to possess a large number of ladies, but also upbringing, religion, principles, personal character traits. And they are the limiting factor. Psychologists distinguish several basic types of men in whom the influence of external factors is not so strong, and therefore betrayal occurs most often in them.

Outwardly, a man is like a man, but in his soul he remains an eternal child, at best a teenager. He is interested in games, is not averse to devoting free time to friends, he often goes in for extreme sports and has a rather respectful attitude towards his wife - like to his mother. The more the wife, given the spouse’s infantility, puts bans, the more this thirty-year or forty-year-old “teenager” riots and is not averse to finding a girlfriend based on interests on the side. But such men are in no hurry to break up a marriage.

This category includes men over 40 years old who married quite early and did not have time to experience all the charms of life before marriage. By the age of 40, understanding comes that if not now, then it is unlikely to ever be. They sincerely believe that the wife will not go anywhere, and therefore light flirting on the side is quite acceptable. He does not dedicate his wife to secrets - he protects her and her nerves.

Such a man has only one true passion - the passion of adventure. He does not know how to live calmly and measuredly, he definitely needs to find an adventure and tickle his nerves. His motto is “Not a day without adrenaline!”. He may be a good husband, but family life quickly bothers, becomes fresh for him. Cheating is needed as a cure for boredom. With all this, he does not look for easy ways and often starts very risky novels - for example, with the girlfriend of his wife or the wife of his friend, so that it is more dangerous and exciting.

Such men have a wife in order to officially show everyone - he is the owner, the winner, but he is in no way dependent on his wife. Moreover, she is his property, and therefore such men, with new victories on the love front, do not hide it from friends and do not even disguise themselves too much in front of their legal wife. In principle, they see nothing wrong with their behavior. But cheating on the part of the spouse will never accept and will not tolerate.

Usually the marriage of such a man has long existed only by habit or by coincidence. There is no passion and love, the wife is not welcome. But a divorce is troublesome, and sometimes even disadvantageous for him and his wife. Therefore, people live, but to call it a family is very difficult. Such a man brightens up the gloom of gray everyday life with an adultery. A man may even have more than one lover, he does not feel guilty about his wife, and therefore he does not disguise himself much, his wife has a lot of guesses, but prefers to remain silent.

Such men are tormented by doubts. The wife is good, but suddenly there are better women on the side? He checks, goes through, but he is too cowardly to claim this as his right, and therefore he lies and twists. In the soul, she hopes that the wife will one day not withstand and will leave herself.

Such men are usually married to very authoritarian and domineering women who even manage to make sex a tool for managing their spouses - they still have to be earned. Treason for them is only the satisfaction of their sexual desires, relaxation. They usually do not leave the family.

The statistics of infidelity in Russia are quite curious, and it may be of interest to both the stronger sex and fair women:

• about 62% of men cheating on their wives prefer to marry married women, only 10% of married men are at risk of having relationships with single girls;
• female infidelities are more permanent - up to 45% of women in marriage have a permanent lover and are not inclined to change him to another, and only 19% of male cheaters can boast of the same constancy;
• up to 75% of men and up to 24% of women systematically cheat on their wives and husbands or at least once cheated on them;
• dissatisfaction with sexual life causes divorce in 9% of men and 13% of women;
• the desire to experience new acute feelings is inherent in 14% of men and 7% of women;
• true new love - 7% of men and more than 25% of women;

• increase in self-esteem, desire to assert oneself - 14% of men and only 4% of women;
• long separation, forced separate residence causes 12% of men and 8% of women to be unfaithful;
• 3% of men and 7% of women “run away” from boredom and routine into a new relationship;
• accidental betrayal is obtained (under the influence of alcohol, at a party, corporate party, etc.) in 14% of men and 7% of women;
• betrayal of revenge against an unfaithful partner is mainly a female reaction: 11% of women and only 0.5% of men do this;
• 30% of men and almost the same number of women often change with colleagues at work;
• women resort more often at the resort - as 34% of traitors said so, while only 19% of men allowed adultery on vacation;
• with neighbors and friends close to the family, up to 10% of women and about 5% of men cheat.

If you rely on statistics, then more often men change, but girls do not stand aside. Everyone is capable of treason, because the circumstances that may push this to happen can be very different.

It is also important that the couple invests in the concept of treason. From the point of view of psychologists, there is no bodily or moral betrayal - there are no half-tones. From the moment when one of the partners allows himself to think about possible relationships with someone on the side, he already becomes a cheater. And such thoughts, even in happy marriages, may occur to partners. This does not mean that they will rush to change. Do not forget about personal experience, the nature of a person, his upbringing and beliefs.

But in families where understanding, mutual assistance, trust prevail, where spouses have common interests and know how to communicate with each other on any topic, infidelity happens much less frequently. Everything is important - the quantity and quality of sex, the presence of common children, common hobbies, a way to spend joint weekends, family traditions and small signs of attention to each other.

About why we are cheated, who are more often - men or women, how to forgive, see the next video.